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Leshart
New member
Username: Leshart
Post Number: 7
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, February 22, 2009 - 07:30 pm: | 
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Hi all-I (or maybe we) need to start talking again! I would like to revive some new experiences! Not that I really have any! O dear lame. I just enjoy the friendly banter you all do so well! This is such a great site and good learning tool, I don't want to see it go dormant. Please you veterans help a girl out! I am trying!} |
Boomer
Spanko
Username: Boomer
Post Number: 31
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, February 22, 2009 - 08:19 pm: |
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Leshart, tell us what you like or what you crave in a spanking scenario. That should get the creative juices flowing (no pun intended). |
Her_guy
Spanko
Username: Her_guy
Post Number: 50
Registered: 12-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, February 22, 2009 - 09:27 pm: |
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Hi Leshart,
I'll help out too. I've been really busy lately and haven't had much time to cruise the forum.
Are you getting spanked at all?
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1985
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 01:28 am: |
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Leshart, is there a specific topic you're interested in discussing? You say you don't have any experience yet but I bet you have some ideas about where you want to go in this lifestyle.
You can share as much as you're comfortable with when you're ready so don't feel you have to tell all immediately. Besides, we're more interested in how you feel about this lifestyle than hearing about the specifics of what is often very personal. We try to keep this area more about serious discussions and less about recounting experiences or details about what is often most personal to you. After all, we don't want to appear to be internet voyeurs. 
Here's a question for you and anyone else interested: What type of spanking dynamic are you interested in? Do you see yourself in a DD (Domestic Discipline) relationship? Or are you interested in one in which spankings are erotic/fun? Or would you rather have a relationship that is only about discipline and nothing more? Would you want a mentor type of relationship with your spanker or are you looking for a partner to share your life and love with?
If you don't know, don't worry. I have personally gone through many changes over the years. When I first began this journey, I only wanted to have fun spankings. A few years later I entered into a Dom/sub relationship that made me very happy for quite a while. Then there wer a couple of other relationships that weren't really that defined. It just depended on the man I was with and what type of dynamic we were comfortable with.
That was all before I met my Dan (SpankBoss). He's the head of household (HOH) but that doesn't mean we're focused on discipline though. Most of the spankings around here are for fun.
As you can see, I've changed quite a bit over the years! Not everyone goes through that sort of fluctuation but it's not uncommon either. If you're not sure what you want right now, that's okay, too.  |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1986
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 01:39 am: |
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Whoops! Sorry, Leshart, I just made a boo boo. I sent you a PM explaining it.  |
Leshart
New member
Username: Leshart
Post Number: 9
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 08:01 am: |
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 Thank you Bethie for the message and explaining things. I am really glad I did not do something wrong, first time out! Want to give your questions more thought and reply responsibly and truthfully. |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 2225
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 24, 2009 - 09:44 am: |
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We have a 50/50 relationship in general life. It's only the spanking where he's the one in charge. Since I have developed fibromyalgia I don't have the tolerance I used to...which sucks! We aren't into the D/d lifestyle. Spanking for us is a fun thing and lately has to been put on a back burner. As we get settled I'm hoping that it gets back to where it was.
Leshart..you just feel free and comfortable with asking questions. We will do our best to help you along and if one person doesn't know the answer, another one will. That's the beauty of this forum.
Every time I say the word "exercise" I wash my mouth out with chocolate
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Leshart
New member
Username: Leshart
Post Number: 11
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 24, 2009 - 09:57 am: |
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Thank You Shylah. I am sorry to hear about your fibro. I have family that has the same affliction and my heart goes out to you. Hopefully in time you can resume your lifestyle!
You are very kind and I appreciate your help. I really do want to jumpstart the conversation in this forum. It is most helpful and entertaining in a very respectful manner. I am diligently forming my ideas for posting-to be interesting and hoping to get good feedback going! Thanks so much again!! |
Tammynx
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Tammynx
Post Number: 2709
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 24, 2009 - 12:15 pm: |
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I'm in a d/D relationship for the most part...but latley we've had more time for the erotic/fun type of spanking.
I work a different shift then my husband, so we are only home at the same time on the week-ends.
