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Blulizrdboots
Junior Spanko
Username: Blulizrdboots
Post Number: 60
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, April 21, 2006 - 11:58 pm: | 
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okay.. i know i'm not a jinx.. but right now that's really how i feel.
see i started going to this other chat room and one of the people there... really nice.. very sweet.. passed on yesterday.
the reason i feel like a jinx is because the one chat room (a different one) i've been going to (started going in nov.) a slightly older person died that following feb. my thing is that is seems each time i start going to a new chat room... someone... well dies. I know that's not true.
but now i feel like crying.. but don't feel like it. i feel like i shouldn't because i didn't know the girl that well.. but that i should because i did know her.
i dunno.
(Message edited by bethie on April 24, 2006) |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1556
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 01:01 pm: |
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Blu, your not a jinx, and never have been. For all you know that boy had been sick for months, and his body just gave up the fight. Its terribly sad, but not your fault.
Death in people's lives usually comes in cycles. I doubt this will happen to you again, but if it does it had nothing to do with you. Cry for your friend if you need to, grief is a natural way of saying goodbye. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Chrissiebrat
New member
Username: Chrissiebrat
Post Number: 11
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 02:34 pm: |
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Blu, you certainly are no jinx. Don't blame yourself for things on which you have absolutely no influence. I did the same in the past, but have recently learnt to look at things in a more realistic, less pessimistic way - and that's really a good feeling.
Think of all the chat rooms you've been going to (I am sure there have been more than two) and nothing has happened.
Cry, if you feel sad; tears are a great help and I am sure they will take away some of your bad feelings. |
Changeling
New member
Username: Changeling
Post Number: 17
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 03:34 pm: |
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Blu,
It's part of the great circle of life and NOT your fault.
My biggest fear is that my 'same time next year'
sub (who had quad bypass surgery at 50 and is now 60) will have 'The Big One' while he's draped over my knee receiving a good caning. Well, he'll go with a smile!! I will check out of the hotel in a hurry and catch the first plane smoking East |
Gypsygirl
Junior Spanko
Username: Gypsygirl
Post Number: 52
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 03:46 pm: |
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Sometimes the coincidences of life seem as though they are all channelled in one direction and it's certainly not unusual for you to be affected by this happening twice. A lot of people would be bound to ask 'what are the chances of things like this happening?' but it does happen, it's one of those things that life throws at us and we have to prove that we are strong enough to carry on.
I have known 4 people who have committed suicide, one of them a very close friend of mine and another one of my friends sister and brother both did it as well. It was terribly upsetting because with my close friend I always felt as though there was something that I could have done, someway that I could have helped her but she kept us all locked out and planned it very carefully so no one could get to her in time. It affected me deeply for a long, long time. At the time I did wonder about the probabilities of someone knowing what must be a high percentage of people who decided to kill themselves but at no point did I think that I was jinxed or had any sort of inner 'calling' to people who had these tendencies.
I still sometimes dream of my friend and I wake up very sad and on the point of tears, but I now try to remember the laughs we had together. It's normal to want to cry at a time like this, and until your soul mends itself, you may find yourself overcome suddenly by bouts of sadness. Accept them, use them to release your anxieties, I know that it is a very trite saying, but time is a great healer. |
Blulizrdboots
Junior Spanko
Username: Blulizrdboots
Post Number: 61
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 02, 2006 - 01:04 am: |
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Hello everyone,
Sorry that it's taken me awhile to respond. Actually to tell the truth, I did try to awhile back, but there was a sort of misunderstanding that had to be cleared up.
Anyways. Thankyou to everyone that responded your posts where very much appeciated.
Wolfie: Ian had died in his sleep from an HIV infected disease. And the girl who died recently, I found out had had health problems.
Crissie: I have, in fact only been going to two chatrooms. The first I've been attending for almost 13 yrs (sounds kinda sad huh?) that's were Ian died. The second I hadn't been going as long, only a few months (which was why I had/have been curious about why I felt the way I had)
Gypsy: I was sorry to hear that. I've been lucky enough to never encounter that, and before Ian died the only person I've ever know really to die was my grandfather.
Thank you all again. I really appreciated it.
~Blu~ |
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