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Nd2bspankd
New member
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 12
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 02:05 pm: | 
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How did you actually get your first requested spanking? How do you...start? We're new to this and have done a lot of "research", if you will, but still feeling a little odd how to actually begin. We're a married couple, have been separated for 6 months (due to his job not marital problems) and he's coming home in 2 weeks. He's happy to do this for me but I'm not sure how to get the ball rolling. Any suggestions? }
Pink Bottom wishes.
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Pinkcheeks
Advanced Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 945
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 03:53 pm: |
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Hi Nd2bspankd 
Just remembering how I got my first spanking makes me blush (and feel tingly all over!). It was a Sunday afternoon - no one at home but the two of us - so we decided it would be the perfect time for romantic play. I had been thinking about (and wishing and wanting) a spanking for MONTHS, but did not have the nerve to tell hubby. Anyway, I decided to put on a pink lacy bra and thong........needless to say, the outfit got things started.
Whenever hubby would rub or touch my bottom, I would moan softly, or tell him how good it felt - then I whispered to him..."Now what would happen if I were a naughty girl?" He laughed and swatted my butt lightly - it was then that I told him how much I liked that.....He continued to spank...I responded, and the rest is history. 
It does take a lot of talking - and although I was embarrassed at first to tell him how much I enjoyed it, doing so was WELL worth it!!
So, my suggestion is to just tell him~~~it might feel a little "odd" at first, but believe me, its the best!
Good luck
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Nd2bspankd
New member
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 14
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 04:20 pm: |
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Thanks Pinkcheeks!
I did finally tell him. Since he has been out of town, it was cowardly but, I did via email. Gave him a little scenario to re-enact via naughty email. He promised me a good warming when he gets home but I guess I'm anxious if a) he'll remember and b) if he'll really do it
I like how you praised your hubby when he touched your bottom...good idea. I'll try that. I think I'm desperate enough now that I'll just scream at him to do it if he doesn't.Guess I'll find out in 2 weeks. Can't tell I'm anticipating it can you? ha ha Time just won't fly by fast enough. Hopefully I'll have lots of suggestions before he returns.
Pink Bottom wishes.
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 739
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 04:33 pm: |
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LOL you're cute hon, I think it's awesome you finally told him! congrats! I think Pink gae some great advice, personally I'm a big fan of just lying across Jake's lap, but I don't think I would have been so brave my first time, so I think Pink's advice is great... just be as naughty as you can be and let us know how it turns out!
xoxo,
Kate
The Princess of Spanking™
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2868
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 04:48 pm: |
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E-mailing is not a cowardly way out, it is actually a good way to tell him what you are thinking and giving him time to digest it. If you are concerned about him forgetting, there are spanking e cards available. You can send him one every couple of days and he will get the hint and will realize that this fetish is not unique to you.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Nd2bspankd
New member
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 16
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 05:14 pm: |
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Thanks, Katie and Fanny. It only took me 16 years to speak up. ha ha (I want out of the closet!) I think once we get the initial one done it will be easier from then on. Break the ice so to speak. I'll be sure to update a true story post. Could you let me know what site has the spanking e-cards? That's a fantastic idea. Thanks again!
Anxiously Waiting....
Pink Bottom wishes.
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 740
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 11:35 pm: |
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Fanny,
That's a GREAT idea! I never even thought of that!
The Princess of Spanking™
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Nd2bspankd
New member
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 17
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 03, 2006 - 11:47 pm: |
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Attention Male Den members:
Do you have any suggestions to jump start our first? I know you all like directness but putting his hand on my bottom myself will take some of the fun out of it. I don't want to have to pull a Krazy Kat and Ignatz stunt with a brick. ha ha
Pink Bottom wishes.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 2870
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, November 04, 2006 - 12:07 am: |
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Just google spanking e-cards and you will get several sites. I don't want to recommend any particular one as they are mostly all good and you can pick the one that suites you best.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Nd2bspankd
New member
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 18
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 04, 2006 - 12:10 am: |
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Thanks, Fanny!
Pink Bottom wishes.
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Wilson
New member
Username: Wilson
Post Number: 5
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 04, 2006 - 09:26 pm: |
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My first was also a Sunday afternoon...
We had a bit of an argument..."Sometimes I'd like to beat your buns" she snapped...and after a few seconds...I snapped back..."Why don't you then ?"
She DID ! 
It open up a great line of communications, and with time we honed spanking into our DD home.
Good spankings are SUPPOSED to hurt !
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Littlelil
New member
Username: Littlelil
Post Number: 4
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 04, 2006 - 10:00 pm: |
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is it for fun or discipline? |
Nd2bspankd
New member
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 28
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 04, 2006 - 10:44 pm: |
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Wilson, that's great! I think all us wives would like to give our men a little smack now and then. I think it's nice that it just evolved for you.
