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Rudeaberry
New member
Username: Rudeaberry
Post Number: 15
Registered: 01-2011
| | Posted on Friday, May 20, 2011 - 04:47 pm: | 
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The concept of making a lady wait for her spanking is a familiar one. It's generally understood in the context of (a) Advance Notice (when a gentleman announces the date and time at which a forthcoming spanking will be administered) and (b) Immediate Preparation (when a lady is required to report to a specified room to contemplate her imminent chastisement).
There is a third sense in which "Making Her Wait" applies. I refer to the interval between strokes when a spanking is in progress.
For a spanking to serve its purpose, the lady must feel the full effect of every stroke. She needs time to internalize each successive sting, and to anticipate the cumulative impact of the strokes yet to be delivered.
By pacing the spanking in this way, a gentleman can judge the effects of his efforts with confidence. The time taken to measure the lady's reaction to each stroke - both verbal and physical - enables him to inspect the target area. If his handiwork has not been evenly distributed, this can be addressed in the remaining strokes. Likewise, if a certain part of her bottom has proved more sensitive than any other, he may concentrate further fire there should he deem that "piling on the punishment" is necessary.
The benefits of this patient approach are various. It avoids the obvious error of spanking so quickly that the strokes lose their impact - a mistake often made by inexperienced or over-eager gentlemen. It allows the lady to recognize the control and command of the gentleman who has taken her in hand. Above all, it ensures that the spanking she receives is complete, comprehensive and psychologically fulfilling. |
Mbottom
Spanko
Username: Mbottom
Post Number: 25
Registered: 04-2011
| | Posted on Friday, May 20, 2011 - 05:19 pm: |
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O MY!! We only practice Erotic Spankings, but they too must be painful for me...My husband is new to this, but getting the 'swing' of things very quickly!! I got all tingly inside reading your topic....as he has recently started implementing some of this into our play...I crave the psychological part of the spanking as much as the spanking itself...I do like it to be fast paced at times, as I want the spanking to have several different elements, but being told I will recieve a certain amount of strokes at one point in the spanking & waiting for the sting to calm after each one, before the next is administered is very psychological & enhances the dominance that turns me on so very much in my husband!! I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this & have asked my husband to read ASAP.... |
Rudeaberry
Spanko
Username: Rudeaberry
Post Number: 16
Registered: 01-2011
| | Posted on Saturday, May 21, 2011 - 10:32 am: |
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Mbottom, I'm pleased that this topic resonates with you. As you say, the psychological aspect of how a lady experiences the spanking is key to her submission.
To expand a little on my OP: a lady's reception of each stroke is both physical and mental in nature. Her bottom absorbs the sting, which reaches other parts of her body shortly thereafter. Sufficient time is needed to let nature take its course in this way.
Mentally, she requires a brief pause to process the message contained in the stroke: "He cares enough to spank me carefully, lovingly and systematically until my submission is complete." |
Mbottom
Spanko
Username: Mbottom
Post Number: 28
Registered: 04-2011
| | Posted on Saturday, May 21, 2011 - 09:28 pm: |
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So very very true......ur wisdom holds truth for me!!! U know exactly what to say to make my cravings worse!! Someday I hope my husband has your expertise!! (As I have always been a spanko, he is a newbie, but wanting to learn as much as possible.) Thank U for posting things like this to help out those learning their trade!!  Delicious!!! |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 25
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2011 - 10:03 am: |
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Rudeaberry, you could teach an adult-ed course on the topic of Effective Spanking. I'm not kidding...there is not far from me a women-owned-and-operated Sex Boutique, and they occasionally do host tutorials of just this nature, although I've never attended one. The ones I've seen advertised were chaired---pun unintended---by women. Maybe a man teaching such a public session---even if it consisted purely of verbal advice and counsel, with no in-session "lab work"---might be setting himself up for grief.
But you have a firm hand (there I go again!) on the psychology involved in a good erotic spanking, and there are lots of folks out there who could benefit from your wisdom. |
Rudeaberry
Spanko
Username: Rudeaberry
Post Number: 17
Registered: 01-2011
| | Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2011 - 02:19 pm: |
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Warmpalm, thanks for your kind words.
I'm blushing - just like Mbottom would like her cheeks to be .
I hope to open some new threads in the near future. |
Mbottom
Spanko
Username: Mbottom
Post Number: 29
Registered: 04-2011
| | Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2011 - 07:29 pm: |
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Rudeaberry......how do you know they aren't?? LOL
I will definitely be looking for your upcoming posts!! |
Brandspankingnew
New member
Username: Brandspankingnew
Post Number: 15
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2011 - 07:24 am: |
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@rudeaberry...if I could verbally express myself as u do Mbottom would be a dripping mess 24/7...keep up the good work!!! @rudeaberry&Warmpalm, can u guys help me explain to M that as a bottom she is not allowed to dictate how her deserved spanking session will go...and her talking back and fighting the position I assign her to only adds to issue of bad behavior and will be corrected...I would appreciate some assistance w a lecture... |
Mbottom
Spanko
Username: Mbottom
Post Number: 30
Registered: 04-2011
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2011 - 07:39 am: |
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HA!! BSN....you are too funny!! I dont talk back....you dig till you find something, or read into something, just to have a reason....cause your cravings of being a TOP are running away with you!! LOL..... |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 26
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Monday, May 23, 2011 - 09:05 am: |
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Such sassiness!!!! I cannot believe the uppity, pert, rude, flip, impudent spankworthiness of Mbottom's recent post!!!
