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Naughtynicole
New member
Username: Naughtynicole
Post Number: 1
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, October 08, 2005 - 09:50 pm: | 
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My husband and I have discussed the benefits of spanking in our relationship before. We agreed to do it, but are having some issues with getting started. I have behaved in ways which I agree need to be corrected, and I will submit to his spankings - but he has instructed me to come here and ask for advise as to how he should give the punishment. How many - how long, with what, etc. He says part of my punishment is coming here and asking and after you reply he will give me what you guys recommend. |
Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 617
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 12:05 am: |
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Well, I don't give I recieve, but i asked my husband and we both agree that you should start with just a otk hand spanking 1st. Especially if he's never disciplined you before. Then you could try using implaments. We are new to discipline as well, the 1st time I got it with his hand, the second time was the hand and the belt, and now he starts off by warming me up with his hand, then the hairbrush followed by the belt, and then back to the hair brush. I suggest using a safe word, because you both need to know to stop when it is said, this insures you will not be injured. As for the intensity and number of swats to give, that isn't anything we could tell you. Once the spanking begins the two of you will be able to judge when enough is enough. Good luck be safe and try to behaive. I hope this helps.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Ftopinmichigan
New member
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 15
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 10:28 am: |
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Hi, Naughtynicole. Getting a nonspanko spouse to spank is sort of like a magic trick...sometimes it works and is amazing, and sometimes, it's just a fabulous illusion. Converting a vanilla person, to understand your passion, can be difficult. There's a learning curve involved too that can be painful, but just as exciting.
You wrote: "He says part of my punishment is coming here and asking and after you reply he will give me what you guys recommend."
I don't believe it's a good idea to ask others to punish you, such as requesting suggestions for punishments. You need start with finding out what works for "you."
Your tolerance will vary from day to day. Implements that will be pure heaven one day, will be pure the hell the next week. Your mood, manner, and even hormones will play a role in how you react to a good spanking.
You and he will have to work to understand what works for you. People on a message board have so many vast ideas of what constitutes "a spanking" that I guess you'd get offers that "six of the best" would be enough, and others saying you need to get 100 solid whacks with the wooden paddle.
You have to figure what punishment fits the crime (if ya know what I mean  ).
I truly don't feel that an adult can be "punished" with corporal punishment, especially when spanking is a passion. Even when it hurts, it hurts good, right? <eg>
Experiment to find your comfort level, and then with time, work to go past that level. I have found that a personal tolerance goes down considerably with a "real" spanking, when it's for punishment purposes. It's not the spanking that "hurts," as much as the disappointment or guilt for the act that prompted it.
Also, I'd like to suggest you do a web search for "spanking FAQ" and you'll find some very good informational web sites, that give great general info for the beginner. (I would've posted the sites, but am unfamiliar with the rules here.)
Have some "fun" with it before you make it too harsh. If you start out with "punishment" spankings that are to truly "punish," you could lose your interest in it, and he may find there's no pleasure in it at all. Head first is usually only good when jumping in the deep end, in a swimming pool. 
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 148
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 12:43 pm: |
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FTopinMichigan - your post was right on. I have a converted vanilla for a hubby and even now sometimes he gets it right and other times he does not. But it was a very slow learning process and we took it in very little steps. Punishment was the last to take place as we both needed to find out our comfort levels in the spanking process. Paticularly Mr. B in coming to grips with spanking me enough to make it hurt and not with just the little love taps.
Spanking is a very personal thing and only the two of you can decide what and where the limits should be. But take it slowly and be safe.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Babyj4
Advanced Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 716
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 01:35 pm: |
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i agree with Beachley and Ftop. take it slow
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Ftopinmichigan
New member
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 17
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 03:29 pm: |
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Beachley wrote: "Punishment was the last to take place as we both needed to find out our comfort levels in the spanking process. Paticularly Mr. B in coming to grips with spanking me enough to make it hurt and not with just the little love taps."
Exactly! Or the other thing for new spankers, is the experimental stage where you have to get over the idea that you are being abusive, or even actually REALLY hurting the person, by giving them the spanking they are truly asking for. I have heard men and women spankers talk about the fear of hurting someone, the first times they starting spanking.
But...the careful disclaimer, sort of mentioned before....you could be creating a monster.  When the spanker finds out that the spanking is getting the hot or desired reactions...the spanker (i.e. "me" ) really starts spankin'!
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Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 149
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, October 09, 2005 - 10:13 pm: |
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LOL Ftopinmichigan - so very true. Be careful what you are wishing for... sometimes you end up getting more than you bargained for.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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