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Tln
New member
Username: Tln
Post Number: 1
Registered: 09-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, September 10, 2009 - 02:11 pm: | 
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I had my first spanking in 25 years of marriage; from my husband. Didn't know who to share it with. Thought you guys might understand how happy I am. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3680
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 10, 2009 - 09:41 pm: |
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Hello and welcome. Please feel free to share all you feel comfortable with in our discussion area.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 246
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, September 10, 2009 - 10:01 pm: |
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Hi, nice to see you, tell us more..
my name says it all
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Tln
New member
Username: Tln
Post Number: 2
Registered: 09-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, September 12, 2009 - 03:12 am: |
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Hi again. Hubby and I have been together for 25 years. Our sex life has always been very important in our relationship and it has been very good and satisfying for both of us, though I have always kept my spanking desires hidden from him. 5 years ago our sex life stopped. My husbands daughter from a previous marriage died. He became ill and had to start on medications. As a result of this both his sex drive and ability to hold an erection went away. I left him alone, respecting his depression, but probably for too long. Eventually we drifted apart and I finally told him I couldn't live like this any longer and was considering a divorce. We had planned a holiday with some friends, went on it and told no one of our situation. He was very unhappy - I know he loves me very much, but I just felt as if I was dying inside. The second night of our holiday he came to my bed and I welcomed him. We ended up making love for two hours - no cock involved - or needed. He has always been able to give me lots of orgasms in many different ways and has always enjoyed playing with my body. We ended up having sex every day - many orgasms for me and it was as if my sexuality had returned stronger than ever. Our sex life carried on as we returned home and a month later I talked about my desire to be spanked. Just flat hand and over the knee.
He was quite upset I had never told him and I could see his mind ticking over. He started out with a few light hearted smacks on my bare ass and pussy during sex. Much to my delight. One afternoon during sex he suddenly said: "We better do this properly." He told me to get over his knee and I got my first flat hand spanking. In between smacks he was playing with my pussy, which was soaking wet by now. I was just lost to the world, whimpering, and I had the best orgasms ever. I was soooo relaxed and happy afterwards and hubby was grinning from ear to ear for hours.
I dont know where this spanking thing is going or if we will ge into more severe spanking - I doubt it. I have no need to be punished or kept in line. But we will have to see. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3681
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 12, 2009 - 11:48 am: |
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First, condolances over the loss of step-daughter. An event like that is always going to be difficult to deal with and needs a lot of time and patience.
Glad to read about your success so far in the sex play world. It sounds as if you chose the right time time to talk about it. Take is slowly but let him know how much you enjoy it. After being married for a long time, it is important to bring some nice spice into the relationship and spanking just may be the answer. There doesn't need to be a reason to be punished and a great many of us here, don't really get into discipline. At times though, it can be a great tension release when we are giving ourselves a hard time over a decision or action and many like the idea of giving themselves a release by being held accountable. Others like to play with mock discipline.
There is no set way to do this. Experiment and have a good time playing and see what is enjoyable for both of you. You may even want to try role playing for ideas. Many people stay with erotic spankings only, and it can be a fun way to get the blood flowing.
(Message edited by fanny on September 13, 2009)
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Tln
New member
Username: Tln
Post Number: 3
Registered: 09-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, September 12, 2009 - 02:09 pm: |
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Thanks for the advice, Fanny. I can use all the advice I can get as this a completely new world to me. I suppose I especially have to be careful of how much and how often I can ask him to spank me. Role playing sounds like a lot of fun. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 248
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, September 13, 2009 - 09:12 am: |
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Sorry to hear that your husbands daughter passed, that has to be so hard. children are supposed to out live their parents. wish peace for you both.
As far as spankings go, it is what ever works for you. we have pre sex spankings, some role play and that is fun, got some "keeping you in line" spankings too.
His adult daughter moved back home and it was supposed to be for a month or too, but turned out to be much longer and that put a crimp in our spanking life as well as general married life, but now we are working on getting it back.
Our favoriate toys are different sized paddles, bath brush, belt or strap. just remembr, paractice makes perfect  ..
my name says it all
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Tln
New member
Username: Tln
Post Number: 4
Registered: 09-2009
| | Posted on Monday, September 14, 2009 - 01:21 am: |
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Hi and thanks for your thoughtful reply, Subbie. I can totally relate to how having older kids in the house can put a restraint on your sex life. Both my husbands two adult sons have lived with us for a year each when they were teen-agers. We also have a 16-year old son and I know for sure I am not nearly as loud when he is in the house. Thank goodness - being an OR-nurse - I have whole days of work and we can have sex in the daytime. I am sure being paddled or hand-cuffed or whatever would make me even more aware of the noice level and risk of leaving toys around the house. So I will stick to the flat hand for now  and practice, practice, practice. |
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