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Spanker08
New member
Username: Spanker08
Post Number: 1
Registered: 03-2010
| | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2010 - 05:24 pm: | 
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Hi all
Is there anybody that could tell me whats the best way to spank yourself.
I have nobody to spank me so have to resort to doing it myself.
Thanks
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Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 59
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Friday, March 26, 2010 - 06:25 pm: |
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I've found that the best way is with a hairbrush or bathbrush. Now, lets say you're right handed. With your hand out in front of you, palm face down, hold the brush by the handle with the head pointing towards your right and the bristles up.
Lower your arm down by your side. You will now notice lthe head of the brush is pointing behind you. If you adjust your grip so that the handle is supported by thumb and fingers, and the position of your hand to allow the head of the brush to rest against either buttock cheek you will have done it right. Now it's a matter of using a twisting motion with your wrist to apply the hair brush or whatever implement you choose to strike your own butt. I find that if I stand, bent forward slightly, that seems to be the best position for me (of course that does increase the chance of bruising). You could try lying on your bed with a pillow under your hips to push your butt up a little. I've not had much success with that but it's up to you.
There are also other ways. Experiment and try other things! Happy spankings and welcome to this forum.
Hope this helps. |
Spanker08
New member
Username: Spanker08
Post Number: 2
Registered: 03-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, March 27, 2010 - 04:50 am: |
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Thanks
This works sitting with a nice glowing bottom,used a hair brush,anybody have a method for a cane, |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 64
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, March 27, 2010 - 05:30 pm: |
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As I said before, use the same method. I have a 3/8 diameter dowel about 500 to 600mm long. It works great. |
Murphyfur
New member
Username: Murphyfur
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 07, 2010 - 11:54 pm: |
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I thought for the longest time that I was the only person in the world that spanked themself! I actually did last night before I decided to join this board and talk about my need for spanking openly.
I found a bath brush at a dollar store (it was three dollars) and the second I saw it I thought of spanking. I've noticed when I spank myself that I can only get to the point where it really stings, and then I stop. But if I start slow and build up, I can end up with some pretty good smacks.
Before last night I'd just used the turning stick from the blinds, and it was stingy enough but not satisfying. This brush is much better. The handle makes it long enough to reach back. Today my bottom is still sore.
The only problem is I don't feel like I've been punished. I get the physical sensation but I don't think it's the same as being punished. |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 101
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, May 08, 2010 - 03:11 am: |
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It's all in the mind, trust me. If you set yourself a target of, say 20 swats, then determine the strength of those swats you can go for it. If it hurts you can push yourself to just keep on spanking at the predetermined strength and number of swats. Just remember you are the one in control so if the pain of your swat is a little more than you bargained for, give yourself a few seconds to gather yourself up and do the next one. The human brain is a magnificent piece of equipment if you give it a chance. Happy spankings!
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Lysxx
New member
Username: Lysxx
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, May 29, 2010 - 10:36 pm: |
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Until a couple days ago, I'd never even heard of self-spanking. It was also never a thought that entered my mind. After reading what you guys have been saying I had a curious "Oh" moment. So, I tried it yesterday. Only, I'm not sure if I did it right. Every time I'd start getting to the point where it actually start to hurt, my arm would say to me "Okay, stop. I'm tired." You can go off and on for a while, but it doesn't give the proper effect or get me to the point I need. I eventually got too frustrated and gave up. Is there a trick to it or is my arm just horribly lazy and in need of practice? I also began to wonder if I did it right because when I woke up this morning my wrist hurt pretty bad. That didn't make the physical labor at work very fun. I'd like to try it again at some point, but if I end up hurting my wrist every time, I don't know.
I also have another question, which sort of does and doesn't have something to do with this particular topic. I've noticed that I'll have a spanking and, well, it's mostly done hurting (unless provoked) when it's over. But then, several hours later, I start to get this slightly-itchy but mostly stingy sensation that makes it terribly hard to sit still. Why the huge time gap? I don't really understand. ..is that just me? |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 114
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, May 30, 2010 - 03:11 am: |
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Lysxx - about that stinging sensation. It could be physical but it could also be psychological. I get it sometimes when I'm just aching for a spanking but haven't been spanked for a week or more.
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 115
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, May 30, 2010 - 03:13 am: |
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Lysxx - and about that sore wrist, maybe it's just a case of practice to build up the muscles in your wrist/hand/arm?
