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Rudeaberry
Spanko
Username: Rudeaberry
Post Number: 20
Registered: 01-2011
| | Posted on Saturday, June 04, 2011 - 12:59 pm: | 
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Why does a gentleman like to spank a consenting lady? There are as many answers as there are dominant males in the world, but one common factor is surely abundant admiration for the tail-end of the female form. Three examples from the world of popular entertainment help to illustrate the point.
During a bikini contest the loudest cheer is often heard when the line-up of competitors turn their backs to the audience. (Some women complain about the "cattle-market" element of this, but the welcome for the display of "rump meat" is unmistakable.)
Likewise, some striptease clubs feature a downstairs lounge. In this area gentlemen can observe pole-dancers performing directly above them, and the "bottom-up" view is popular with patrons who delight in displays of the female derriere.
The third example involves scantily-clad round-card girls who enter the ring every three minutes during a professional boxing promotion. Male spectators seated behind the lovely ladies whistle and cheer as they squeeze their exquisite asses between the ropes.
So, the shape and presentation of a lady's beautiful bottom appeals greatly to many gentlemen. For some, the pleasure of positioning that willing posterior for spanking purposes is a logical next step. |
Mbottom
Spanko
Username: Mbottom
Post Number: 33
Registered: 04-2011
| | Posted on Monday, June 06, 2011 - 07:50 am: |
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Ok, since I am a bottom, I have always wondered about this question....I do understand the beautiful form of looking at the behind, but what makes you want to strike it? & what makes it ok for u to cause pain to the lovely lady taking the spanking? I know why I need/like it, but don't understand & sometimes question why you Tops wanna (& or ok) with causing us pain?? |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 33
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 08, 2011 - 11:20 am: |
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Mbottom:
Can't generalize about all tops. We cover the spectrum. Speaking for myself, I enjoy spanking a woman because it turns her on, the exploration of the border of intense pleasure and mild pain. I love to touch a woman's bottom, and it is kind of fun to be dominant in a playacting scenario. Do I enjoy administering pain, per se? No. I would never ever strike a woman in anger, and I think men who do this are creeps.
But that's me---there are men who enjoy giving real pain, the more the better. My guess is that most of the men posting on this website do not fall into this category. There are more explicit websites catering to the true psychopathic sadists. Spanking is pretty mild stuff compared to a lot of what is out there. |
Rudeaberry
Spanko
Username: Rudeaberry
Post Number: 22
Registered: 01-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 08, 2011 - 02:54 pm: |
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Spanking is a huge turn-on. As part of erotic role-play it enables a gentleman to elicit a wonderful response from the lady over his knee.
Her bottom is an erogenous zone. But the key muscles are buried deep within her generously-padded posterior. So the spanking needs to be firm in order to activate her arousal buttons. It's inevitable that pain is inflicted - but only as a means of producing pleasure for both parties.
There's also the fact that, when a bare-bottomed lady squirms in the OTK position, her most intimate parts rub against the gentleman's knee. Some ladies derive enormous pleasure from friction of this kind. |
Mbottom
Spanko
Username: Mbottom
Post Number: 34
Registered: 04-2011
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2011 - 08:26 am: |
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Warmpalm.....No, I dont think anyone here is abusive in any way.....we are all here because we enjoy and concent to spankings.
Let me go at this a different way.....in the thread of Penalty Strokes, it was discussed how Tops deal with their Bottoms moving from position....These Bottoms are moving from position due to the pain in their hind ends, yes?? I know that is why I do it....I can deal with a lot of pain, as I have had 2 children (lol), but sometimes spanking is not just mild, if it was, I wouldnt wince as the paddle hits or try to crawl off the bed...Of course Im not being beaten....but there is pain involved....My question was, because so many men have problems administering a spanking due to not wanting to hurt their partner, what turns you Tops on while doing it?? I know my partner says he enjoys watching me try to crawl away & the sounds I make while dealing with the 'pain'....If thats even the right word...Dont get me wrong, it hurts like hell sometimes, but for some reason while my mind is saying OMG STOP, my body is dripping & swollen....So again, its much easier for me to understand my side of things, just always wonder what you Tops are getting from the experience...
