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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 5
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 26, 2005 - 06:08 pm: | 
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We want this site to be kink friendly and a place where everyone should feel safe and welcome. That's why we have to make some rules clear here at the beginning. Please read these rules carefully and be in full agreement with them before you begin posting.
First of all, this is an adult discussion group. You must be at least 18 years of age in order to be here.
The basic rules of netiquette will apply here. Please be considerate of other posters. We won't allow flaming of any kind. Flaming other posters will result in the flamer being warned first and if necessary, being banned.
Respecting your fellow Den members is important. Please do not send out unsolicited private messages to members you haven't already gotten to know on the board. Once you've posted and had some contact with that person, you might want to contact that person and that's fine. But please don't sign up for membership and then send out "feelers" to members just because their profile looks interesting. We're not a hook-up site! If you get an unsolicted private message (PM) please contact a moderator to report it or hit the "Reply" button to send it back to the Den. I'll get it and look into it for you.
You must keep a valid email address to continue your membership here at the Den. We need that in your profile so we can contact you and you can receive Private Messages from other members. If your email address is invalid, your messages will be bounced back to me and I will then suspend your membership until you contact me with a valid address.
This is a discussion forum for people interested in spanking. This is not a personals site so please don't make a post like you're placing an ad. Sorry, but the atmosphere that sort of post creates isn't what we're aiming for here and it's a concern for people who are here to discuss spanking and are afraid this is a matchmaking service disguised as a discussion forum. Also, please do not post personal information such as email adresses or hometowns. Remember this is a public forum and anyone can read your posts.
Respecting others in our community is very important so please be aware of this when posting. Never post the real name of anyone. We only use online names here. If you don't know someone's online name, then call that person a friend, an acquaintance, or whatever you feel comfortable calling them, but don't use their real name. If you want to talk about an ex-partner, someone you met at a party, or similar circumstance abide by the same rules and do not reveal their real name. Only that person has the right to disclose that information. Don't violate their privacy under any circumstance. The same rules apply to images. Don't post photos of anyone but yourself.
Also, please refrain from posting any image that violates any of our rules. Do not post images that contain nudity, show your most private parts in any way, or show extreme spanking marks. I reserve the right to delete any image that violates this rule. Because I don't have the ability to review images that are hosted on another site, do not post direct links to any image hosting sites.
Disrespect of any form will not be tolerated on this board. That's the bottom line. Drama will not be tolerated either. If you can't play nice, go somewhere else. Offensive material will be immediately deleted.
As far as content is concerned, be very aware of the following rule. Please do not post anything involving anyone under the age of 18. Content refers to anything posted on this forum by the members, both the written word and images as well as your username and profile.
The underage rule includes avatars so please be aware that your avatars cannot feature childlike images. Also, do not post any image that belongs to anyone else. This includes artwork or photos. Please be aware that as an adult site, we can fall under the scrutiny of people outside this lifestyle. An image that you find attractive or appropriate for yourself may not appear that way to others. Do not post images that show genitalia, serious marks, or any other component that could be seen as extreme or not acceptable for public viewing. We are a public forum so please remember that when you post anything. Again, I reserve the right to delete or edit any post I feel violates these rules.
Any stories or discussions that involve characters under the age of 18 will be deleted or edited immediately. Please don't try to get around this rule by making a character 18 but placing that character in a situation that is clearly not that of an adult. Also, "family" spankings no matter the age of the participants are considered non-consensual by nature in that setting and are therefore not allowed, in any context. The same goes for "school" or "prison" spankings, no matter the ages of those involved.
While we are open and accepting to all the different aspects of this lifestyle, age play is something that we cannot allow on this public forum. That includes any references to it or the use of age play terms. This includes the use of parental, familial, and school references in your username or profile. Age play scenes are not acceptable here.
While I understand that some of you may want to reminisce about your childhood experiences, please don't. This is an adult forum and we have to keep all discussions here about adults. Also, someone could use this excuse to get around the over 18 rule. Sorry, but we cannot have any leniency on this one.
This rule includes any discussion of your family members who are under 18. If they are not an adult, do not bring them into the discussion. It's another way some people have tried to get around our age restrictions. I can't allow it in any form here.
Please be aware that all scenes in stories and discussions must fall into the category of safe, sane, and consensual. The topic of consensual activities can be a sticky subject as so many fantasies revolve around non-consensual acts but it's part of the sane, safe, and consensual rules we want to follow here. Coerced spanking situations are considered non-consensual as well. That is, spankings that occur as a result of pressure, threats, or intimidation. We are serious about the safety of our fellow spankos so keep this in mind when you post. We will not allow posts to go unquestioned if we have concerns.