Mbottom, you are digging yourself in ever so deeper. And your fanny will pay the price, and soon. Don't mean maybe!
I wish I could see this, if only for the pleasure of watching justice being meted out.
Remember Cole Porter's "You're the Top"? You ought to commit that song to memory, and sing it to BSN every night. That kind of respect might lead to your nightgown being pulled up and your panties being whisked down somewhat less frequently. Though you'd still feel justice being dispensed from time to time, make no mistake! |
Jena
New member
Username: Jena
Post Number: 2
Registered: 06-2011
| | Posted on Saturday, July 02, 2011 - 03:46 pm: |
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Great subject!!! It's getting hot in here. |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 55
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Saturday, July 02, 2011 - 04:09 pm: |
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"Too Darn Hot". Another Cole Porter song!!! Hmmmmm.....makes you think. Always an imprudent thing to do.
How's the self-spanking program progressing, Jena? We need a detailed update. |
Jena
New member
Username: Jena
Post Number: 3
Registered: 06-2011
| | Posted on Saturday, July 02, 2011 - 06:20 pm: |
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I have not had any privacy. No action at all. Maybe I will have some alone time this evening before I go out with some friends. |
Rudeaberry
Spanko
Username: Rudeaberry
Post Number: 24
Registered: 01-2011
| | Posted on Sunday, July 03, 2011 - 01:45 pm: |
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There's another benefit to pausing between strokes and making a lady wait for the next one. In this way the gentleman can fully measure her vocal response to the spanking - from gasps or sighs to moans and groans, and from yelps and squeals to sobs and all-out crying.
In addition, if she is positioned other than OTK or over-the-lap, he can step forward between stokes to assess her facial expression and decide if his work is having the desired effect. |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 59
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Sunday, July 03, 2011 - 02:14 pm: |
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Sometimes when I spank a lady, she responds not with gasps or sighs or moans or groans or squeals or sobs, but by reciting the Pledge of Allegiance. I dunno, must be my technique.
Sure, it's patriotic, but it does tend to spoil the mood. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3731
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 26, 2011 - 11:44 am: |
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Warmpalm, at least she is not reciting prayers!
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 105
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 26, 2011 - 04:07 pm: |
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Whoa!!! Now, that could easily be a buzz-killer. Although the prayer could well be "Hokey smoke, I pray he spanks me harder still! And uses the rubber spatula I conveniently laid out for him on my lovely red bottom!"
Now, that's a prayer I could get behind. |
Tess
Spanko
Username: Tess
Post Number: 34
Registered: 07-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 26, 2011 - 04:17 pm: |
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My hubby told me he would soon take me to my male relative and he plans to spank us both while he would allow us to kiss each other.
One method he use is i hear the swoosh of the belt yet he does not hit me,so i cannot know if the swoosh is going to hit my bare bottom or not.
It gets frustrating and scary at the same time. |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 106
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 26, 2011 - 05:04 pm: |
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Your husband is both magnanimous and a sadistic rascal.
But...he's going to spank both you and his relative? |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3732
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 26, 2011 - 05:39 pm: |
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It sounds as if it is her relative, Warmpalm.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 107
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Tuesday, July 26, 2011 - 08:21 pm: |
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Whatever. I don't care, as long as Tess submits a full, detailed report afterwards on Spanking Den.
We have the right to know. |
Tess
Spanko
Username: Tess
Post Number: 35
Registered: 07-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 03:51 am: |
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Yep both me and my male relative and yes i will give you all the details.
But before we go my husband want to shave my pussy all of it. |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 109
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 07:46 am: |
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ALL OF IT, Tess? Every single hair? Have you ever done this before? I'd hate to see you catch cold!!!!
But I guess your hubby knows best. Save me a tuft, okay? Thanks.
You're a dear. |
Tess
Spanko
Username: Tess
Post Number: 36
Registered: 07-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 08:10 am: |
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Yes all of it,not the first time but i bring every excuse under the sun to avoid it.I won't catch a cold but after a few days it tend to be itchy-
My relative has just send me an e-mail asking me when when my husband is going to take me to his home,yikes he does not know that he's going to be spanked too, oh and we call my husband 'Lieutenant' |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 111
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 08:27 am: |
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Will your husband shave you or will you shave you? What do you use for a razor? |
Tess
Spanko
Username: Tess
Post Number: 37
Registered: 07-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 10:27 am: |
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He shaves me,i lay on my back with my feet wide open and he always use a razor and i tell him ''you're going to cut me''and then he tells me to shut up,so i stay that way until he's all done.
