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Verywideawake1
New member
Username: Verywideawake1
Post Number: 5
Registered: 05-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, July 25, 2010 - 10:15 pm: | 
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For those of you in long term relationships....does your partner know about your interest in spanking? Obviously this is yes for some of you who are married or partnered to your spanker/spankee! For those whose partners do know, who brought it up, you or them? What was the reaction and the aftermath?
For those whose long term partners don't know, do you plan to tell them? How do you think they would react? |
Jeygant
New member
Username: Jeygant
Post Number: 3
Registered: 07-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, July 25, 2010 - 10:33 pm: |
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I brought it up, but my girlfriend said that was gross 
I was so disappointed |
Fred2010
Spanko
Username: Fred2010
Post Number: 21
Registered: 06-2010
| | Posted on Monday, July 26, 2010 - 01:12 pm: |
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You might start spanking her in a playful manner as foreplay. See if she likes it and then ask for reciprocation. |
Oftenred
Spanko
Username: Oftenred
Post Number: 97
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 27, 2010 - 11:10 pm: |
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My husband (boyfriend at the time) brought it up. Gave me a little birthday spanking first, then it just continued. I thought it was strange at first, but now I do not know what I would do without geting a regular spanking |
Fred2010
Spanko
Username: Fred2010
Post Number: 22
Registered: 06-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 28, 2010 - 11:38 am: |
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The problem is that the spanker has to be into spanking or there is none of the tension that makes the event exciting. You need the tension between the spanker wanting to spank and the spankee wanting the spanking to stop. And there is a control issue here, at least a make-believe one.
A good spanker knows where the line is, but it is just beyond the point that the spankee thinks, at the time of the spanking, that, "well that's about enough for now". If the spanker is just beating a carpet, then much is lost.
Anyone agree? |
Hubbyspanksnaughtywife
New member
Username: Hubbyspanksnaughtywife
Post Number: 2
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Friday, August 27, 2010 - 09:14 pm: |
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Hi,
Im a 43 yo married man who has been playfully spanking my vanilla wife for 15+ years of our 22 year marriage. All of those years....I kept my true desires/kinks/fetishes well hidden from my wife. All of that time she thought that the spankings were purely play. She never had a clue that there was so much more that I was hiding from her, mostly out of shame and fear. Ashamed of the strange feelings and desires that society had told me were wrong and abnormal, and fearful that the person I loved the most would surely not be able to accept the twisted desires that were locked inside my head for 20+ years.
Other than the very occasional light playful spanking I could sneak in during forelay....I had to turn to the internet, to soak up any bit of spanking related material to fill my desires and needs in secrecy.
Over the years..the spankings became more frequent, and somewhat accepted as foreplay, along with some very limited watered down versions of some of my other kinks, that I could try to pass as normal foreplay.
After many years, my desires became much stronger, but I have always remained faithful to the love of my life, but I decided I could no longer keep it hidden from her. I was starting to suffer from the guilt of keeping my "secret life" hidden from her.
On our 22nd wedding anniversary I attempted to "come out" so to speak, but my nervous attempt was laughed off as being somewhat silly, and I lost my nerve to continue. The follwing night I attempted again. This time...I sat her down, and I think she sensed that something was really bothering me. When I had her full attention, I proceeded (very nervously) to tell her of my hidden spanking fetish, and gradually opened up spilling out my secrets that I had kept bottled up.
To her credit...My wife listened attentively....without criticism or judging, to everything that I had to tell her.
After that initial conversation, I felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me, just by revealing my story to her. I tried not to overload her with everything at once. The next day she admitted that she was somewhat freaked out by some of the things that I told her. The days that followed included many very open and detailed conversations, filled with questions from her, more secrets being revealed, and lots of communication in general. I was already feeling closer to her, and some of my guilt was beginning to fade.
After giving her some time to absorb it all, she approached me, and told me that she was ok with the things I had told her, and that she would support me in any way that she could. She said that she would rather explore this with me, as a couple, than to have me explore it without me.
Already within days, I felt us becoming closer, communicating...talking freely about anything that we wanted, and the spark returning in our relationship.
What has followed in the last month has been amazing. We have become so much closer...a lot of the affectionate play that had slipped away over time was slowly returning.....our sex life has exploded, and she has been very open to much spanking play, and we are actually cautiously exploring dd together.
Had I ever imagined that she would respond in this way.....i would have never waited all of these years, but even so...I look forward to exploring this together with my wonderful wife. |
Yorkie69
New member
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 7
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, August 29, 2010 - 01:04 am: |
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I know that story so well. Congratulations! I have a very similar tale which also has a happy ending (for want of a better word!). I hope you continue to enjoy many more happy days of spanking and connection to your wonderful spouse as I continue to do with my lovely wife. |
Hubbyspanksnaughtywife
New member
Username: Hubbyspanksnaughtywife
Post Number: 6
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, August 29, 2010 - 11:08 am: |
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Thanks Yorkie69,
Thats encouraging to hear,that someone else has a similar tale....with a happy ending...lol Best of luck to you also. |
Winggoddess
New member
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 3
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Thursday, September 22, 2011 - 01:08 pm: |
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I am new to the idea of spanking, and am still, sorta, a newly wed (of 9 months!) and I just recently have expressed my spanking desires to my husband. He seems to either not understand or not want to fulfill those desires. I am hoping to learn from this forum on how to encourage my husband to dominate me and turn my bottom red. |
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