We've had to get creative lately.
At first I was really un-happy with the situation but now...we make the most of the time we have and we have had fun being creative. |
Leshart
New member
Username: Leshart
Post Number: 13
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 24, 2009 - 12:50 pm: |
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I envy you lucky ladies for the relationships you have. Alas I am alone-just recently ended a 12 year relationship. We did not practice any of your styles. Albeit a swat here and there, although he was very much the macho man. I did not have the resolve to pursue it further with him. Perhaps of embarassment or fear of rejection, don't know for sure. The worst part was I felt I was getting the signals that he would enjoy partaking this kind of relationship-but it would just go so far and pulled away from me.
For now I am at a loss - ending a relationship and finally admitting to myself this is something I really want. I need to sort all this out for myself. I have no intention on acting on impulse to fabricate some relationship with someone else. I have more courage than I have ever had. Mostly thanks to this wonderful forum-where people can speak openly.
I have learned more here than in any other faction of my life. You all have made me laugh, cry and generally feel good!
Sorry to have droned on-but it is important that I let this out to perfect strangers whom I feel I know better than some of my friends. I promise next post will be much more upbeat. Great day to all. |
Crave
New member
Username: Crave
Post Number: 1
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, February 28, 2009 - 03:14 am: |
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Hello. I have been talking to a man for some time now (a few years)on the phone and via email that likes to play the dom/sub games that I do. I am nervous about meeting him for the first time. Any suggestions on what I should wear/act? |
Js_little_lady
New member
Username: Js_little_lady
Post Number: 1
Registered: 03-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, March 21, 2009 - 12:21 pm: |
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I've been married for 4 years . Happily for the most part. I know my hubby wants to be hoh and i want to be submissive, but i feel like i want to be in more of a dd relatioship(not to say i don't like and want erotic spankings too) but the problem is i can't hardly get him to spank me. I honestly don't know how to tell him i need him to spank me, especially if he wants me to be able to be sub. I guess in part i'm afraid of rejection. I don't want to screw up my marriage. Any ideas on how to approach him |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2003
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 08, 2009 - 12:35 am: |
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Leshart, I'm glad you have found so much here that you can relate to. You don't have to be in a spanking relationship or have spanking experience to know what you're looking for. You don't even have to know exactly and you even have the right to change your mind about what you want.
You can just tell us what it is about spanking that interests you. A lot of this lifestyle is in your head, you know; it's not just about the physical aspect of it. I, personally, would enjoy hearing what you (or anyone else here) think about this lifestyle and the emotional dynamic you're looking for. Often the technical aspects of spanking don't interest me as much as the human interactions within this lifestyle. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 210
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 15, 2009 - 12:10 am: |
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Mine seems to run all over the field, I have feelings about my need to be punished for not keeping up with my part of our marriage,
There are lots of times when it just for a great sexual turn on. I like having him in full cotrol of me and I have to do as he says. power and control is a beautiful thing.
You can try out each one or a combanation of reasons as to why a spanking is needed. the spanking tent is very lage and it can cover all of us. love to hear from others about how they view the spanking world.
my name says it all
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Buenaventura
Supreme Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 935
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 15, 2009 - 10:24 am: |
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I love the idea of dominating a very strong willed woman ! Spanking a weak codependent woman doesn,t turn me on at all. (Cept maybe to give her some spunk ) |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 214
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, May 16, 2009 - 01:34 pm: |
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Buenavetura, interesting thought, I consider myself some place in the middle, not the very strong willed but strong enough that I am not codependant nor a door mat. but when I want to be spanked I could never submit to a weak man.my Hubby is strong and mascline if he wasn't then he could never spank me.at the time he is going to spank me I have to feel he is dominating me , without that it just wouldn't work.
my name says it all
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Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3658
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, May 17, 2009 - 03:25 pm: |
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Chimming in here, I am a very strong willed person who likes to be very powerful at work. I need a man who is at least equally strong. I don't think I would take a spanking from anyone who didn't have the drive and ambition to handle me.
At times though, I do like to relinguish and be completely taken care of. I don't see a conflict with this and I know I am not the only one who feels the way I do.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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