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Boomer
Spanko
Username: Boomer
Post Number: 75
Registered: 07-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, May 30, 2010 - 08:43 am: |
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I'm sure we all have resorted to this at one time or another and that there are probably other threads in the Den that examine this in more detail. My suggestion is to try some long-handled implements such as a bath brush, spatula or wooden spoon. Concentrate on hitting your sit-spot. Lying over the edge of the bed is an effective position and comes close to replicating OTK. Other than that - practice makes perfect! |
Lysxx
New member
Username: Lysxx
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, May 30, 2010 - 12:38 pm: |
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Yorkie69 - Actually, it makes a lot more sense to me for the feeling to psychological. Now that I think about it, I believe I have had that feeling before once or twice when there was no spanking to correlate it with at all. So I know what you mean. That was really helpful. Thank you. =)
And, as you said, it may really just be a case of needing to build up muscles. Especially considering how I'm not exactly used to moving that way.
Boomer - Those are really good suggestions, thank you very much. I guess I have some experimenting to do when my wrist stops hurting, as well as maybe a little shopping. Yay practice!  |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 310
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 02, 2010 - 06:51 am: |
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I tried it back in my early 20's, without too much success,and then gave it up for almost 10 years. I used both a long handled bath brush and a ping pong paddle, handing out 10 strokes and then stop for a bit and then back to 10 more etc. being right handed my right cheek does get more sting, to try and even it out I will give the left one some extra.
Now that Hubby spanks me as I need to be, I don't spanks myself so much but I do when he away and that need comes calling
my name says it all
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Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 118
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 02, 2010 - 07:52 am: |
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Subbie, as I said to Lysxx. "Practice". It's fun, I promise!
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 311
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Monday, June 07, 2010 - 07:22 pm: |
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Yorkie, yes it can be fun, on another note, right after Hubby started spanking me, I told him about the self spankings, rather embarrassing moment...lucky for me he is a understand guy but still embarassing..
my name says it all
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Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 120
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 08, 2010 - 02:31 am: |
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Yeah, I can imagine. It's that time of the month for my missus so I'll ask her for a spanking and er...well...I won't mention, but I'll avoid the temptation to self spank!
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Rosycheeks
Spanko
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 19
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 08, 2010 - 02:51 pm: |
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I use a belt and can really lay it on. Doubled over take a swing across the body ie.belt in left hand strike right cheek etc. I have a home made deck of "punishment cards that dictate the number of strokes to apply-from 50-200 -I commit ahead of time that what ever card i pull I have to do- it works-I also have a studded leather paddle that works really well and doesn't take much effor to create a glowing bum! |
Subbie
Advanced Spanko
Username: Subbie
Post Number: 312
Registered: 05-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 09, 2010 - 08:12 pm: |
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interesting game, never played a game but could see this one could be fun, but the studded paddle, don't know about that....
my name says it all
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Winggoddess
Spanko
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 24
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Friday, September 30, 2011 - 03:29 pm: |
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I really gave myself a good spanking yesterday. Since I am still waiting on my husband, I tried a few things I've read here to make my self spanking better. I only have my hairbrush, my hands, and a plastic hanger that I swat myself with. So I used all three and was getting frustrated with the attempt and my whole waiting game with my husband that I really let go with the last few strokes of my hairbrush. I spanked a few gasps of surprise right out of me! When I was done, I checked my bottom in the mirror and really appreciated the red glow there. I cupped my cheeks in my hands and the warmth radiating off was extraordinary.
So, I thought I had done good and then took my dog for a walk. With each step, my bottom was flashing little warm signals down my legs. I could barely stand that feeling, along with the fabric of my pants sliding over the skin. Walking was making me wet for goodness sake! I thought to myself that maybe I had just enjoyed the spanking too much and hadn't really given myself a "good" spanking.
