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Chuck
Spanko
Username: Chuck
Post Number: 28
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 26, 2010 - 09:46 am: | 
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Crying and Spanking
I recently saw a video where the woman being spanked was really crying and it lasted for several minutes. I do not mean “Ouch OH Stop or yelling but a real heartfelt crying. Does anyone out there really cry when being spanked?
There are a lot of old posts from 2005, 2006 , 2007 that discuss crying.
I have spanked a number of grown women good and hard and have never had her break down and cry/sob. I am not sure how I would handle it if she did. At the conclusion of a spanking I have had women with faces redder than their bottom, eyes full of tears and in need of a tissue for their nose but no crying. Most woman have experienced a lot worse pain than one of my spanking. For me and my taste the actual hitting her on the butt is an essential part of a spanking but only a part of the process. It should hurt/extreme discomfort but not to the point of causing her to cry.
Everyone is different with different needs and expectations so I am asking what you think about crying before, during or after a spanking? |
Rosycheeks
Spanko
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 42
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 26, 2010 - 02:29 pm: |
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From what I've read and what some have posted either as real or fantasy spankings-some women need the release of crying but are reluctant to let it out. The crying from a spanking is their way of releasing pent up emotions. Personally I have not cried from a spanking and would not be happy if I did. |
Spankingmentor
New member
Username: Spankingmentor
Post Number: 6
Registered: 09-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 26, 2010 - 08:27 pm: |
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Interesting topic, Chuck.
In my experience as a spanker, I have learned that crying doesn't primarily happen because of the physical aspects of the spanking. The emotional aspect and level of remorse plays a major role in whether or not the tears start to flow. Sometimes physical pain is much more easy for a spankee to endure than the emotional pain. And that's what usually generates the tears - the emotional pain/remorse. A lot of my spankees have expressed that knowing they have disappointed me is what makes them cry, and that it's harder to deal with than the actual spanking itself.
I've spanked ladies who cried before the spanking even started; others didn't cry at all. But the fact of the matter is, the discipline was effective, with or without crying.
You were absolutely right that everyone is different and have different needs. However, in conclusion, crying is substantially beneficial, but not always necessary. |
4pinkcheeks
Spanko
Username: 4pinkcheeks
Post Number: 28
Registered: 10-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, October 31, 2010 - 12:36 pm: |
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I'm often in tears by the midpoint of my spankings, and sobbing by the end. It's less a response to the pain than a catharsis, an emotional release.
Stay Pink! Love, Paula 
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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 358
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, November 05, 2010 - 08:00 pm: |
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There has been a few times I did cry from the pain, seems the spanking was for real discipline.
my name says it all
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Pink_cheeksxo
New member
Username: Pink_cheeksxo
Post Number: 1
Registered: 11-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, November 18, 2010 - 11:56 pm: |
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I actually like crying from a spanking. It is an emotional release that I crave. For a long time at the beginning of my spanking relationship, I felt empty after a punishment spanking because my hubby would stop long before I would cry. He didn't want to hurt me, and I understood that, but my tears weren't so much from the pain but from understanding that my actions were not acceptable and I needed to behave more properly.
ps .. im new here |
Hapzoid
New member
Username: Hapzoid
Post Number: 3
Registered: 06-2007
| | Posted on Sunday, March 27, 2011 - 07:42 pm: |
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 I haven't cried from a spanking. I scream(into a pillow)from the pain. I get the release,but I'd like the sobbing and tears to come.
Don't thank me...SPANK ME!
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Jeannie
Spanko
Username: Jeannie
Post Number: 17
Registered: 10-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 30, 2011 - 06:42 pm: |
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I have cried while being spanked but only seem to cry when I am being spanked for something serious I have done wrong and am sorry for it !
Usually, even when being spanked for minor discipline or a maintenance spanking I become aroused after the first few strokes. |
Buttpain
New member
Username: Buttpain
Post Number: 6
Registered: 05-2012
| | Posted on Monday, May 14, 2012 - 04:23 pm: |
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Crying is difficult in adult spankees but much treasured by both parties when it does occur. Crying is THE goal in most RL spankings so it adds much realism to adult ones. It serves as a sort of "climax" to the spanking, similar to the orgasm in sex - one knows it has been successful when it occurs. Many women see it as a great stress reliever as well. The emotions experienced when getting a good lickin' are as important as the pain. |
Zippo
Prime Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1926
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 14, 2012 - 07:34 pm: |
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I would exercise caution when stating THE goal of spanking is ... The problem with an inclusive statement such as that, for some crying may not be the goal, and they may get the impression they are doing something wrong. There is room in the lifestyle for many different formats and dynamics to the relationship. It is an individual decision that comes from good communication with their partner.
