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Seapower
New member
Username: Seapower
Post Number: 1
Registered: 08-2011
| | Posted on Sunday, August 28, 2011 - 01:53 am: | 
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My fiance is a willing taker of a spanking which of course turns me on but my problem is that my fetish lies in spanking a girl who does not want to be disciplined, the moment my fiance agreed it sort of lost it's edge, hope this is an ok post for my first? |
Fanny
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Fanny
Post Number: 3786
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 28, 2011 - 10:08 am: |
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Welcome, Seapower, I'm sure your question will elicit many responses. The difference between erotic spankings and disciplinary are always a good discussion.
Queen of Innocence
"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Fred2010
Spanko
Username: Fred2010
Post Number: 75
Registered: 06-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, August 28, 2011 - 01:30 pm: |
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Increase the intensity untill she does not quit like it but you are then on a thin line. |
Yorkie69
Spanko
Username: Yorkie69
Post Number: 121
Registered: 08-2010
| | Posted on Monday, August 29, 2011 - 05:23 pm: |
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Hi and welcome Seapower. I am always a willing spankee so I don't have any wisdom I'm afraid but if your fiance were to act the part a little by pretending to protest etc, perhaps that might spice up the show? Just a thought. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 2095
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 01, 2011 - 01:56 pm: |
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"my fetish lies in spanking a girl who does not want to be disciplined, the moment my fiance agreed it sort of lost it's edge"
This concerns me somewhat. Maybe I'm misunderstanding you because it sounds like what you want is a non-consensual spanking encounter. Your fiance consented and that took away the "edge" for you? Discussions here must be about adult spanking relationships that are safe, sane, and consensual. Consent in a disciplinary relationship is a very fundamental component. I'd appreciate it if you'd explain what you meant. |
Chuck
Spanko
Username: Chuck
Post Number: 54
Registered: 07-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, September 10, 2011 - 09:25 am: |
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I have said this before. Nobody and I mean nobody does anything to my wife she does not agree with and this includes business, social and domestic. When I tell my wife she has a spanking coming to discipline her for certain behavior I understand she could stop the whole thing in a second. What I see is shock, disbelief, embarrassment, an attempt to talk her way out of it (she does not plead or whine)and all sorts of different emotions. She is obedient and accepts her fate. I administer the spanking on my terms. We are both then happy, calm and content. My palm is a little sore and her bottom is hot and red. |
Winggoddess
New member
Username: Winggoddess
Post Number: 5
Registered: 09-2011
| | Posted on Thursday, September 22, 2011 - 01:44 pm: |
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See, this statement of safe, sane, and consensual is clear enough, but how do you establish limits? I've read about written contracts; maybe that would help both you and your fiance, Seapower? |
Darkdruid
New member
Username: Darkdruid
Post Number: 6
Registered: 12-2008
| | Posted on Monday, November 07, 2011 - 09:14 am: |
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Roleplay has got to be the way forward? There are many people who would love their partners to be as enthusiastic about spanking as they are?! |
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