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Naughty_kay
New member
Username: Naughty_kay
Post Number: 5
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 08:22 pm: | 
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I have not had a punishment spanking yet... and this might sound crazy, but I think I want one....
I get my "Good Girl" spankings almost daily and a weekly "maintenance" spanking... and whenever I am given a list of tasks to get done or I will get a punishment spanking I always get right to it...
I know a punishment spanking will be way more severe and I will not be allowed a sexual release...
So why do I want to have one? Is it just so I will know what to expect? Anyone else ever have this feeling?
Thanks,
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Boomer
Spanko
Username: Boomer
Post Number: 44
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 20, 2010 - 11:08 pm: |
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Yes, yes and yes. Enough is never enough. I push the limits all the time. In my case, the spankee always seems to outlast the spanker. I think it's our nature as spankos to keep raising the bar. The sexual release comes later when you think of the spanking you survived. You'll probably want it harder the next time. |
Yorkie69
New member
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 7
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 02:03 am: |
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Yes Naughty Kay I have been thinking about it too but I think I should ease my new found spanker wife into it as she has only just started spanking me recently. Gently does it. |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 284
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 05:15 am: |
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Spankings are very sexual and it doesn't make any difference if I get GG one or a DD, we have great sex afterwards.
If I got a DD spanking then making up is very important, I feel once the spanking is over then all is forgiven and time to be close again.
Most DD's are not for something I actually did but most are just a reminder to " stay in line " I woudn't like it if he didn't make love to me afterwards
my name says it all
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Yorkie69
New member
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 8
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 06:25 am: |
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I have to admit that even though I have thought about a punishment spanking, I can't think of spanking in a non sexual way and the punishment would be for some fictitious transgression as part of "play time" anyway so I think I'm with Subbie on this one. |
Naughty_kay
New member
Username: Naughty_kay
Post Number: 6
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 08:39 am: |
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Thanks Guys... You have given me something to think about...
I know there aren't any hard and fast rules to this, and I am fairly new to it all...
So my next Question is, so it is ok to make love so soon after a punishment spanking?
I had read somewhere that you should wait 24 hrs after it before making love... But I have got to say I really like the idea of once the spanking is over all has been forgiven and we can make love.
I will have to have sir read this seeing how he will have the final say... |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3699
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 03:09 pm: |
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kay, you are correct, there are as many different approaches as there are spankos. Forget about what you read when someone tells you what you are supposed to do, do what works best for you.
Subbie, yolur approach is great, but some people do feel the need for a full disciplinary spanking without sex involved. As you say, your DDs are not actually for things that you have done so are leaning more towards mock discipline which that is great fun. However, everyone has their own needs and desires, so as long as everything is concensual; it is all wonderful.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Dd_husband
New member
Username: Dd_husband
Post Number: 6
Registered: 12-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 03:18 pm: |
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As you stated Kay, there aren't any hard and fast rules to this. We are learning as we go. I'm in agreence, we don't have to wait to make love. Isn't that one of the reasons why we started to spank? Because YOUR sexual drive has improved? So much so, you've worn me out? |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 286
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 05:52 pm: |
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it's so true that there are many different approaches to spankings,and what works for you may not work for others, and that's the best part, no rules, just some personal enoyment between consenting adults.gives us some good stuff to talk about here at the Den
my name says it all
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Naughty_kay
New member
Username: Naughty_kay
Post Number: 7
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, January 21, 2010 - 07:27 pm: |
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I do love a good discussion... Almost as much as I love a good spanking... LOL 
It really does help hearing other peoples thoughts and feelings on the subject... |
Scartlet_bottoms
New member
Username: Scartlet_bottoms
Post Number: 5
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 26, 2010 - 02:57 pm: |
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I'm in a kind of weird situation. We tend to roll play a lot and one of those roll plays is that I'm being punished for incomplete chores or other offenses. They are real punishments in that I do not allow myself to beg to stop but rather take every stroke I have coming to me. It always starts off as just getting the "Punishment" but then I tend to up the ante. My hubby plays along but the reality is for the most part I'm in control- although he really enjoys letting me have it. |
Naughty_kay
New member
Username: Naughty_kay
Post Number: 9
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Friday, January 29, 2010 - 01:44 pm: |
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I got my punishment spanking today.... and my butt is sore... I will be posting the detailes in the my last spanking thread...  |
Winggoddess
New member
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 10
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2011 - 07:43 pm: |
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I just have a few vocabulary questions here. Is GG "good girl"? And what is DD? Maintenance spankings? Is that to keep your butt in practice? |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3829
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Friday, September 23, 2011 - 08:37 pm: |
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Correct GG is good a good girl spanking just for fun, DD is domestic discipline and a maintenance spanking is just a reminder to keep everything in line, or to blow off built up stress.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Neoserenity87
Advanced Spanko
Username: Neoserenity87
Post Number: 324
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2011 - 10:52 am: |
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Kay, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a punishment spanking. For me that's actually mostly what I want, and not so much the sexual piece (although I enjoy that as well  ) When I was with a boyfriend who was actually into helping me with domestic discippline we started off with setting up ground rules and then a punishment spanking right off the bat with no reason except for me to know what to expect. I don't know how other people do it, that's just me. But I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in this.
Naughty little soldiers are always caught shaking in their combat boots.
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Leigh
New member
Username: Leigh
Post Number: 3
Registered: 10-2011
| | Posted on Monday, October 17, 2011 - 10:04 pm: |
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I have always wanted a punishment spanking. Hubby was only into it for the sexual side of it. But after many stops and starts, and much discussion, we are headed towards a DD relationship. I finally told him I couldn't pretend to enjoy the sexual kind if I wasn't getting the real kind too. You know - if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! LOL! So we are just getting going, and I haven't gotten my first real spanking just yet, but it's coming soon! |
Jeannie
Spanko
Username: Jeannie
Post Number: 26
Registered: 10-2010
| | Posted on Friday, October 21, 2011 - 11:06 am: |
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I agree with so many of you, there is nothing wrong with wanting a punishment spanking, for me that's really the only kind. Yes, it hurts, yes it leaves marks, yes sometimes I am not in the mood for a spanking at a particular time, but I love the feeling of control that I have turned over to Dan. I love being his, not arguing, no long drawn out periods of being upset with each other.
I have friends who say sex cures all in their relationship, well in our relationship the whip or belt cures all. As much as I hate getting a spanking sometimes, I love it just as much.
Last Sunday just before we went over to some friends house to watch the game I got the whip, it hurt, a lot, I know I deserved it but I really didn't want it then and there, but I got it anyway.
For me, a good punishment spanking makes me feel good mentally & physically |
Winggoddess
Spanko
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 43
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Friday, October 21, 2011 - 08:51 pm: |
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Jeannie, I really like your idea about a spanking stopping a long drawn out argument. I hate yelling and fighting and it seems like a good hard spanking would stop a fight in its tracks. How do you do it though? Does your partner just tell you to bend over as your making a snappy comeback? Or do you just let go of your side of the argument and drop your pants? M.H. (my husband) tends to stomp off when I start arguing. And, truthfully, I am a very stubborn person. I don't know if I could just stop in an argument. Well, maybe the next time I raise my voice at m.h. I should just pull my bottoms down and see what he does. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3887
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, October 22, 2011 - 02:30 am: |
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I also prefer to be spanked rather be yelled at. Therefore we have an agreement that I can say whatever I want and he can spank whenever he wants. This allows us both to release stress in a less negative way.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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