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Vulcano
New member
Username: Vulcano
Post Number: 36
Registered: 08-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 19, 2005 - 03:46 am: | 
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Ok, we've talked about punishment spankings, sensual spankings, breaking spankings, emotional release spankings and maybe even more... they all seem to be an expression of something, the guilt, the sensuality and sexuality, emotions, blockings... but where you ever fanscinated by the pain itself??? By the fact how much a person can endure and what it's like? It's not sexual in the strict sense of that, I know very painful spankings that still turn me on during it... this one is not sexual in this sense (it's arousing, for sure, but not during the very act)... it's not for punishment, it's not to make me cry etc. It's really rather because of the pain itself, I don't know how to say... does anyone know this kind of spankings and is s/he able to express it better?? I guess there are soooo many reasons why to go and let yourself be spanked, the spankings can talk about our mood at the very moment a lot, I think. But maybe there's something about the spankings we like or prefer, or our spanking fascination in general, that says a lot about us. Why are we so fascinated by spanking... and why are we so fascinated by pain if anyone ever went this nonsensual, nonpunishment etc. direction? What do you think??
P.S. By the way, I must say that I haven't experienced such a spanking yet, didn't get open to it, but fantisize a lot about it and recently realized that both of us, me and my partner are extremely fascinated by something like this too, but both of us both wish it and also evade it somehow. He doesn't want to hurt me and I'm afraid to give myself to experience something that strong... there were flashes of that in our spankings and I always backed up, insisting I want only sensual or punishment spankings and nothing else.. but I guess, that until one opens to it completely to it, no opposing in no way, one can get seriously hurt... it's no fun... it's so strange to admit that one can endure a lot and doesn't have to shield oneself by feelings of guilt that would enable him to go through a strong pain. Maybe if one let go of such a shield, the experience might be special...
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Ftopinmichigan
Junior Spanko
Username: Ftopinmichigan
Post Number: 66
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 19, 2005 - 08:26 am: |
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Hi, Vulcano.
In my experience, when someone wants pure pain...it's for the pure pleasure of it. Pain is pleasure to those that crave it, IMO. The mind might tell them it's one thing, but the body reminds them what it's all about.
I've not heard of someone enjoying pain, for pain's sake. There's "something" that is drawing them to it, although they might not be able to express what that is.
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Sundance
New member
Username: Sundance
Post Number: 11
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 19, 2005 - 09:32 am: |
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Hi Vulcano,
I to like the pain from a severe spanking.At the time it is happing,I reall want it to stop but,after it does stop,I want more.It is like there is so much relief from the pain that it makes everything better.I was not punished for any reason but,used to get hard and severe spankings just for the pure pleasure of getting them.
I am new at expressing myself here but,I will get better at it sooner or later.
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Celticbratt
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Username: Celticbratt
Post Number: 31
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 19, 2005 - 01:03 pm: |
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Punishment spankings are meant to hurt in a bad way. The few I've had were because I messed up in a BIG way, and this is how we fix things between us. I feel guilty, he is ROYALLY pissed off, so instead of fighting and carrying on for days or weeks I submit to him. It's a choice, and he sees it for what it is, and it goes a long way toward fixing things. My Dom treats punishment spankings different from play/sexual spankings in a few ways- He won't touch me at all-I HATE that. Just feeling him hold my hand or stroke my head during a regular spanking calms me and makes it easier for me to take, so he takes that comfort away from me I also don't get any type of warm up for a punishment spanking.If you've spent any time on the boards, I'm sure you know that most punishment spankings aren't even close to as hard as a play spanking....we just mind it a LOT more, and it feels more painful.The last time I got punished, I really hurt him, and it could have ended our relationship, if we lived vanilla. But instead, when it was over, we actually felt closer. As far as pain in a play/sexual spanking,sometimes it doesn't really "hurt", so much as get your attention...sometimes he hits me at about the same intensity as a very vigorous massage- doesn't REALLY hurt, is just strong. For times when he's harder, I compare it to running long distance- some people love running- I happen to HATE it,can't think of a good reason for it, unless being chased by a REALLY pissed off Dom But the point I'm trying to make is that runners get beyond the pain of the actual running, and get lost in the endorphin rush, the tempo, ect.It helps when you are lucky enough to be with an amazing man who happens to be EXCELLENT at what he does... |
Badtom
New member
Username: Badtom
Post Number: 29
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Friday, October 21, 2005 - 07:14 am: |
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I think I don't enjoy pain in itself, it's something that sparks off/increases feelings of submitting, even if it's to my own hand.