He says that is why he has a woman so he can do what he likes and believe me spanking is far better then some other things!! |
Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 113
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 10:31 am: |
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He shouldn't tell you to shut up. Why not say something like "Hush, my dove....'tis but for thine own betterment." That's what I'd say if I were barbering a fair lady's woo-woo and she got squirmy and whiny. |
Tess
Spanko
Username: Tess
Post Number: 38
Registered: 07-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 12:08 pm: |
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lol the 'Lieutenant'? more like if you don't shut up I'll bite you on it when i'm done. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3735
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 07:53 pm: |
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Try waxing, it lasts longer, is less dangerous and can be fun.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 116
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 27, 2011 - 08:19 pm: |
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Ever try Turtle Waxing? It's extremely difficult, and the turtle tends to resist, but..... |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3737
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 28, 2011 - 11:30 am: |
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Turtles, to the best of my knowledge do not have much hair. 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Jena
Spanko
Username: Jena
Post Number: 24
Registered: 06-2011
| | Posted on Monday, August 01, 2011 - 11:38 am: |
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Waxing? Really hot wax and then ripping it off? Down there? Fanny you are tougher than I. My girl parts are hiding under the bed. |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3747
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 01, 2011 - 05:35 pm: |
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yep I am tough 
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Warmpalm
Spanko
Username: Warmpalm
Post Number: 123
Registered: 05-2011
| | Posted on Monday, August 01, 2011 - 06:25 pm: |
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Turtles indeed do not have much hair down there. That's because they so diligently wax their woo-woos. Every two weeks! |
Buttpain
New member
Username: Buttpain
Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2012
| | Posted on Monday, May 14, 2012 - 04:02 pm: |
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Waiting for the spanking with all of it's attendant anxiety and apprehension is an INTEGRAL part of any spanking punishment. The spankee will try to imagine how bad it will be and will also try to think about something, ANYTHING, else to get their mind off their thrashing but that mind will always soon return to images of them getting spanked anyway. The longer the wait, complete with innumerable petty delays and ritual extension, the better the punishment will be. |
Zippo
Prime Spanko
Username: Zippo
Post Number: 1925
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Monday, May 14, 2012 - 07:28 pm: |
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Buttpain, while I do agree with some of the points you have raised, I am reluctant to say anything is INTEGRAL to spanking, as it can vary on the dynamics of the couple involved. What works for some, may not be right for others, and anyone newer to the lifestyle may get the impression that certain elements have to be present. We need to be mindful that we are all individuals, and will have our own ways of doing things. As long as the activity is consensual, there really is no right or wrong ways. Good communication is still key.
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Buttpain
New member
Username: Buttpain
Post Number: 15
Registered: 05-2012
| | Posted on Tuesday, May 15, 2012 - 03:45 pm: |
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Yeah Zippo, I guess you're right. Just my opinion. |
Sally_smart
Spanko
Username: Sally_smart
Post Number: 19
Registered: 02-2014
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 11, 2014 - 04:47 pm: |
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Lemme give it to you from a spankee's point of view.
A good slow rythem, and then a fast one and some that you gotta wait for, like a bluff one here and there with some kind of conversation even,,, its all part of the play.
If I am getting an otk I like em that way, nothing the same. If I am getting smacks while I am on top riding him they can come when ever, not knowing when is awesome. They come, make me tense up and grind a little harder. Its like he is saying "Dont stop or slow down little girl". Sometimes I do slow down Or stop a second just to make sure one will happen and when they do all wild animal thinking comes loose inside of me.
I dont do real punishment ones that will make a girl cry of the pain alone but sometimes the sex is so good because of the heat - cool air and such generated I want to let loose almost as if I could cry. The contact between my man's memeber inside of me and his hands roaming on my ass doing their caressing, pinching and smacking and his awesome scratching of his nails into my ass and legs just makes me feel like I am on a drug of some kind, and I dont use drugs.
Even prescription drugs I am given get used a couple days and if the pain or what ever the symptom goes the pills get lost in a drawer somewhere.
What some guys dont know is intercourse isnt the same for all women. Its a great part of sex but if guy thinks he should just lay there and do nothing else he might be wrong with his gal. Bets are she likes something else to go with it and words might be all it takes but for me it needs some ramping up so its like having a salad, lots of different colors and different bite size pieces to chew on. And yet some women would prefer their tits pinched and twisted. I am strange probably because I like spices of many kinds in my world.
Its a mental thing as the many things men like to do are.
I will do Almost anything for you, you can spank me for anything I wont but that done mean I will do it, hahahaha
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Spankies
New member
Username: Spankies
Post Number: 8
Registered: 01-2014
| | Posted on Saturday, February 15, 2014 - 10:53 am: |
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Tess I do not like bullying . |
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