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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 212
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 15, 2009 - 12:52 am: | 
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I have never been caned, infact we don't own a cane right now. however Hubby and I have talked about it and thought we might like to try it out at least once.
First question if you have a cane what size is it and what's it made of.
second just how many strokes have you taken or if like me you have enver been caned, what are your feelings about it.
third if you are the spanker just how many strokes do you give before your spankee has had enough
Last question if you have been caned would you want to be again or is it, once was enough.
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Tawseman
Spanko
Username: Tawseman
Post Number: 76
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Friday, May 15, 2009 - 02:40 am: |
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First question if you have a cane what size is it and what's it made of.
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We have a bunch, all rattan. My wife prefers to use and receive with the bark on, but I like with bark on as well as peeled.
Ours run from 6mm to 10mm in diameter, and from 2 ft to 3 ft in length. I would guess that our most often used ones are 30-32 inches long and about 8 to 9mm diameter.
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second just how many strokes have you taken or if like me you have never been caned, what are your feelings about it.
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Number of strokes varies with the force used. We run the full gamut, from rapid light strokes to spaced-out full-force strokes. But, we don't do punishment, so what is right for us might not be for you.
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third if you are the spanker just how many strokes do you give before your spankee has had enough?
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That depends on so many things. Since I use the cane as foreplay, it depends on how many climaxes she has already had and so many other things. I will say that the cane is often too intense to start out with, at least as foreplay. But, once the endorphins start to kick in, a wonderful mix of pain and pleasure begins, and we actually will ask for more.
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Last question if you have been caned would you want to be again or is it, once was enough.
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We both love canes, and use them often.
My advice for a start would be to experiment lovingly with force and spacing until you both get a feel for what is right for you.
A caning can be very hurtful or very pleasurable and loving. It depends on both of you.
Sorry to have an answer that is all over the map, but a cane offers such a wonderful variety of sensations that there is not a simple answer.
I would suggest a caning on a relaxed bottom to start, as a caning on a stretched bottom can be very intense, and the pain can go very deep. The fuller the bottom, the more caning it can absorb without deep soreness or nerve irritation. In my own case, the sciatic nerve and hip joints suffer from a bent-over or kneeling caning.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2023
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, May 15, 2009 - 03:15 am: |
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I'll make this quick because it's late, but I might come back and add more later.
First question if you have a cane what size is it and what's it made of. -
We have rattan, delrin, and acrylic canes all of various sizes.
second just how many strokes have you taken or if like me you have enver been caned, what are your feelings about it. -
Our play sessions vary greatly from dozens of strokes to just a few strokes. We're into erotic spankings for the most part, so caning is done for our pleasure. It can be an intense implement as well as a very sensuous one depending on its use so my feelings vary about it. Canings can send me into subspace and deep submission as well as just feel really good if used sensually.
third if you are the spanker just how many strokes do you give before your spankee has had enough -
I'm not the spanker, but I'll answer this anyway. I don't think this is something that you can put a definite number on. I know for me, there are times when I can take quite a few strokes and other times when I can't. It depends on the situation.
Last question if you have been caned would you want to be again or is it, once was enough. -
I enjoy the cane but I've only had positive experiences with it. I know other people who have had horrible experiences with canes though. I'm willing to give most implements a try so you might want to keep that in mind.
Here are a couple of links you might want to take a look at that if you want to know more about the sensual side of caning:
http://www.frugaldomme.com/dangers/danger14.htm
http://www.frugaldomme.com/dangers/danger17.htm
Yeah, I know it says danger in the link, but don't let that scare you off. |
Redbottom
New member
Username: Redbottom
Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2009
| | Posted on Friday, May 15, 2009 - 04:52 am: |
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Hi Subbie,
I was in a similar position recently, being interested in the cane, and I actually had my first caning last month from a very nice and skilful professional lady. It was a fairly gentle introduction given with a thin rattan cane (about 8mm thick) after a good warm-up with hand spanking and some leather paddles.
Anyway it was a very enjoyable experience and I'll be revisiting her in August for a somewhat harder caning. But she doesn't use flat-out force, so it will still be in the category of sensual caning.
I like sting rather than thud so I prefer thinner canes, no more than 8mm thick. I have a number of rattan canes of that thickness, mostly kooboo rattan but I also have two dragon canes of 8mm and 7mm. I'll be taking the dragon canes along for my next visit and will probably get a few strokes with each of them.
I don't know whether you would mind being marked and bruised after a caning. If you wouldn't want a lot of bruising, I would advise using thinner canes. Canes of 10mm thickness or more will tend to bruise much more than thinner ones. A thorough warm-up before a caning will also lessen the risk of bruising.
You will also be able to take more strokes and harder strokes after being warmed up. A "cold" caning just hurts and I wouldn't recommend that. If you find that you enjoy the cane, the number of strokes will probably be limited more by the need to avoid possible damage to the skin rather than by the pain.
I hope this helps. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 213
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Friday, May 15, 2009 - 06:50 am: |
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Thanks for the help guys, we are going to look at some canes and see what looks good to us,we want to start out easy, then work our way up to the max. that I can take and yet not leave too many marks
A warm up seems to make sense, right now most of my spankings are erotic, paddle and bathbrush mostly although he sometimes adds a belt when some discipline is in order, I have had some marks that have lasted 3 days or so, we haven't been into discipline very much but once in awhile would be ok,
I'm not looking to be disciplined because I droped a cup and it broke but I feel we need to do something in the discipline vein every so often just to clear the air.