We all have our fantasies, but do us all a favor, and don't pretend your fantasy life is your real life. I have been involved in this lifestyle for many years and I have gained quite a bit of experience so, please, don't insult me and the others here who are being truthful about ourselves, by lying to us. We can usually tell even if we don't call you out on it. I've seen this sort of behavior in many forms in this virtual world and it never ends well. We will accept you no matter your level of experience or whatever your reality is; there is no reason to lie to us. Don't fabricate a life or experience you don't have, it's not worth it.
We'd like this to be a troll-free area. That includes the poster who seems to think discussion groups like this are material for their fantasies. A poster who seems to only post to get responses for their own self-indulgence will be warned, edited, and maybe suspended if the behavior continues.
Speaking of trolls, please no discussions about bestiality.
Also, members who post only to start arguments or criticize others will have their posts deleted without warning. That falls into the "play nice" rule we have here. Don't "hijack" threads; it's disruptive and disrespectful to the members discussing that thread's topic. Please keep the discussions here on topic and remember our focus is on spanking. We don't want to get into arguments about politics, personal religious beliefs, or other topics that don't belong here. Certain discussions (which include religion and politics) have no business on this sort of site. If you feel the need to discuss these things, there are more appropriate places to discuss them.
This is primarily a spanking, domestic discipline, dom/sub, master/slave, bdsm type of forum. That's our target group and that's who we expect to post here.
We want this to be a safe, comfortable place for people to visit. This isn't the easiest lifestyle choice and we all need all the support we can get. If you have any problems please contact a moderator.
You may not create more than one account for yourself so you can create multiple identities on the board. That is deceptive and will not be tolerated! The general rule is one account per member.
About posting links; don't do it. The main reason for this is to avoid people signing up for membership so they can post their affiliate links every chance they get or promote sites using our service. People are here to interact with others in this lifestyle and while you think you might be able to help them by suggesting another site, if it's a commercial site do not post the address or name. If it's non-commercial you can mention the site, but no direct links are allowed.
Also, please do not post to advertise your services or websites or treat this forum as a personals site.
Do not introduce yourself in a manner that resembles a personal ad. The Meet and Greet area is for new members to introduce themselves to the other forum members; it is not the place to solicit for a partner or offer your services. We are not a matchmaking site so don't treat us like one. We're not set up for that sort of thing as this is a public forum and the requirements for registration don't include any type of screening.
Do not use the signature space in your profile for any links or the web address to any site. Also, please pick a username that is not just the name of your site. That is too close to promoting your site and if that's all you're here to do, you'll find that self-promotion will not be tolerated by myself or the other members of this forum. There are a couple of members who use their business name as their username, but they have arrangements with the admin that allow that.
We're here to discuss spanking and relationships will form as people get to know each other but don't spam other members or post just to promote your site or services. We sell ad space and if you're that interested, you can contact Bethie about buying a spot. This forum is a free service so don't abuse it.
Do not post accounts of illegal drug use or any other illegal activities on this forum.
I didn't think I'd have to point this out, but these rules also pertain to usernames. Don't create a username that breaks any of the site rules.
This is a public forum so be aware of that when posting. It can be read by anyone and linked to by anyone. Occasionally Dan or I may quote a post from this forum on one of our other sites as a means to promote this site. We'll never claim to "own" anything published on this site, but since it's available for public reading it's open for linking to and we'll always credit the poster when doing so. Remember this is the world wide web and links are what it's made of. With that in mind, please do not ask me to remove any posts you've made unless there is a legitimate reason, and even then if it breaks the continuity of the thread, we'll only edit the post and leave a marker for explanation. We will not remove your posts just because you've decided to leave the forum so please don't ask.
Be aware that if any post violates site protocol, that post will be deleted as soon as any moderator finds it. Our rules are clear so there shouldn't be any question about what posts violate these rules. There are certain terms we don't want associated with this site so anything that violates our rules must be removed asap.
And lastly, spammers will be banned and their posts deleted. Yay! |
Patty
New member
Username: Patty
Post Number: 1
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 10, 2005 - 02:30 pm: |
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hehehehehehe
"speaking of trolls, please no discussions about bestiality."
shucks.... does that mean no mean alligators and long armed beasts? No humpy bum Bethie's, nor a Spankbosszie? }} |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 109
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 11, 2005 - 03:20 am: |
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LOL Patty! About the time I get that out of my head, here it comes again!