Pink Bottom wishes.
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Wilson
New member
Username: Wilson
Post Number: 6
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, November 05, 2006 - 08:35 am: |
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We use spanking for both dicipline and pleasure.
Sounds like it could be a conflict, but, there is a huge difference it the way it is done.
Whenever I show any form of dis-respect toward my wife, during an arguement or otherwise, She lets me know in a very pointed way and I know that sitting will be very difficult for the next few days !  (a bit more than a little smack!) 
We find we communicate freely when the dreaded event is carried out, both before and after.
This has made a huge difference in our relationship !
Then there are times she lovingly pulls me over her lap, and paddles me just for a turn on...
Good spankings are SUPPOSED to hurt !
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 747
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 05, 2006 - 04:51 pm: |
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Wow, good for you Wilson! That is really great! I'm very happy for you and your wife!
The Princess of Spanking™
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Little_miss
New member
Username: Little_miss
Post Number: 24
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 07, 2006 - 06:33 pm: |
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mine and A's first spanking was quite embarassing...we met at a college party and i had already been curious about spanking for years. He wasn't into it and had never really considered it. After 2 weeks of knowing eachother i started making scenario's and having him participate for fun. He would say stuff to try to turn me on and eventually he just see,ed to get the idea...but once he started spanking me there was no end.lol....i got spanked for everything.
"Lately it just seems to me like we have the letters ADD branded into our mentality"
~Reliant K
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 760
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, November 09, 2006 - 03:25 pm: |
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LOL that's great Little Miss! Good for you and that's so great how you were able to give him scenarios and he caught on. Good for both of you! 
The Princess of Spanking™
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Comehere
New member
Username: Comehere
Post Number: 1
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, November 11, 2006 - 10:59 pm: |
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I just asked my hubby when we were in a big city on vacation. We were lying in bed and I looked up at him and said, "Sometimes I wish you would spank me." His eyes widened and he said he'd try it. Wow! Fun, fun, fun! This was YEARS ago, but we have had many dry spells since then due to family responsibilities, etc. The setting is always erotic (with imagined disciplinary sessions in my head).
I think asking on vacation was a good idea because if either of us didn't like it (if he though it was too freaky or if I didn't enjoy it), we could just leave the whole thing behind when we got back to our regular lives. |
Blushingbride
New member
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 19
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, November 12, 2006 - 12:30 pm: |
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I too mentioned it first on vacation. but for us it was actually our honeymoon. We had a vew discussions about it, but waited until we were home to have our first spanking.
He needed the time to digest what I was asking for, and while I was antsy about it, we had enough going on with our trip to distract me from hounding him too much. |
Nd2bspankd
Junior Spanko
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 71
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Friday, December 15, 2006 - 01:03 pm: |
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Hi All! I'm baaacck! I can now answer my own question. hee hee I strongly suggest having hubby read everything you posted on here before bringing it up to him. Wow! That works wonder! Maybe more than you expect since you could create a monster. I did...and am loving it!
"It's not easy being pink...er, I mean, green."
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Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 1026
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, December 16, 2006 - 07:51 am: |
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Hi Nd2bspankd
I'm glad things worked out for you, hubby, and spanking!! **welcome to the "club"...LOL~~ Glad to have you back too~~
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Ladygator2904
Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 300
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Friday, December 22, 2006 - 09:16 pm: |
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Glad to see you back! am more glad you got what you desired/ needed? 
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Nd2bspankd
Junior Spanko
Username: Nd2bspankd
Post Number: 96
Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Monday, January 01, 2007 - 11:54 pm: |
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Thanks all! Now I know why everyone jumps at the chance for an erotic spanking when the kids are gone. ha ha Hard to time things well. I was so proud of hubby for doing such a thorough job researching and spanking for the first time. He made it so easy for me and now he brings it up more than me! (heaven)
"It's not easy being pink...er, I mean, green."
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Jessy
New member
Username: Jessy
Post Number: 6
Registered: 01-2007
| | Posted on Monday, January 08, 2007 - 10:35 am: |
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Hi
After reading some of the advice on this post.. i decided to be direct and as embarrassing as it may be.. i asked directly if sophia would try it with me. I knew she was alredy interested, having the dominant nature she does, but i didnt expect her to be this keen, and she promises to whip me into shape tonight!  im a little scared, but ill let you know how it goes.. i hope she dosent go too rough on me  |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 1060
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 08, 2007 - 03:17 pm: |
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 Keep us posted!
**PS....You know that old saying......"be careful what you wish for!"
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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