The belt is ok but we are looking to try something else, any suggestions are always welcome..subbie
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Slavegirl
Spanko
Username: Slavegirl
Post Number: 25
Registered: 09-2008
| | Posted on Monday, May 18, 2009 - 07:47 pm: |
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i'm caned about once a month.
most usual scenario is i strip, touch toes and wait for the stroke.
often i'm blindfolded.
sometimes i'm shackled with my hands above my head.
hubbie likes to run it over my bum and boobs first and between my legs.
then i get about 8 to 15 usually, depending on how naughty i've been, hard enough to sting.
ocasionally i'm shacked to a whipping bench but master likes to see me flinch so usually i'm not |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2026
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 09, 2009 - 03:32 pm: |
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Subbie said: "we are going to look at some canes and see what looks good to us,we want to start out easy, then work our way up to the max. that I can take and yet not leave too many marks"
I'm glad you're going to start out easy, that's best when working with such an intense new implement. I do have one word of warning though when it comes to marks. If you don't like marks, then be very careful about the type of cane you use, how hard the strokes are given, and where they cane lands, especially the tip.
Before I start, this is not a complaint and I'm not trying to be discouraging, I'm just sharing an experience. A few weeks ago, we were playing with a slender rattan cane and the tip caught me twice and left marks that didn't really hurt, but were pretty obvious. At first they were nice welts, but then later they darkened and even though painless, they took forever to fade away. They've just recently faded enough so that I now have to look for them.
I think it was because the tip landed on the less regularly spanked areas, on the edge of my bottom almost to my hip and the top of my outer thigh. Dan's usually pretty good with a cane, but even he gets a little misaligned sometimes. Considering how many times he gets it right, two's not bad. I didn't think anything of it because they didn't really hurt that much. I was really surprised the marks lasted as long as they did. It might be my skin in that area, it might be that my skin isn't as resilient as it used to be, or maybe I didn't use enough lotion on that area later, I don't know.
It didn't bother me in the slightest, but I know some people don't like marks that last that long. Everyone's experiences can vary but I thought I'd share that. It was really strange especially since the welts weren't that impressive and didn't hurt that much or for long. I've had much harder canings that didn't leave a mark. It just varies, I guess. The only reason I kept an eye on it was because it's swimsuit season and I was worried about the one on my thigh. It just looked like I had a scratch mark though so I wasn't worried anyone would think anything about it. I just wanted it to go away for aesthetic reasons.  |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 217
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, June 11, 2009 - 04:59 pm: |
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After looking at many of the canes we could find on the market we selected a small size one, and now it has arrived, I'm not so sure it was such a wise move on my part, husband gave a pillow a few strokes and oh my, I may have to re-think this one, but some how I think it is too late as husband thinks we need to try it out this weekend. I am sure this weekend is one I'll remember...
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Jenskitty
New member
Username: Jenskitty
Post Number: 1
Registered: 06-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, June 14, 2009 - 07:03 am: |
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Hi
My lesbian girlfriend canes me sometimes, say about every fortnight.
I get an OTK hand spanking first, then touch toes and she uses the cane to prod my various bits until I am in the correct posture, which I have to hold throughout my punishment.
I get 10 to 15 stokes depending on how naughty or flirtateous I have been. Often she rubs the cane between my legs half way through. The sensation on my pussy lips and already swollen clitoris is exquisite.
Afterwards I have to look at my bum in the mirror and then we kiss and she rubs cream in.
Occassionally is nice but I would not want it too often, it stings too hard.
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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 221
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 15, 2009 - 06:25 am: |
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JK...now that the cane is here, I might be getting cold feet, however it looks like next weekend is when I will feel it, question for you just how hard is to remain in position for that many strokes, I was thinking 6 or 8 at the most.
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Jenskitty
New member
Username: Jenskitty
Post Number: 2
Registered: 06-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, June 20, 2009 - 09:07 am: |
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Subbie
6 or 8 is nothing, as I said in my post I usually get 10 to 15. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2036
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, June 20, 2009 - 04:32 pm: |
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Jenskitty, 6 or 8 may be plenty for some folks, and it may be too much for others. Hey, even you admit that the cane stings too much to use it more than occasionally. 
It really just depends on your own personal tolerance level, the strength of the strokes, and the type of cane. Remember, when we compare notes, it's for information, it's not a contest.
Subbie, go at your own pace and do what is right for you. You never really know until you try it how you'll react. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3669
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, June 20, 2009 - 09:36 pm: |
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6-8 would be more than enough for me, as I am not a big fan of the cane. However, there are other impliments that I can much more of than others may chose to. As Bethie says, it is a matter of preference and tolerance.
Being able to take more of a particular impliment does not imply being "better" at something than someone else.
However, I do understand what you are saying Jenskitty. Simply that you take more of the cane and can handle it.
No one should go past their personal limit on anything, whether it be in play or real life, every day experiences.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 223
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 24, 2009 - 03:13 pm: |
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We did it, I got caned over the weekend,to start with it was going to be 8 strokes, we would use the spare bedroom which has a single bed, I was face down on the bed a pillow underneath me, my arms were tied to the bed as well as my feet with my ankles a couple of inches apart,
Hubby applied some hard bare hand spanks as a warm up, then he started and applied 4 strokes with the cane that sent instant shock waves thru my butt, the sting was very intense as he applied the cane with some force behined each stroke.
The next 4 were applied in a very deleberate fashion taking his time in between each stroke.
Right now I am not sure if I want any more cane but will have to wait and see, as far as taking any more than 8 strokes, not for me, I have stripes across my bottom and my bathing suit won't cover them so now will have to wait until dark before using the pool.
I am sure my next spanking will be back to our old stand by the paddle and over his knee, but won't say the cane will never be used again just not any time soon
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2037
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, June 28, 2009 - 05:16 pm: |
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Subbie, I know how you feel about the marking. I was so glad to see those latest ones fade! |
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