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Spankingcouple
Spanko
Username: Spankingcouple
Post Number: 96
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 28, 2008 - 10:10 am: | 
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Happy thanksgiving,
my wife was given a punishment spanking last night.every thursday or friday around 7pm a demerit spanking is admin. a list of transgressions are recorded during the week and by weeks end a spanking is given. these spankings have been on going for many years. almost always during the spanking my wife has a good cry. after her spanking last night and after she calmed down she was alittle mad at me because she thought the spanking ended way too soon.she wanted a harder and longer spanking. has anyone ever had this happen to them?
thanks,
andy |
Tawseman
Spanko
Username: Tawseman
Post Number: 33
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Friday, November 28, 2008 - 04:35 pm: |
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Hmmmm..........Have you considered upping the force and number of strokes per demerit?
It speaks well for her that she communicates her needs.
But, to answer your question, no, it has not happened to us. We are both pretty good at communicating and reading each others' needs. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3616
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, November 28, 2008 - 05:32 pm: |
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andy, what occured with you has happened at one time or another with most people. Tawseman is more the exception than the rule.
It is really difficult to know exactly what the other person is feeling at any particular moment. What may be enough one time, may be too little or too much at a different time. It helps when you have two people who are good with reading each others needs, but needs can change even within a particular session.
You can think of it with any other type of activity as well. There are times when one member of the couple enjoys a restaurant or film more than the other. Or when one day the food is good and another day not so good, even using the same recipe.
Code phrases work well for me when this happens. I have been with my husband since age 18 (a long time) and even though he reads me very well, at the very best he is still just taking an experienced guess. I have certain phrases that let him know when I really want to continue or I have had enough. They are phrases that have nothing to do the experience, as tears, pleads etc. don't necessarily mean what they sound like. This way, I can easily give him an indication of what I truly need at that moment. It takes a lot of the guess work out of spanking and leaves us both satisfied when all in done.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Atomicpuppy
Advanced Spanko
Username: Atomicpuppy
Post Number: 201
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, November 30, 2008 - 10:26 am: |
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Well, I don't think you will get much better advice than that of the above. Fanny I think that was spot on, probably some of the best advice I've seen in a long time.
Something that we all need to do....communication.
My Wife and I communicate very well, but everything can always be improved. |
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