I think Fred needs an alligator so we can change some of those words though.  |
Slavejeni
New member
Username: Slavejeni
Post Number: 7
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 24, 2005 - 10:34 am: |
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Hmmm...
(Message edited by admin on May 24, 2005)
(Message edited by Admin on May 24, 2005) |
Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 4
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 24, 2005 - 11:47 am: |
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Slavejeni, sorry, but I had to edit your post. That subject just isn't open for discussion here. Sorry. |
Metoo
New member
Username: Metoo
Post Number: 1
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 11:25 pm: |
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I have found allot of removed posts by admin. Are there censorship issues here?
It makes it very hard to follow a thread when admin ruins the continuity of a thread. It makes the other posts look stupid.
Maybe I shouldn't ask this...maybe this will be removed too? Sorry....just trying to understand???????????? |
Metoo
New member
Username: Metoo
Post Number: 2
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 07, 2005 - 11:32 pm: |
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Please forgive me for making the above post. I'm very sorry. I got some messages from some members. I said the wrong thing.
I'm very sorry. I didn't mean any harm. I was just asking a question. Please forgive me. I won't ask anything again unles I know it's ok to ask. I'm very sorry. I'm new to this sort of thing. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 226
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 01:39 pm: |
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Metoo, only posts that break the above stated rules get edited and there is always a statement identifying who edited the post. It's not censorship, it's just enforcing the rules. I've made the rules as clear as possible so there's no surprises when a post gets edited. I try very hard not to break the continuity of the thread and I contact the person(s) involved.
The other members have let me know they approve of the rules here and appreciate the effort we've made to make this a comfortable place to be. If you don't like the way we do things here, maybe you should find another site where they do things the way you like. |
Metoo
New member
Username: Metoo
Post Number: 8
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 01:54 pm: |
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I thought it would be alright to ask questions here if I didn't understand something. Most sites allow that. I am very sorry to have offended by asking something I didn't understand about. That's not against the rules to is it? Maybe I read things wrong.
Or can I only ask something if its a question you don't mind answering? I only want to have a good experience on this site is why I ask because I don't want to do something wrong but I also want to understand. So as long as we do not talk about ageplay or bestiality or children we will be ok? Is that what you are saying?
or maybe not everyone is welcome here? Only those who don't ask questions.
I think I understand. Sorry if I don't get it quickly like maybe some do or don't know automatically how things are. |
Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 8
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 08, 2005 - 02:24 pm: |
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Metoo, you didn't ask questions so much as you made accusations about censorship by admin and how it broke threads and "makes the other posts look stupid." We have no problem with questions but posing an attack as a question doesn't qualify as such.
This site isn't a public service that you're entitled to, it's my site and I expect you to respect my rules here the same as I would if you were to come to my house. I make these rules for my guests as well as for myself.
Your negativity seems to be seeping over into the rest of the board where you've upset some other members. Your activity resembles that of a troll so I've suspended your account. I hope you find a place where you'll be happier. Good luck. |
Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 495
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 09:35 am: |
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A bit of the domme showing through, Admin. Good for you, what I like most about this site, is the fact that I don't need to be concerned about being judged. It's a tought job, but someone has to be "in charge" (and isn't that what life is all about around these part)? 
"Queen of Innocence""
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Smartnnaughty
Advanced Spanko
Username: Smartnnaughty
Post Number: 135
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 09:40 am: |
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I love this site and like it just the way it is. Thanks admin for all you do!
Sassy Sassy Sassy
No one can be as Sassy as me!
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Fanny
Advanced Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 500
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 09:49 am: |
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A-HA!!!! I just had to do it. Post number FIVE HUNDRED!!!!! Thanks for all the laughs, guys. I love you all.
"Queen of Innocence""
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Rocco
Advanced Spanko
Username: Rocco
Post Number: 238
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 01:40 pm: |
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Admin/Bethie
Thanks for keeping such a close eye on the site and making sure it is and stays a comfortable place to hang out and make new friends. It's your house and I aplaude you for keeping it clean. Thanks for all you do!
Nothing says I love you like a spanking
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Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 11
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 01:52 pm: |
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Thanks for the support! We're trying to build a community and I appreciate everyone who's helping us do that.
Fanny, you made it to 500! As soon as you post #501 you'll officially be an Advanced Spanko. Sorry, I couldn't change that to something more regal. I considered Spanko Monarch or Superior Spanko but nothing sounded just right. |
Fanny
Supreme Spanko
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 501
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 03:04 pm: |
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Ok, it is done, post number 501.
