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Atomicpuppy
New member
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 42
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 01:19 pm: | 
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Maybe some advice here(for me)
Do you think it is a good idea to share all your fantasies with your partner.I mean the ones you want/would like to do with them and no-one else,no matter how kinky?I'm talking about a variety of spanking situations.
Sometimes I find that a quick otk spanking is fun and does the job,but sometimes it's not enough.Same as more severe spankings.
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Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 727
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 01:44 pm: |
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ALL fantasies?
mmmmm....I am not quite sure. Sharing fantasies can be a wonderful turn-on, but I think one has to be careful not to make the other person feel inferior or inadequate...Now with spanking fantasies, I think it would be fun - as long as the other person AGREES that it is fun to share along with you 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Atomicpuppy
New member
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 46
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 02:03 pm: |
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Thanks Pinkcheeks,I agree with that.Maybe not all fantasies should therefore be shared.
How should we decide what is or isn't good and fun without upsetting anyone?I have a bit of a wild imagination and would like to make it more fun for both of us,only hoping not to make her feel inferior,but to enjoy herself and the moment. |
Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 128
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 04:02 pm: |
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I am with Pink Cheeks.
By the way are they really pink recently?
Take care
Nick |
Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 129
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 04:03 pm: |
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I’m with Pink Cheeks.
Hope they are nicely pink today….
Take care
Nick |
Fireman_chris
Spanko
Username: Fireman_chris
Post Number: 136
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 04:19 pm: |
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I think it ultimately comes down to knowing your partner and his/her interests and squicks. For example, there's certain fantasies that I enjoy that I know Sparkle doesn't. We have discussed them in the past, so I did share them with her, but they're not something she's comfortable "acting out" and therefore not something I push.
As you slide down the banisters of life
may the splinters never point the wrong way.
Old Irish Proverb
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1023
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 06:03 pm: |
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I have fantasies that I haven't shared with my husband. This is after all what makes them MY fantasies. Some I just don't want to share with him. |
Subbie
Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 119
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 10, 2006 - 08:15 pm: |
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no I don't share all my fantasies with him and that's alright, I have my priviate day dreams about him and they make me feel good and happy to see him when he comes home from work.
my name says it all
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Nicenick06
Spanko
Username: Nicenick06
Post Number: 137
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, August 12, 2006 - 12:46 am: |
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Can anyone give a for instance on this?
Nick |
Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 733
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, August 12, 2006 - 09:35 am: |
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sorry Nick...fantasies I share with only one guy-(and I am married to him) 
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Buenaventura
Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 122
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 10:09 am: |
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In My Secret Garden the author made the point that men will usually share their fantasies but women learn not to cause guys end up thinking that you,re thinking about somebody else and not them.would be interesting some input on this. |
Subbie
Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 123
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 06:50 pm: |
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there are fantasies and there are fantasies, some are about spankings and sex and others are about making love, the two are different, while spankings are important to me they are not the most important thing in our priviate life, just a part of it.
My fantasies are only about my Hubby, some I keep to myself and most he knows about, but fantasies about another person, no way, just the idea of my being with another person is a big turn off.
my name says it all
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Vixen
New member
Username: Vixen
Post Number: 8
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 08:59 pm: |
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I guess it really would depend upon the personality of the individual and the type of relationship involved.
As far as it goes for me I don't think we would have ever gotten as far as we have if we didn't share them with each other.
It is easy to now, we have been together 7+years,
but in the beginning when I wanted to test the waters, I took a different tact.
I would say hey I read this story about...then relate my fantasy, and see what he thought. We also played alot of 20 questions and Truth or Dare,it was easier to open up that way for us. Not to mention the fact it was a hell of a lot of fun. Then after a year or so when I finally started getting a little more secure it just turned into hey I would like to try this, or I thought this could be fun, or will our insurance cover this if we break it doing???????????? |
Sarahsbrat
New member
Username: Sarahsbrat
Post Number: 47
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 08:03 am: |
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I think fantasies lose a lot when they become realities so I don't share mine very often, not in my home life, not in my writing.
