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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3514
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 08, 2008 - 11:37 am: | 
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Even though I neglected to add this to the subject line of the original post, I have not forgotten about you.
Please keep in mind in all threads that I am only offering possible discussion threads, feel free to discuss anything you wish.
Possible topic:
Do you feel that being spanked helps you to be a better spanker? Do you have a preference of one over the other?
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Shyster
New member
Username: Shyster
Post Number: 10
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 23, 2008 - 03:18 am: |
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I have a very definite preference for being the spanker about 80% of the time maybe more. And I'd say that switching makes me a much more responsible top, if you are going to dish it out you ought to be able to take it too in my opinion. I always insist a new toy be used on me so that I know what it can do before it is put to anything more then light playful use. Usually the result is more or less what I imagined it would be, but not always. In those cases I'm glad to know first hand.
But that's 'responsible' switching, not the fun kind. It may not even count as switching at all I suppose. The fun kind is the result of my inner brat who resents having to be the responsible one all the time. |
Tawseman
Spanko
Username: Tawseman
Post Number: 19
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, October 18, 2008 - 09:04 pm: |
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"Do you feel that being spanked helps you to be a better spanker?"
Oh, yes. Both from an emotional and physical standpoint. Emotionally, I get to have pretty much the same experience my wife does, so I have a better idea how she feels when I am doing her. Also, I can tune in to her pleasure when she is doing me. Sometimes, when I am doing her, all I can pick up on is OW OW, etc. When she is doing me, I can pick up on a lot of the pleasure she is experiencing.
On a physical level, of course, I get to feel each variation of technique and instrument construction. As a home hobbyist and tinkerer, I am always making and modifying instruments. Plus, my wife is very sensitive to the variations and nuances a small change can make in how pleasurable an instrument is to both feel and use. Also, because of the prolonged sessions I get, we both learn about what instrument does what damage and how long a bottom can last, etc. This allows the maximum pain with the minimum of damage, a fine balance, indeed.
"Do you have a preference of one over the other?"
I think I am more of a top, but with my wife, I probably shift a little on either side of 50/50, depending. I do know that maintenance spankings really settle my nerves.
But, some of this depends on the partner. Before we were married, I was more of a top. This was, of course, because most women prefer tops. And, I was quite natural and comfortable with it. If I had given switching serious thought back then, I would probably have been OK switching with the right person. That is, one with whom I have both trust and an emotional connection. These, of course, are often few and far between. And, I have never wanted to play with a lady who was just into hurting me. I need to feel that she is getting some pleasure out of it, so that rules out a lot of punishment scenarios. And, the abuse or humiliation thing is also a non-starter. So, a longer answer is, I am anywhere from bottom through 50/50 to top with the right person, but mostly a spanker in the sense of the real world out there. |
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