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Annalee
New member
Username: Annalee
Post Number: 1
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 12, 2010 - 02:27 pm: | 
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I am a happily married woman who has had a life long attraction to getting spanked, but neither my ex-husband nor my husband now have shown the least bit of interest or attraction to it.
I want to explain to my loving spouse that we need to give this a try as I think it will enrich our love making. I need advice about what is the best low key fairly gentle instrument I can get for him? I know his hand is an easy place to start. I also hope to make this an experience that will be positive for him. Having something more would give him a choice of what to use. The more playful it seems for him the better.
I think the issue for him is he just can't "hurt" me which is wonderful quality but limiting if your talking about spanking. I do not believe he could use anything serious such as his leather belt as it would just be to extreme for him. I think he'd likely do better with a paddle of some kind.
thank you very much |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 105
Registered: 01-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 12, 2010 - 03:25 pm: |
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Hi Annalee and welcome. You could try something like a wooden spoon or a spatula or even a ruler, either wooden or plastic preferably about 40cm long at least.
I am fortunate to have a wonderful, understanding wife that could see how important it was to me to be spanked. She could see that my need was real and that I struggled very much to keep it to myself. I certainly hope your husband sees that you are very serious about your need and can find it in his heart to indulge you. It is important that he realizes he will not be "hurting" you and that all you want is for him to slap your bottom (am I right?) and that you are willing to take into consideration his feelings on the matter by starting off gently.
That's all I can think of for now and I wish you all the best and many happy spankings.
Yorkie
Nothing says "I love you" like a warm bottom
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Rosycheeks
New member
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 11:27 am: |
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Annalee, My hubby and I were married 19 years before I broached the subject with him. When I finally felt comefortable enough to do so I was very nervous but I was glad I did it has enriched our relationship.I had to explain to him that for me the spanking was stimulating. It roused desire in me - once he heard that he was willing to try it and let me tell you he has no more misgivings about it now!! We started off with the hand but then he was willing to use the belt which is one of my favorite then we branched out into more toys-basicly although i get the spankings I tend to be the one looking for new and exciting toys to try out.
Hope this helps a bit.Best of luck |
Rosycheeks
New member
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 11:30 am: |
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Annalee, My hubby and I were married 19 years before I broached the subject with him. When I finally felt comefortable enough to do so I was very nervous but I was glad I did it has enriched our relationship.I had to explain to him that for me the spanking was stimulating. It roused desire in me - once he heard that he was willing to try it and let me tell you he has no more misgivings about it now!! We started off with the hand but then he was willing to use the belt which is one of my favorite then we branched out into more toys-basicly although i get the spankings I tend to be the one looking for new and exciting toys to try out.One paddle we tried was one of those paddles with the ball attached that kids play with -I removed the ball it was a good start.
Hope this helps a bit.Best of luck |
Rosycheeks
New member
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 14, 2010 - 11:31 am: |
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sorry for the double post-not used to this laptop yet thought it didn't work the first time |
Annalee
New member
Username: Annalee
Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, May 16, 2010 - 11:51 pm: |
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I think we are making some forward movement. I got a very vigorous butt squeezing/pinching the other evening. I have been clear about wanting to be spanked, he got the message. I bought a small leather paddle which will arrive in the next couple of weeks.
Otherwise the problems are a "soon off to college" child at home who would surely figure out what's going on, which means finding the time when he's out of the house.
But the biggest problem (don't laugh) is a 11# dog who freaks out if there is a hint of anything physical. He's very old with heart failure, it would be terrible to have him to die while I was getting a spanking. Locking him in another room/out of our room has had limited success. But this will work its self out. |
Rosycheeks
New member
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 10
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 21, 2010 - 11:50 am: |
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Annalee, We share two of the same problems-I have two teens at home and they get freaked out when they hear mom and dad making out so when they are home there is no spanking in the house-we have a little shop on the property that we call our fungeon- the other problem we share is our dog also gets a bit upset when we "play" but she is younger so she has begun to learn when "mom" is ok. You'll just have to do what you are doing and your dog will become accustomed to your "play" |
Rosycheeks
New member
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 11
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 21, 2010 - 11:54 am: |
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PS. You might find as you go along with your "play" he might get more in to it and more adventurous-mine did but I had to take the lead for a while. I would introduce different toys and ask him to try out this or that-he did it at first to satisfy me but soon grew to like it!
Hope your's will too. |
Annalee
New member
Username: Annalee
Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 - 01:27 am: |
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Rosycheeks- It's the darnedest thing, a small 11 pound animal and we are working our lives around his! But he is an almost perfect creature, way better than many humans!
The paddle did arrive, very nice. I gave it a trial run and it's just wonderful.
I don't think I'll have too much trouble with getting him (husband, not the dog-ha ha) give the spanking or paddle a try. It will be the sustained interest that will need to be worked on.
Now if I can get this stinking infection to clear up....arg. We've been making use of the other option while waiting. One thing I'll say it doesn't take long for a guy to develop a preference for anal sex. I've started buying condoms in bulk ;} My rear is becoming my best asset. |
Rosycheeks
Spanko
Username: Rosycheeks
Post Number: 16
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Friday, May 28, 2010 - 12:30 pm: |
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Oh! Oh! once you start anal he may never go back to the other! I resisted for a long-long time but eventually allowed him to try-big mistake! He's forgotten where the other entry is. |
Annalee
New member
Username: Annalee
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Monday, March 21, 2011 - 01:49 am: |
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May 2010 till today.... I waited and waited, what's another year right??
Seems hubby has no problem with delivering a robust rear redding after nearly a year of verbal sparing. Our beloved little friend passed last week and son has been gone to school for a while now. With the lack of interference it all came together quite nicely. So I suspect I'll be found to be a bad girl and corrected for it as often as I want. My oh my |
Mrscleaver
New member
Username: Mrscleaver
Post Number: 9
Registered: 03-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, March 22, 2011 - 06:09 pm: |
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If it winds up like my relationship with my husband, you may find yourself getting it MORE often than you want!! lol  |
Zippo
Prime Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1743
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 23, 2011 - 09:21 pm: |
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Congrats Annalee, so sorry about your 'little friend'. It's good to hear things have progressed. Sounds like you have a spanko on your hands, or should I say bottom.
I wish you all the best in the future.
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Annalee
New member
Username: Annalee
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 23, 2011 - 10:17 pm: |
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Thank you each, our personalities fit a dom/sub pattern far more than I think he realized all along. It is interesting how we are, who we are, for our daily functioning life, but what we're wired for when it comes to "personal activities" can be the inverse or not related at all. It will be interesting to see where this goes. One immediate consideration is my job involves changing clothes in such a way that any marks will be seen without a doubt. hum......
actually makes it all the more...illicit  |
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