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Imabadgirl
New member
Username: Imabadgirl
Post Number: 9
Registered: 11-2010
| | Posted on Tuesday, November 09, 2010 - 08:48 pm: | 
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Hi everybody,
I've been wanting to ask this since I joined here, but I just now worked up the courage to ask. My bf/dom and I have been talking about trying a spanking implement but we're both a little afraid to try any of the things we've seen out there. While both of us do enjoy the spanko lifestyle we share, both of us still feel a bit conflicted about all of this and I think that's part of why we're afraid to kick it up a notch, so to speak. I'm also afraid because as the sub I will be on the receiving end of whatever is being used. Even though there is a part of me that wants to try something new, I'm so afraid how much it's going to hurt. My bf has a very firm hand and boy does he know how to deliver firm spanking that I can feel for days after the spanking has been administered, though not all of my spankings leave me feeling it for days. Don't get me wrong, he has never crossed the line with me, but I'm just saying that he can really deliver a good stinger. That has always been part of what turns me on about being spanked by him. I know this is crazy, but the fact that he can keep me in line with nothing more than his firm hand just feels reassuring to me. So it makes me wonder if he can make me feel as sore as he does sometimes with nothing more than his bare hand, how much worse is it going to be with a strap or a paddle?
So my question is if my bf and I can work through our conflict issues enough to take it to the next step, can you suggest a "beginner" spanking implement for us?
Thanks! |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 38
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 10, 2010 - 02:31 pm: |
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I suggest simply trying things out to see how they feel. Take it nice and easy, there's no need to go flat out. Try a few light swats with household items such as a wooden spoon, spatula or a plastic hairbrush. Or maybe even go buy them from a discount store if you feel like it. If they feel good, try some heavier swats. But always have your safeword ready just incase. Remember, safety first! |
Imabadgirl
New member
Username: Imabadgirl
Post Number: 10
Registered: 11-2010
| | Posted on Wednesday, November 10, 2010 - 09:56 pm: |
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Thank you so much for the suggestions, Yorkie69. I really appreciate that. Perhaps a spoon or spatula is what we should start with. I've read some other posts here where people have stated being spanked by a plastic hairbrush is more painful than expected. We'll have to make a trip to the store for a spoon or spatula, though, as my bf does not want me associating any spanking implement (except his hand) with anything other than being spanked with it if we decide to use one. |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 40
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, November 11, 2010 - 01:49 pm: |
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Your welcome. I have a metal spatula that I got from our kitchen which now resides in my bedside drawers and is only ever used on my bottom. It's feels absolutely divine. |
Otkhaught1
New member
Username: Otkhaught1
Post Number: 1
Registered: 11-2010
| | Posted on Thursday, November 11, 2010 - 06:12 pm: |
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my favorite spanking implement has always been a leather paddle when i am spanked with a paddle it makes me feel good and in a good mood it doesn't leave bruising and leave you sore nothing is betterfor a warm bottom |
Chuck
Spanko
Username: Chuck
Post Number: 36
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, November 13, 2010 - 08:20 am: |
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Do not feel you are missing out because you only use the hand.
Only on rare but admittedly memorable occasions have I spanked my wife with anything other than the palm of my hand. That is our choice. I just do not like to strike her with an implement. I will threaten her with a spoon or chase her around with a belt or ping pong paddle but when she is over my lap it is hand on bottom. I can ware her out with just my hand.
Go ahead and try some standard toys - light paddle, very thin switch or light leather belt. Take it slowly and in stages. Enjoy. |
Imabadgirl
New member
Username: Imabadgirl
Post Number: 11
Registered: 11-2010
| | Posted on Saturday, November 13, 2010 - 11:04 pm: |
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Thank you for sharing this, Chuck. I really like the idea of using an implement on rare occasions. Even if the implement doesn't hurt anymore than being spanked with his bare hand, I don't know if it would be as enjoyable when it's not his hand. Part of the thrill for me is knowing that the feeling in his hand after the spanking will remind him of me. My bf and I are both big fans of the otk spanking, but he really likes the idea of spanking me while I'm laying on my stomach with a pillow under my hips so my rear end is propped up for the spanking. I have to admit this idea thrills me a little, too. This is another reason why we have started looking for an implement. Something that can deliver a good sting and leave me with very red bottom, but won't leave serious bruise marks after only a few whacks to the bottom with it. That's why we don't like the idea of certain implements like canes and so forth. No offense to those who do like these types of things for themselves, it's just not for us. |
Chuck
Spanko
Username: Chuck
Post Number: 38
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, November 14, 2010 - 09:34 am: |
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Face down on a bed with a pillow under your hips and bottom slightly elevated is a very provocative pose and leaves lots of tender skin exposed. The lady is comfortable and she can squeeze a pillow to relieve the sting. Also, there is the fun of being sent to your room for a spanking or being told to get your pants down and over the bed.
I believe you can take more discomfort or pain in this position and for a longer period of time. Stick with light implements at first. Remember your butt may look like WW II before you realize it. |
Imabadgirl
New member
Username: Imabadgirl
Post Number: 14
Registered: 11-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, November 14, 2010 - 06:44 pm: |
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Thanks for sharing your insight again, Chuck. I didn't think about having the pillow to squeeze for relief or about being able tolerate more pain for a longer period of time, but it makes sense. I told my bf about the points you have made here and suggested that we try this as a maintenance spanking first before using it for a discipline spanking and he said we could talk about it tonight when he gets home.
I agree with you about the fun of being sent to the bedroom for a spanking. I like a good spontaneous spanking now and then, but for me there's nothing like being told to go to the bedroom and to be ready in my punishment outfit by the time he gets there. I can't explain why, but I like that nervous feeling I get while he makes me wait for him and I like the rush I get thinking about how he's going to be keeping me pinned down and bent over his knee as he's setting my bottom on fire. |
Frankb
New member
Username: Frankb
Post Number: 2
Registered: 02-2016
| | Posted on Sunday, February 28, 2016 - 03:04 pm: |
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loopy jonnys and plastic wiffle bats are my favorites. I also like the wire hanger and the rubber bike hose but only for a few strokes |
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