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Wtrlile177
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Username: Wtrlile177

Post Number: 13
Registered: 09-2008
Posted on Wednesday, December 10, 2008 - 09:26 pm:   Edit Post

Just want to throw it out there, anybody have any tips on how to be a "good" submissive wife(or so)? In the hopes to bring out the dominant side of my hubby I am going to put my all in being submissive.
Thanks everyone!!
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Emilyhonors
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Username: Emilyhonors

Post Number: 1
Registered: 12-2008
Posted on Friday, December 12, 2008 - 09:44 pm:   Edit Post

Hi!
My boyfriend requires me to submit in the following ways:
I keep a clean house and try to perform as many chores as possible while he is away so he is not bothered by the cleaning.
I design a weekly menu with a strict budget and that avoids any food waste.
I must ask permission to make purchases (I am terrible at saving and used to shop way too much). I am often not given permission to make the purchases I want and I must accept the decision quietly.
I don't argue, gossip, talk badly about others, complain, pout, or behave in other negative ways.
I get up before him, shower, dress, make breakfast, straighten up the house, and wake him with a cup of coffee.
I don't order in restaurants. At parties, I do not get myself drinks or help myself to food - I accept what my boyfriend gets for me.
Hope these suggestions help.
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Wtrlile177
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Username: Wtrlile177

Post Number: 15
Registered: 09-2008
Posted on Friday, December 12, 2008 - 11:39 pm:   Edit Post

Wow. I wish...you started by saying your boyfriend reqires you to.. I would love all this, but feel that he would think I'm silly and I'll get the what the heck are you doing attitude from him..and simply he doesn't 'require' or even seem to desire me to do this. I don't know. Maybe I'm just expecting or wishing something that isn't and never was there.
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Fanny
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Username: Fanny

Post Number: 3622
Registered: 05-2005


Posted on Saturday, December 13, 2008 - 10:28 am:   Edit Post

Wtrlile, First let me say that I am not the submissive type. I am a bit too fiesty for that and my husband is not the dom type who likes to enforce orders. That said, this is a personal decision and not what everyone likes.

Most of the things that Emily is required to do, I just do because it needs to be done, and I am not a complainer, gossiper, or pouter by nature (and have little tolerance for those who are )

You will need to come up with situations you are comfortable with because that is the only way it is going to work and stay working. If the lifestyle is not comfortable for one or the other of you, it is bound to fail. Some people play submissive in a sensual sense, only when the mood hits them to do so.

Play around and find out what does work. You can try things like acting coy and asking him his opinion on things like what to order at a restaurant or what you might wear. See how he reacts, most people like being asked their opinion.

Being a 24/7 sub is not for everyone and can cause issues in a relationship if either party starts to become uncomfortable with it. It takes a special couple and a lot of maintainance to make it work.
Queen of Innocence

"Well behaved woman rarely make history"

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