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Zippo
Prime Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1771
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 09, 2011 - 05:57 pm: |
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Interesting responses...My interest in spanking isn't as much about the mechanics of a spanking as it is the power exchange involved. Whether the bottom considers herself submissive or just likes to submit to a spanking for whatever reason, there is a point where she relinquishes control over herself and places it in the hands of the Top/Dom. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy a nice spankable bottom over my knee, but before I ever begin with the spanking, I like to get her in the correct mindset. which can vary on the nature of why a spanking is being administered, erotic, stress relief, discipline. Her acceptance of a spanking from me, signals that submission. I do not spank to the point of risking injury, or try to push the spankee too far past her tolerance level, and always operate with a safe word in place. Its not so much that I enjoy causing pain, rather I do enjoy seeing what she is willing to endure.
I think spankings are very therapeutic on many levels, they are cleansing, can relieve stress, act as a form of contrition and help keep you grounded and focused.
Yes there are sadists out there, I'm reluctant to use the word psychopathic, as I don't feel that term accurately describes sadism. They merely carry the giving of pain to more of an extreme. As long as it's consensual, I wont judge their choice.
(Message edited by zippo on June 09, 2011)
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Jena
New member
Username: Jena
Post Number: 7
Registered: 06-2011
| | Posted on Thursday, July 07, 2011 - 02:52 pm: |
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I have been thinking about the appeal. I believe it takes courage and strength to hand your ass to someone to do as they wish. It is very erotic to let go of control and to trust someone. The pain and fear are also intense feelings that effect on a brain chemestry. It's gatting hot in here agan. |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 60
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Friday, July 08, 2011 - 12:13 pm: |
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You're right about this, I think, Jena. Absolute and continuous "equality" in the bedroom would be kind of dull. I don't mean equality as to rights or privileges, but the sexual dynamics. To surrender can be very erotic. I like to switch occasionally, so I think I understand this. "Power exchange" is a good way to put it.
And yes, brian chemistry absolutely enters into it.
How is the self-spanking regimen proceeding? |
Jena
New member
Username: Jena
Post Number: 8
Registered: 06-2011
| | Posted on Friday, July 08, 2011 - 07:56 pm: |
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I may have found a spanking friend. We are going to meet for coffee tomorrow afternoon. If I like him we will schedule an ass spanking. I think I will get to spank too! I will report how coffee goes. I will continue SS for now. The hairbrush is my new favorite. Lot of sting and no bruises. |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 61
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Saturday, July 09, 2011 - 10:19 am: |
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Well....tread carefully, sweetie. You might not get bruises from a self-imposed hairbrush spanking. But you sure as shootin' could get bruises from a hairbrush spanking administered by a partner.
For your first session, why not start with hand spanking only? If this is indeed your first-ever spanking as an adult, you can't really know your limits. A hand spanking can sting very nicely, and I guarantee you you won't feel shortchanged. But it would be awful if you found out too late that you were in way over your head, and the hairbrush might get you to that point a lot sooner than you'd imagine.
If the guy's a good guy, he'll agree to starting at a moderate level. If he insists on using every toy in his kitbag straight away, you should politely tell him you need to reconsider---and get away. You're asking for big trouble otherwise.
Start slowly. There's no hurry. You can accelerate up to hairbrush level a little down the road, if the first meeting goes well and you've established a foundation of trust.
I only wish I could initiate you, Jena! But I wish you well. |
Winggoddess
New member
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 6
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Thursday, September 22, 2011 - 06:55 pm: |
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Mmm-hmmm. This information could be helpful in convincing my husband to spank me. I've asked him to dominate me. Perhaps, if I am more submissive, and obey him, even if I don't want to, he will reconsider raising a hand to my behind. On a side note, I don't really enjoy self spanking... But maybe there is thread about that somewhere that I can learn more about. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3824
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2011 - 11:58 am: |
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My suggestion is to read what everyone else is writing, but it is up to YOU on what your wants and needs are. Go at the pace you are most comfortable with.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Winggoddess
New member
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 8
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2011 - 04:02 pm: |
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Thanks Fanny! There really is a lot of good insight and discussions here. I'll keep on reading through. |
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