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Tplayer
Junior Spanko
Username: Tplayer
Post Number: 95
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 04:29 pm: | 
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As an adult, have you received a spanking that you felt was undeserved? And for the spankers, have you ever spanked and felt bad about it later?
It's all a matter of perspective
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Blistering_blonde
Spanko
Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 270
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 07:41 pm: |
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OHHH yeah .lol
and it HURT too left me welted , and red with a lil bruising the next two days ...ALL FROM HIS BIG STRONG CALLOUSED HANDS. (was also the first spanking I did NOT see coming)
All becouse I was teasing him for a week over a reaction him and the crew had over a fellow workers invert rash(chemical rash of raised lil red itchy spots from invert on the oil rigs)..they all believed it was WORSE, and contagious ..all being on the rig for a long time and skin used to invert they forgot the skin reactions.. WE (the wifes) almost DIED of laughter at the time remembering our hubbys when they started and how their skins reacted .
Now being the kind and LOVING wifes we were ....no one reminded the men of that and let them go a week of panicing till they sent him to clinic ...and ALL felt foolish ..
Now I ask was it MY fault the men forgot what happened to them ..I think NOT
He asked what I needed , timidly gave it at first, now he just knows.
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Subbie
Junior Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 81
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 06:00 am: |
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Just one time, we don't do DD and most spankings are just erotic fun hair brush and paddle, and once a month or so, hubby adds the strap just to cure my itchy bottom.
He had cured my itchy bottom the previous weekend and I had no clue that he would get out the strap again the following weekend. after the strapping he told me that was just a reminder never to smoke again. but he knows I haven't smoked in over 4 years.I didm't think he had to use the strap.
We do talk about my not smoking at times, and I still crave one every so often but not going down that road ever again. but since I don't smoke I don't think the extra strapping was fair.
my name says it all
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1026
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 01:39 pm: |
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I would think getting a spanking you didn't deserve or want would damage your trust. It almost happened with someone I was with some years ago. When I realized what was about to happen, I used my safe word.
It surprised him because he thought he was doing what he thought I wanted. He thought he was working within our boundaries and it shook him up a little. But he was quick to let me know he was glad I stopped him because if he'd gone on, it could have damaged my trust in him and he would have felt like a brute. We talked it out and in the end, we were both happy with the results.
I think you should discuss this sort of thing when it happens for both your sakes. You've consented to this lifestyle, but if you feel you're not on board with every part of it, you need to talk about it. |
Wilson
New member
Username: Wilson
Post Number: 3
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 27, 2006 - 05:24 pm: |
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Yes !
We have a DD household.
I took the chair time, the whipping, and the corner time.(with tongue in cheek)
She is judge, jurry, and exectuctioner and has the right to pass judgement...and did !!
Note: I have that same right concerning her...
Later...we discussed the offence and set definite guidelines that were in question.
It still hurt...but we opened a line of communication and it made us apprreciate each other better...Wilson
***If you can't be good.....be good at IT !!***
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 635
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 28, 2006 - 05:40 am: |
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This has never happened to me and I would be livid if it did. Jake and I speak both before and after every spanking and I have told him that I didn't feel I deserved a spanking when he thought I did, and because of the reasons I stated, I didn't get spanked. Whereas had he not listened and spanked me because he thought I needed it and I didn't want it, it wouldn't have been received well now would I be happy with him.
Katie Spades: The Princess of Spanking
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Subbie
Junior Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 84
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 28, 2006 - 04:00 pm: |
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the spanking wasn't the worst of it, I have had a sore bottom before and will have many more to come. but what bothered me the most was I talk to him and tell him whats going on with me and if I feel a need to talk something over with him I do, and when I did he was always my comfort zone. and sure I still get an urge to have a cigarette every so often but that doesn't mean I would ever smoke again. we have never done DD or punishment spankings and I sure felt that that was what I got. no play time spanking that evening.
The spankings came to a halt for awhile and we had some serious talking to do, and had to work things out.
We had our bump in the road but but we worked it out and have moved on, and I guess that was the best part. so much easier to talk first than try to do it afterwards.
my name says it all
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Katie_spades
Advanced Spanko
Username: Katie_spades
Post Number: 644
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 28, 2006 - 09:08 pm: |
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yes I can totally agree! Talking is the most important thing in a relationship and things can get very difficult if there sn't communication.
Katie Spades: The Princess of Spanking
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Czechmate
New member
Username: Czechmate
Post Number: 17
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 29, 2006 - 04:13 pm: |
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I and mine don't use discipline to deal with serious problems, punishments for minor mishaps but spankings for hangups and emotional problems seem inappropriate.
Not to say I haven't threashed some girls whose reasons for needing it were distinctly strange- I certainly have.
But a recreational bottom to swipe at is to good a opportunity to miss...
(Message edited by shylah on June 29, 2006) |
Mhw3rd
New member
Username: Mhw3rd
Post Number: 4
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 04, 2006 - 07:09 pm: |
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I use to agree that I had something to say about weather or not I deserved a spanking. However, I have discovered that if I am part of that decision, then She is not in charge, I am, as she needs my permission. I have learned that I need to accept her judgement, that way it is only her decision, she is in charge and I am not.
What's the worst that can happen, I get punished for something I did not do, OH well! I never really felt submissive that way, this way knowing I have no say I do feel submissive and she feels like she really has the authority, because she does. |
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