I got home from walking the dog, got naked, and spanked myself some more. I tried a couple of positions, but the one that added the most ouch was sitting on the edge of the bed with my legs under me and my cheeks kinda hanging over. That added some more pain in just the right area. The end result was that my butt glowed for several hours afterward and it even hurt to sit a little bit. Today when I woke up I checked my bottom and there is slight bruising but no pain. Should I wait another day before giving myself a spanking like that again? |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 160
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, October 01, 2011 - 04:40 pm: |
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Well, if it were me, I'd be giving myself another one. And Winggoddess, I don't think there is a spanking you wouldn't enjoy.  |
Winggoddess
Spanko
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 30
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 04, 2011 - 04:07 pm: |
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I got my first set of paddles ever yesterday. Two wood paddles of different sizes and a leather belt loop with a handle. I asked m.h. (my husband) to test each one on me and he reluctantly agreed but he said he didn't like using weapons on me. I said they are not weapons they are paddles. He tapped me a few times with each and then had to leave. I decided to really test these things out myself. Let me just say that solid wooden paddles pack a lot more punch than my plastic hairbrush ever did. But the belt loop was the most enjoyable. I snapped it down across my bottom enough times to get that beautiful red glow plus some belt shaped lines. |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 166
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 05, 2011 - 07:59 am: |
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Oh Winggoddess, that sounds divine... |
Winggoddess
Spanko
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 31
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 05, 2011 - 07:33 pm: |
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It was Yorkie69, but I can't do any follow up spankings because of the bruising. I am concerned that m.h. will take my paddles away! There must be a thread around here about avoiding bruising. Gotta keep reading! |
Winggoddess
Spanko
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 32
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Friday, October 07, 2011 - 07:48 pm: |
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Aha! I finally found some tips to avoid bruising. I haven't posted in a few days because when I read anything in the den I want to go and spank myself. I have been trying hard not to spank myself so the bruising can heal and it has been so hard. I have turned my butt pink twice since the day I really broke in my new paddles. I have been trying other forms of "punishment" so that the bruising can go away. Luckily, a day after my paddles came in the mail I got a tits clit clip - 3 pins connected by a chain that I can clamp down on all my girly parts. I have also been spanking my nipples and and between my legs a little bit. Just today, after doing several jumping jacks with my chained clips on, I added to the heat and ache on my nipples with some tiger balm. On a whim, I smeared some balm on my moist labia too, and the heat there is still glowing. Tiger balm may be added to my growing list of fun things to do between spankings. |
Zippo
Prime Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1870
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, October 07, 2011 - 08:44 pm: |
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To reduce bruising quicker, try getting some Arnica cream or gel. It is sold at most health food stores and some drug stores. It is very effective at fading bruises quickly.
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 175
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 11, 2011 - 09:06 am: |
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Necessity is the mother of invention... |
Winggoddess
Spanko
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 40
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 18, 2011 - 05:31 pm: |
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Yay, bruises are gone! |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 183
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 19, 2011 - 03:48 am: |
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Cool. Time for another spanking then... |
Tommyboy5691
New member
Username: Tommyboy5691
Post Number: 1
Registered: 10-2011
| | Posted on Monday, October 24, 2011 - 03:00 pm: |
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Are there any good chat sites where someone will coach you on self spanking? Kinda like tell you how to do it and so forth? |
Admin
Board Administrator
Username: Admin
Post Number: 185
Registered: 03-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 24, 2011 - 10:45 pm: |
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Sorry, Tommy, but we don't offer recommendations like that here at the Den. |
Tommyboy5691
New member
Username: Tommyboy5691
Post Number: 2
Registered: 10-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 26, 2011 - 02:59 pm: |
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Ok I went to the wallmart and got on of those bath brushes yesterday. I tried my first real self spanking last night with it. WOW, after a while my ass just went kinda num. It ended up being kinda erotic to say the least and my ass is still sore today. I think I will wait untill tomorrow before I attempt this again. |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 191
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, October 27, 2011 - 02:50 pm: |
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Nice one Tommy! |
Winggoddess
Spanko
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 46
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Friday, October 28, 2011 - 05:54 pm: |
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Gave myself a spanking today because I have gained weight. I feel that I am 10 lbs over weight, so I got 10 strokes for each pound. I think spanking will actually help me lose weight, because after my spanking was done I was so turned on that I masterbated hard enough to bring a sweat and sore muscles. Like exercise, right? |
Fred2010
Spanko
Username: Fred2010
Post Number: 81
Registered: 06-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, October 29, 2011 - 03:51 pm: |
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You are clever Winggoddes!
Can't your husband do the strokes for you? What does he say when he sees a rosy bottom? |
Jeri
New member
Username: Jeri
Post Number: 2
Registered: 10-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, October 29, 2011 - 07:22 pm: |
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I found that using a wooden pizza paddle works very well My bottom was on fire after 25 swats My partner has never used it on me and I don't know if I want her to. |
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