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Caridee
Spanko
Username: Caridee
Post Number: 26
Registered: 08-2007
| | Posted on Friday, July 20, 2012 - 05:04 am: |
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Sometimes I really want to cry when I receive a hard spanking. For me crying belongs to a good spanking. It happens also sometimes that just for the sake I cry harder than I really would need to. Same is kicking with the legs while being over then knees and sometimes I even do a spanking dans rubbing my butt afterwards. And I know my hubby likes when I do that. |
Ispanx
Spanko
Username: Ispanx
Post Number: 26
Registered: 09-2012
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 21, 2013 - 02:33 pm: |
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I don't spank my ladies really hard, but I do know how get a lot of sting.
I also talk to the ladies in a manner that adds to their embarassment and humiliation.
If I am just spanking with the hand I will usually get a little sniviling. But it's generally more from the frustration of loss of control and a little attitude adjustment.
If I'm teaching a lesson with a paddle, I get some kicks and screams, sometimes some tears. But will usually stop soon after the temper is in check. |
Frankb
New member
Username: Frankb
Post Number: 7
Registered: 02-2016
| | Posted on Tuesday, March 01, 2016 - 03:52 pm: |
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when I was always spanked not just until I cried, but while I cried. now I have to cry to get off |
Rogerfederrer
New member
Username: Rogerfederrer
Post Number: 1
Registered: 05-2016
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2016 - 06:27 pm: |
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I am a 21 year old college student(male)who still gets a bare bottom spanking from his Mother. She puts me over her knee, pulls my pants and underpants down and spanks me long and hard with a wooden bath brush. It hurts so much I cry like a 6 year old, I can't help it. I also kick my bare feet in the air like a girl, squirm like an eel on her lap and beg and plead before and during the spanking. No role playing here, this is for real. Tom |
Subwife92
New member
Username: Subwife92
Post Number: 2
Registered: 01-2017
| | Posted on Thursday, January 05, 2017 - 07:40 am: |
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I am spanked regularly and sometimes I cry and sometimes I don't. I only truly breakdown if I have a lot of guilt for what misdeed I have done. My husband is very good at ignoring the tears and finishing a thorough whipping as needed. I cry almost every spanking but it's from the sting of the spanking not a true breakdown sob. |
Jgh1957
New member
Username: Jgh1957
Post Number: 1
Registered: 02-2018
| | Posted on Sunday, February 04, 2018 - 02:56 pm: |
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I never cried from a spanking until a few years ago. My wife and I were traveling across country. We were about a day from home and I was exhausted. We had a little round oak paddle with us. My wife had me bend over a desk in the motel room and preceded to paddle my bare butt hard. All of a sudden I had real tears in my eyes. Since then she can pretty much get tears when she wants. She's been spanking me since before we married 35 years ago. |
Maxsey
New member
Username: Maxsey
Post Number: 5
Registered: 01-2014
| | Posted on Sunday, March 11, 2018 - 07:22 pm: |
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I think a submissive needs to have a lot of trust in their spanker before they will let themselves be vulnerable enough to let go of their emotions. Takes time to build that kind of trust.
Max |
Slip_lover
New member
Username: Slip_lover
Post Number: 3
Registered: 12-2018
| | Posted on Friday, December 07, 2018 - 03:24 am: |
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In the DD circles they say that crying is a necessary part of the spanking process. The HOH lectures the spankee before and during the spanking and that seems to be the key....lecturing you make the spankee feel remorseful about the rule they broke and somehow the emotional state makes them feel even more guilty (?) And as the spanking takes its course most of the women seem to cry during the spanking. It doesn't let them off easier the spanker seems to know when they are truly repettant about making amends for the rule they broke. What's amazing is the spankings are very real and painful. You see posts about belts, straps, paddles and even caines being used. |
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