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Mrscleaver
New member
Username: Mrscleaver
Post Number: 1
Registered: 03-2011
| | Posted on Monday, March 07, 2011 - 06:10 pm: | 
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Hi all-this is my first post, and I haven't introduced myself properly, but I will take care of that ASAP.
Until recently it never occurred to me that part of my discipline might be to not clench my cheeks (lower ones ;) ) when receiving a spanking. I have been taught to lie still and not cover my bottom, but recently learned that some are taught to not clench as well. I asked my HoH about this, and he agreed it would be a good practice for me to get into. My question is this, other than figging (which doesn't sound at ALL like something I want!) how would you suggest getting in the practice? I tried just a few days ago, and realized it hurts more when you don't clench, so that makes it a lot harder to not do it! Its almost involuntary. Any suggestions? |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2087
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 09, 2011 - 04:35 pm: |
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It's not easy but there are some things you can do so you keep that part of you relaxed. Have you tried clenching something in your hands instead? When I'm on the bed, grabbing onto the bed covers and squeezing them tightly in my hands does seem to help. Elsewhere, grabbing onto whatever is handy (chair legs are good for that), kicking can help as long as it doesn't interfere with the spanking, or just clenching your fists. It's not easy but if you try to transfer the need to clench to another part of you it could work.
There are some implements that you really shouldn't clench for so it's probably a good habit to get out of anyway. You might ask your hubby to figure out a system with you. He can stop spanking when he sees you clenching and remind you not to. You can figure out a way to reinforce it at that point that works for you.
You don't want to try figging? But it's so much fun! Well, maybe not for some people, but I find it very stimulating. I'm a little different though. 
Another option you could try that works for me is a standard butt plug. I've found that if I have a plug in me I don't move around as much or clench.
That's about all I can think of right now... |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2088
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 09, 2011 - 04:43 pm: |
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Of course I just remembered something else. Since you want to stop clenching there is one thing that might work if you don't like to have your thighs spanked. Whenever your husband sees you clenching he can spank your thighs until you relax. |
Mrscleaver
New member
Username: Mrscleaver
Post Number: 3
Registered: 03-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 09, 2011 - 07:31 pm: |
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No, I DON'T like having my thighs spanked, but I don't think I want to suggest that!! LOL (jk) Those are all really good suggestions though. I don't kick for discipline reasons. I want to not clench for the same reason, but safety is another good point. My husband and I enjoy this lifestyle, and he likes spanking me for pleasure as well, but he doesn't like to put any kind of marks on my other than a nice red color. |
Burning_bottom
New member
Username: Burning_bottom
Post Number: 6
Registered: 04-2011
| | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2011 - 04:44 am: |
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Sorry to sound not supportive but i get threatened with extra strokes for clenching it works for me so i do not clench!!!
paul little
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