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Midnytedreams
Spanko
Username: Midnytedreams
Post Number: 77
Registered: 05-2007
| | Posted on Saturday, April 18, 2009 - 06:17 am: | 
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there must come a point in a long term relationship that no matter how much disipline is given, the body doesnt react with endorphins from the pain as it did in the beginning, an example a long distance runner it takes longer to "hit the wall" with more experience. In a long term relationship I know trust builds and the sub wants to venture deeper in her submission,hard limits melt to soft, So is it all trust or does
the sub crave the same rush of endorphins they recieved in the beginning. |
Kaymac
New member
Username: Kaymac
Post Number: 2
Registered: 04-2010
| | Posted on Friday, April 30, 2010 - 05:41 am: |
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I've only really been in one long term relationship with a spanking partner and we did find over time that her limits fell, as is always the case as the body builds up tolerance etc.
Toward the end of our relationship there were times when she would crave the same rush that my earlier spankings had given her - in which case I would spank her that bit harder in order to achieve this.
This involved her trusting me in knowing her body, state of mind etc from her reactions and movements, which we developed through the years we were together. |
Oftenred
Spanko
Username: Oftenred
Post Number: 84
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Saturday, May 01, 2010 - 04:36 pm: |
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I agree that I have built up some tolerance for spanking over the years. I find that I need a longer/harder spanking to get to the same level. But I don't think I will ever reach the level where I cannot be spanked enough to reach where I want to be. |
Rosycheeks
New member
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 7
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, May 20, 2010 - 10:49 pm: |
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I find that I have lost the "edge" I felt when I started with spanking-what I mean is that butterflies in the stomack feeling before I got my spanking-I miss it, but as far as the experience of the spanking itself, that tends to differ from one to the other. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 308
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 27, 2010 - 07:40 am: |
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The newness is not the same but as with our sex life, it's what comes before that still helps make for a great time, same with spankings, it's the lead up, like as we leave for work, he tells me your in for it tonight bitch, and I get to think about that all day..or he might tell me he is going to the bar tonight, which means the bar in our game room and we can do some role play....
my name says it all
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Boomer
Spanko
Username: Boomer
Post Number: 73
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, May 29, 2010 - 11:47 am: |
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Midnyte, I've experienced that myself. My wife is quite adept at spanking me and we have a variety of implements. Lately I have found it takes more and more for me to react the way I want and need. She would build-up the spanking in severity and by the time it was over, it was anticlimatic. My bottom was like a hard leather and I wasn't feeling much of it no matter what implement she was using. So, we switched tactics. She now starts the spanking hard and fast with her favorite wooden paddle - no breaks to rub. Now that did the trick and she knew it. I bounced all over her lap yowling. First time I ever came close to using a safe word. Now that's how a good spanking ought to be! |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 113
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, May 29, 2010 - 09:42 pm: |
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Nice one Boomer!
I have to say that my spankings of late have not made quite the impression they used to. I mean they still hurt but there is hardly any colour and no marking. As they've not happpened much lately because of various reasons (noise being one of them!) she gave me 40 with dowel yesterday morning and boy did that hurt. I didn't check my bum until about 15 mins later but no evidence what so ever.
So I guess I have to agree with Boomer and just go straight into it. Whacko!
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Boomer
Spanko
Username: Boomer
Post Number: 76
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, May 30, 2010 - 08:50 am: |
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Yorkie, we have a couple of Rattan canes and those hurt like a mother! The advantage as you mentioned is that it provides maximux sensation with minimal noise - except of course your cries of protest. |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 116
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, May 30, 2010 - 04:10 pm: |
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I haven't got to that stage of making any noise yet but that last spanking I got with the dowel (and maybe alittle the time before that), I was saying a few quiet oohs and ows. My wife usually gives the strokes/swats in batches of twenty unless I say otherwise and after each lot of twenty I gave out a loud sigh of relief and appreciation. I don't want to make to much noise as it might scare her! I guess I'll work up to it and do what I can to assure her that it's ok lol!
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Rosycheeks
Spanko
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 17
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 01, 2010 - 12:20 pm: |
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Yorkie, I recently tried the bunjie chord -someone else in here suggested it in their toys list, it's virtually silent but man it packs one heck of a owe factor!I doubt you will be just uttering a few oo's and ah's if you tried that. |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 117
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 01, 2010 - 04:07 pm: |
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Might try that later. Much later.... 
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Need2bspanked
New member
Username: Need2bspanked
Post Number: 10
Registered: 06-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, June 27, 2010 - 10:35 am: |
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I am with Kaymac. I've been with my disciplinarian for several years, and there is definitely a level of trust that has been built and established between us. At times, he will have to spank me harder to achieve the desired result, and that definitely takes trust. |
Rosycheeks
Spanko
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 24
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 06, 2010 - 10:10 pm: |
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Has anyone tried "fasting" ie. not getting spanked for a set time for example- one month- and setting the date for the spanking in advance with a full scenario preset?It might help to build the anticipation-Also to soften up the skin on the bottom with vitamine E cream durring that time may help raise the sensitivity receptors.May be worth a try! |
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