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Glory
New member
Username: Glory
Post Number: 5
Registered: 04-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 12, 2007 - 05:58 pm: | 
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Recently I had a very "interesting" request. The husband of a friend of mine contacted me out of the blue the other day. He is currently stationed over seas. I have known for quite some time that they have a "spanking relationship" and my friend knows that my husband and I also have. I was unaware that he knew, as she was very adamant that she did not want him to know she told me about it! Well being that he contacted me to talk about the fact that his wife was in need of a good old fashioned spanking and asked if I would help him out while he was gone, I am guessing that he knows. 
Has anyone ever been asked something like this? We have been friends a very long time, but not super close friends. I had never spanked another woman and never spanked someone that I was not in a relationship with. I was not sure for awhile that I would do this for him, but... my motto has always been "I'll try anything once"
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1577
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 12, 2007 - 06:42 pm: |
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I'd suggest for starters, talking to your husband about this thoroughly, and then discussing this with your woman friend. Then you need to really think about all the implications of starting this kind of relationship with your friends.
It can be tricky so it's best to really think it through because once it's done, it can't be undone.
I, myself, find my emotions so tied into my spanking desires that I can't let anyone but my partner spank me. But that's me, you have to decide this one based on what you, your partner, and the other parties are comfortable with.
Good luck! |
Pinkcheeks
Supreme Spanko
Username: Pinkcheeks
Post Number: 1353
Registered: 12-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 12, 2007 - 07:37 pm: |
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I have to agree with Bethie on this one. Communication between all parties is paramount in a situation like this.
Personally, I can't let anyone else spank me but hubby - but like Bethie said, everyone is different
"Do I have to be good ALL the time?"
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Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 2144
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 13, 2007 - 08:59 am: |
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Wow.....tough situation!!
I'm all for helping out a friend.....
but spanking to me is such an intimate thing...
I wouldn't like it all if my husband spanked someone else. |
Tdom
New member
Username: Tdom
Post Number: 14
Registered: 05-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 13, 2007 - 09:47 am: |
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Glory, I agree with all of the tread slowly and talk lots with all parties suggestions. One aspect of this situation that was unclear from your initial question was whether this was a 'punishment' or an 'erotic' spanking. If the spanking is for erotic purposes, you are on real thin ice, unless of course, you and your husband want to open your relationship. If this spanking is of a punishing nature, possibly your being a substitute for this particular corrective behavior could make sense, but consider including your husband, if nothing more than a witness that things went as discussed and agreed to. But unless all 4 concerned parties are in agreement, this could get uncontrolled and adversely impact the relationships between you, your spouse, your friend, and her husband.
Please talk this through a lot and tread very slowly.
good luck,
me |
Weasel
Spanko
Username: Weasel
Post Number: 321
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 13, 2007 - 11:44 am: |
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Wow - tough situation! Personally, I am all for doing what we can to support our guys in uniform!
Yes you need to tell your husband about this! That would be the very first step. Using the plan I outline below, your husband would love to help by being camera man no doubt.
I think I would be more of a mind to approach my friend and suggest we do her soldier-boy a huge favor. You both know each other spanks so how about you tell her that he asked you about it, and offer to set up a camera and send the soldier a recording of you spanking her - for him.
What's a friendly spanking between two girlfriends? Sorority girls do it all the time, given the number of shots you can find on the internet. It would totally boost his morale, and you two could make it fun even if you acted out that it was a serious for real spanking. By doing this, she would get the spanking she needs that she would never be able to ask you for, he gets to see his wife getting "punished", and you and your girlfriends girl-bond grows one step stronger by your collusion to indulge her husband.
Where's your sense of adventure!!
and that's why they call me weasel...
All fun aside, totally talk it out with your husband before you follow my suggestion and don't do it if you have any doubts that you couldn't do it in all good conscience. SSC above all.
Some day you'll spank me... er thank me for this!
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Glory
New member
Username: Glory
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 13, 2007 - 05:29 pm: |
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My husband was aware of the request. I don't think it bothered him, not in regards to our relationship. Had it been a man, well I'm sure that would have been a bit different. Our concern was about my friendship. It was one of those situations where you didn't know what to say. What do you do? Walk in and say "Hi, I'm here to spank you. How about coffee next week?" I was more worried about the after effect.
There was quite a bit of talking about it first. Between me myself and my friend, her and her husband, her husband and I and my husband and myself. In the end I know what she was looking for. She is stressed beyond belief. She has two young sons at home that are giving her a run for the money. She is trying to balance a home, kids and a job on top of worrying about her husband. She needed that stress relief I think. I got there and her normally well organized house was a mess. She had laundry piled everywhere. Dishes in the sink and on the counter. Pizza boxes stacked in the trash looking like that was all they ate.
I think she needed to let go more than anything.
Afterwards I felt very good and I think she felt much better. Well, you know what I mean...
It was all pretty no nonsense. She knew what to expect from me. Both from our conversations and from knowing me for so long. We talked a bit before, and we talked a bit after. She cried a little, got her bottom reddened and then cried a little more. Again, I think it was the letting go that she needed.
We have talked since then, it was a bit strange at first, but okay now. I think before she invites me over for coffee tho she will have the house more in order! |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1580
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 14, 2007 - 05:49 pm: |
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I'm glad it all worked out for everyone involved! The aftermath is what I'd be wondering about, you know, the strangeness of it, as you said. It's great that it's okay between y'all now. Good job!  |
Lilgirl
New member
Username: Lilgirl
Post Number: 5
Registered: 02-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, June 17, 2007 - 07:25 pm: |
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my hubby to be is an avid spanker...i know he doesn`t LIKE to spank others, but i`ve told him i have no problem if we have brat company who gets out of line...he should go right ahead and spank away...
in my opinion, just because you are out somewhere, shouldn`t mean that unacceptable behaviour should be ignored or even dealt with at a later time if it can be helped...again, thats just my opinion...but i do think if that happens, it should be with good friends, and/or like minded people, so that there are no misunderstandings...
I Love You MY Sexy Sire
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3263
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 27, 2007 - 11:26 pm: |
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Thanks for sharing this with us. It only goes to prove that what works or doesn't work for one person has nothing to do with "popular opinion". We all have to make decisions where the answer is not always really clear. I think you need to trust your gut feeling and do what feels the best for you.
Of course this comes from me, a person who spends way too much time deciding what color of tissue boxes to put in which room of the house.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Blushingbride
Spanko
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 116
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 12:43 am: |
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At the risk of a  ...
You do that too, Fanny?  I thought I was the only one that did that. My hubby sure seems to think I'm the only one crazy that way. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3267
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 12:26 pm: |
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Way off topic BB  but I drive myself crazy with silly decisions at times.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1908
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, June 28, 2007 - 07:00 pm: |
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My fella has spanked others in front of me.
Once he caned me in front of some friends and I was so mortified that my bare bum was on display that I didn't feel it.
Never again.
Strictly a private thing for me.
When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3273
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, June 30, 2007 - 01:56 am: |
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Shylah!!! Is this a side of you I have not been privy to? Your bare bum on display?
Or are you having us on?
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1912
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, June 30, 2007 - 06:39 pm: |
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It really happened.
NEVER AGAIN.
I cringe every time I think about it. I never felt it. The humilation took over.
Hubby KNOWS he did the WRONG thing. It was only in front of two people but all the same...I was mortified.
I will never allow that to happen again.
When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3278
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, June 30, 2007 - 06:44 pm: |
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You know my motto "try anything once"! 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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