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Aza
New member
Username: Aza
Post Number: 1
Registered: 09-2012
| | Posted on Monday, September 10, 2012 - 12:39 pm: | 
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Hi, i just registered and wanted to say hi. I am 40 years old and just asked for a spanking from my husband. We are new to this kind of play, and i have been reading posts here to get more informed. We do only erotic spankings and not as much as i want at that. I am hoping that my husband will get used to the idea as we go along. He is turned of by me being "submissive". I am trying to explain it to him that i am the one making the rules here, by wanting a to play and telling him how to. I am hoping he will see that it won't change our dynamic to incorporate spanking into our lives. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 4020
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, September 10, 2012 - 02:25 pm: |
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Welcome to the Den, Aza.
One question though, regarding your statenent, "I am trying to explain it to him that i am the one making the rules here, by wanting a to play and telling him how to."
Please keep in mind that ideally the fetish should at all times remain an adult, consentual arrangement. If anyone is going to be making the rules, it needs to be by mutual agreement, in advance.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Therder
New member
Username: Therder
Post Number: 8
Registered: 09-2012
| | Posted on Monday, September 10, 2012 - 05:16 pm: |
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Hello Aza. I have only been on this board for a short time and have not been spanked for very long. This is a great place to come for information. I hope you can also find what you are looking for. |
Aza
New member
Username: Aza
Post Number: 3
Registered: 09-2012
| | Posted on Monday, September 10, 2012 - 06:20 pm: |
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My "making the rules" statement was only to ease his mind and make him feel comfortable. I was referring to talks about how he would know when to stop, or if it is to hard. I told him i'll let him know. We are both at our 40's and been together for 20 of them. Everything in our relationship is consensual. He wants to have frame work, because he is not the one who is into it. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 4021
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 11, 2012 - 12:00 pm: |
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As long as lines of communications are kept open then all parties should be content. Keep talking and don't be afraid to change things as needed.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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