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Damienp
New member
Username: Damienp
Post Number: 1
Registered: 03-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, March 08, 2009 - 10:04 am: | 
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I am relatively new to spanking, I need some guidedance. I am lucky enough to have met a lady who has a need to be spanked. Appearently she has been searching for 2 years for someone suitable to spank her. Ok, she tells me she is not submissive, does not want sex, has no other fantasy, she has been spanked once about 2 years ago, somehow her spanker spooked her after the spanking by showing her his range of whips etc.
She later spend months emailing a Dom who wanted her as a sub, she refused to meet him, but did not end the contact, they spoke every day. In the end he told her either meet him or goodby, she ended it then. She maintained he wanted her to be totally submissive to him, and that is what she needed.She said she was afraid of what he might want. Any advice? I will answer any questions.Thanks. |
Tawseman
Spanko
Username: Tawseman
Post Number: 47
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, March 08, 2009 - 11:34 am: |
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"she tells me she is not submissive"
"She maintained he wanted her to be totally submissive to him, and that is what she needed"
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Who said "that is what she needed"? Her or the guy. Depending, I could be getting two different things, there.
It would be best to find out what she wants and go from there. Even if she is not sure, you can learn each other slowly. |
Damienp
New member
Username: Damienp
Post Number: 2
Registered: 03-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, March 08, 2009 - 01:54 pm: |
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Thanks. Tawseman. It was the Dom telling her thats what she needed.
I am curious why she would continue to chat to him every day, even when she only wanted spanking. |
Buenaventura
Supreme Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 917
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, March 08, 2009 - 09:53 pm: |
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Sounds like a typical Irish lass to me!! More seriously she,s obviously not your wife and sounds like she has a few hangups. Go slowly let her get to know you communication is the name of the game. Be careful! Good luck!! |
Buenaventura
Supreme Spanko
Username: Buenaventura
Post Number: 918
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, March 08, 2009 - 09:54 pm: |
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Oh and keep us posted. |
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