Not just any naughty brat...Sarahsbrat
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Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 735
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 08:30 am: |
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Vixen.... loved the line about the insurance!!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1288
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 09:27 am: |
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My fantasies are my own. I don't share all of them because they are mine and mine alone. They are in a secret place.
You don't have to tell EVERYTHING to your partner.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1030
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 14, 2006 - 09:48 am: |
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That was the point I was trying to make Shylah....
You know what they say.... great minds think alike!! |
Atomicpuppy
Junior Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 66
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 09:44 am: |
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Thanks people for your input.So far I have not shared hardly any fantasies with virtually anyone and I agree with that they are your own and that once you make it a reality the fantasy loses that extra something. |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1054
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 09:54 am: |
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Well said Atomicpuppy that is exactly how I feel!! |
Atomicpuppy
Junior Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 68
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 11:48 am: |
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Thanks Tammy,It's nice to be agreed with sometimes.
I'm still learning,everyday,but then I guess we all are. |
Spkrbryan
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Username: Spkrbryan
Post Number: 6
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 12:01 pm: |
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Dee and I share our fantasies but like Chris and Sparkle we don't act on all of them. Case in point, Dee wanted to switch and be the spanker from time to time, I didn't want to bottom, so we compromised and found her a boy toy, David, whom she spanks on a regular basis. This arrangement worked for both of us and fulfilled her fantasy.
Bryan
If it breathes, Spank it!
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1058
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 04:52 pm: |
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You don't mind her spanking someone?? |
Spkrbryan
New member
Username: Spkrbryan
Post Number: 9
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 07:28 pm: |
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Tammynx,
Not at all, in fact David has become a regular fixture around here on the weekends, and Dee and her g/f Raven do a lot more than just spank the poor boy.
If it breathes, Spank it!
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2623
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 09:17 pm: |
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Bryan you are a randy one!!! Actually, I am almost sorry to admit that all of my fantasies have been fulfilled and more so. No, I am not going to share the details, but I am going to have to start a new list.
Fanny: Enjoying her life in fantasy land.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Fwmc
New member
Username: Fwmc
Post Number: 7
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 23, 2006 - 12:09 pm: |
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My spankee and I have learned over the years to share some of our fantasies. At first we were reluctant. She accidently found out about some of my fantasies (found explicit reading material) and didn't run screaming from the room so we discussed mine and she was interested and willing. That lead to discusssing some of her fantasies and that lead to adjusting our play to accmodate both of us.
Have we shared all our fantasies, no. She claims she doesn't want to give me any more ideas, and I dont want to let her know how weird I truly am.
On the whole it has been a very good thing for us.
Whatever floats your boat, mine floats with paddles.
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 1069
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 23, 2006 - 01:30 pm: |
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I'm not worried about my husband thinking I'm wierd I just don't believe in sharing my fantasies, or sharing very many of them. They are mine and thats what makes them fantasies...keeping them to myself. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1082
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 23, 2006 - 03:06 pm: |
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I don't share every fantasy that pops into my head because that wouldn't be possible. I have a pretty fervent imagination, you see.
My fantasies generally fall into three categories: the ones I can live out with Dan, the ones I'm working on in my head so I can turn them into good stories, and the totally unrealistic ones that don't seem possible to live out for one reason or another (gravity, time, location). But occasionally there's some overlap in those categories. 
I suppose if I wasn't involved with as creative a kinkster as Dan, I'd have more fantasies to live out but with our imaginations, we keep each other pretty busy.  |
Atomicpuppy
Junior Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 72
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 23, 2006 - 03:30 pm: |
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The reason I asked this question,to start with,is that my mind races virtually 24/7 and mostly it's sexual,whether I'm in bed,at work,playing football,etc,but my partner says she has very few.Maybe that's why we make such a good couple,opposites attract.
I've got myself so excited at work,in bed by just thinking that accidents have been very very close.lol.Sometimes I wish these thoughts would just ease off,but then I guess it's me who started it.There just seems to be no off switch,though a good spanking does help.lol again |
Ladygator2904
Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 249
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, August 29, 2006 - 12:03 pm: |
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I shared my fantasies once, hubby and I discussed it and he has been worried ever since. Sometimes it is best to leave it unsaid 
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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