"Queen of Innocence""
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 196
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2005 - 08:25 pm: |
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Superior spanko...I like the sound of that. Or maybe Spanko supreme?
wolfie loves Steve more than anything else in the whole world...even more than chocolate and lobster!
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Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 16
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2005 - 08:52 pm: |
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I'll bump this up to the top occasionally just so everyone gets a chance to read this! |
Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 32
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2005 - 02:59 am: |
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 Bump! |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 581
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 06, 2006 - 01:03 am: |
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It's time to bump this thread back up to the top again! |
Katie_spades
Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 146
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, January 06, 2006 - 01:58 pm: |
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LOL, I think the site does a great job - there is no reason people should talk about ageplay, their own pay sites unless they pay for advertising, nor to talk just for their own amusement. We're a community and every community needs rules to subsist! It's a place for people to enjoy an open discussion, not to feel like they are being verbally thrashed for their opinions.
Nice job spanking den and congrats to Fanny, a new spanking monarch, LOL!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Pinkwench
New member
Username: Pinkwench
Post Number: 31
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, January 08, 2006 - 03:24 pm: |
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Love your site, glad it's here, yippee if you get rid of the Trolls, especially the one(s) that seem to lurk at Patty's site
Pink Wench
"Pink is my signature color, best expressed as the color of my spanked ass" |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 593
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 09, 2006 - 01:01 pm: |
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Pink, glad you're enjoying yourself here! I think because we're a forum, not a blog (I had the same problem on mine until I tightened up my filters), we don't have that problem here. I think the whole "strength in numbers" thing is what works in our favor here. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 632
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 02:29 am: |
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"This is primarily a spanking, domestic discipline, dom/sub, master/slave, bdsm type of forum. That's our target group and that's who we expect to post here."
I meant it when I said this in the list of rules. Please try to understand that although we won't limit the conversations here to just spanking related topics, some topics don't belong here on this forum. Use the same judgment as you would when discussing anything among casual friends. Topics such as politics, religion, or other highly charged subjects could cause hard feelings or arguments that don't belong here. Respect for other people's feelings is a priority here and some subjects have too much potential for causing us to forget that.
Thank you! |
Spankynyc
New member
Username: Spankynyc
Post Number: 25
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 02:43 am: |
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I agree with Bethie. I used to belong to Shadow Lane but some them became very argumntive. Things like religon,race and the war on politics. I don't mind talking about such things but it usually leads to an arument. And then you have people who just want to argue so they can hear themselves talk. So no matter what clear fact you bring into the discusion they could carel less, they just want to argue. However I do hope sometime in the future Bethie can set up a personnel site so that we can find that special person and go on dates in our own area. Sometimes I feel so alone with this fetish. Take Care, spanky,nyc |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1087
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 09:51 am: |
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Spanky, Im sorry you feel so alone...your such a nice guy and I hope you find that special someone soon! 
I think we're very lucky that the folks here at the Den are so kind and sensitive to each others feelings. We can usually talk things out between us, something very rare in websites from what Ive seen. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 230
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 06:34 pm: |
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Hey quick question - is it okay to use a yahoo group link as your signature as it is a non-pay thing, merely a group? I am asking prior to posting so as not to offend anyone. Hope this is cool but won't do it prior to my knowing if it's cool.
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 634
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 06:44 pm: |
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Katie, if you click on the "Profile" link at the top of this page and then log in, you'll get to a page where you can edit your profile. Under "Additional Personal Information" there is a place for your homepage url. Please use that for your group link.
The signature line is for quotes or sayings that are personal or mean something to you.
Thanks! |
Rosie_bottom
New member
Username: Rosie_bottom
Post Number: 1
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 06:28 pm: |
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Hi everyone, I'm new here but like the look of what I've seen so far, so watch out once I find my way around I'll be poking nose in everywear. |
Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 238
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 03:29 am: |
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Thanks Bethie - that's what I thought but wanted to ask so as not to upset anyone. Hope that was cool. As directed, I added the yahoo group to my profile and may change my signature but will keep it restricted to what you posted. Thankss for informing me! Really appreciated!
I'm sorry, but not as sorry as I'm gonna be.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 911
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 07, 2006 - 01:50 am: |
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New members, please read this thread carefully. Thank you! |
Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 84
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 24, 2007 - 03:52 pm: |
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I just wanted everyone to be clear about the rules here and encourage new members to read these rules very carefully.
Thank you! |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 2036
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 - 02:17 pm: |
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BUMPITTY!!
Paddle Faster!!!! I hear Banjos!!!
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2005
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 12:54 am: |
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Please, please, read these rules before posting!
Thank you! |
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