For instance, I have experienced the sharp pain of putting a clothes peg on my nipple - that must be the most painful thing I've done in the name of my fetish, and it was utterly unbearable but also turned me on - if I'm not far away from coming then add a pinch to the nipples and it can send me there. I guess any part of the body that can make me hot if it receives pain must be an erogenous zone. I can't imagine getting off on toothache, or a bad stomach! |
Sdhrts
New member
Username: Sdhrts
Post Number: 11
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 24, 2005 - 03:23 am: |
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The pain from a severe spanking (which is how I like um)is something I personally enjoy quite a bit. I've been told I have such a high tolerance. But, if I were to skin a shin, whack a finger I'd be a most unhappy about it. I try not to contemplate it much, and chalk it up to the endorphin surge triggered by the sexy excitement. Can only speak for myself though. Love to here other's thoughts on it. |
Beachley
Spanko
Username: Beachley
Post Number: 160
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 24, 2005 - 05:49 pm: |
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I've never been able to get past the initial pain even very mild pain in order to get that endorphin rush. If I could I may think differently about pain for pains sake. I.E. if the pain was leading me to something else then I could see it. But I don't think I'll be able to get past the initial pain to reach that level.
The Spice of Life is having my OWN WAY!! A spanking would be nice.
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Shylah
Spanko
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 240
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 24, 2005 - 06:53 pm: |
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I don't think it's so much the pain for me. It's the feeling I get being over that knee. Makes me feel like a little girl. Feeling the panties come down and knowing my bare bum is exposed seems to drown out the pain. I know I'm getting smacked and I know it's hurting but all the other feelings and emotions seem to override the pain.
I am the Queen of the F***** Universe!!! Any questions???
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Tanjas_brat
New member
Username: Tanjas_brat
Post Number: 5
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 25, 2005 - 06:42 am: |
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yeah i agree w/ you shylah. just got the spanking of my life a couple of days ago.my ass is literally black and blue now. but at the time of the spanking i was enjoying having it given to me otk and being exposed bare that i did'nt even feel that much pain!untill i tried to sit down the next day!
plus all of the squirming to get away took my mind off of any discomfort.it was awesome!!!!!!!!}} |
Babyj4
Supreme Spanko
Username: Babyj4
Post Number: 1652
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 25, 2005 - 08:53 am: |
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I don't get a warm up durring a punishment either, and my husband being as strong as he is it doesn't take long before I am squerming to get away. I bought this new hair brush to straighten my hair with, it has a large flat back, and he has decided it is his new favorite toy. I hate it! It stings to the point it is unbareable, and then once the spanking is over the pain is gone, so I have a hard time remembering my lesson. It is important to feal the spanking for some time after it is over, so it makes the right impression.
Babyj- worlds cutest little brat!
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Theschoolmarm
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Username: Theschoolmarm
Post Number: 4
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, October 25, 2005 - 04:26 pm: |
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I don't receive punishment spankings (at least, not yet!)  I do know that I like the pain of the spanking, along with all the surrounding activity. The pain is really all I have, right now, as I mentioned in another post, and I sort of want it to last as long as possible. I find myself wanting more, harder, slower, faster, different tools...whatever will increase the 'ouch' and maybe leave a few marks for a while.
Stupid people make my brain sad...
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Wuqi
New member
Username: Wuqi
Post Number: 3
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, October 27, 2005 - 10:48 pm: |
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Schoolmarm said, "I don't receive punishment spankings (at least, not yet!) I do know that I like the pain of the spanking, along with all the surrounding activity. The pain is really all I have, right now, as I mentioned in another post, and I sort of want it to last as long as possible. I find myself wanting more, harder, slower, faster, different tools...whatever will increase the 'ouch' and maybe leave a few marks for a while."
Wow! I so much agree with this.} |
Shadowrose45
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Username: Shadowrose45
Post Number: 19
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, October 31, 2005 - 09:47 pm: |
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It's not about pain for me- it's abouy giving up control. I get my 'pleasure' out of not having the control to stop till 'he' was ready.
But, if the entire thing was't done right, I'd just get pissed off.
But, for fun, it's about the nice sting |
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