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Sassyaawaa
Junior Spanko
Username: Sassyaawaa
Post Number: 60
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 02, 2006 - 04:11 pm: | 
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I receive spankings but I am friends with quite a few who switch. Here is my question (actually it is something someone asked me) If someone is a switch, should they receive from the same person they spank? If not, why? I responded with "I will post your question on the spanking den, but I think that it isn't all that uncommon." "I do think that as a spankee I would probably have a problem holding that person as an authoritative figure if I knew I was going to spank him as well. Everyone always gives such great opinions on various subjects so I thought I would throw this one into the mix.  |
Blistering_blonde
New member
Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 35
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, April 02, 2006 - 04:30 pm: |
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. ok as a switch i can answer this ...
even in my wildest fantasys i would NEVER spank my hubby in seriousness ...for him i would only give pleasure ones ..as you say ..to totally dominate him i would lose my submission ..
BUT ...my belief is everyone needs a good tingling rear at times ....
needless to say .. SHOULD i HAPPEN to ohhhhhhhhh shall i say crack his backside a lil hard ...in a quick HARD session ..it never seems to fail ...that i find myself dangling over his lap ..stareing at the floor while i feel the shooting stars ..reminding me ..that i may be a switch ..but HE IS NOT....
i could NEVER allow another man to spank me ..its my hubbys property...and for SOME REASON he really does not like to share.
....hmmm now that i wrote this ..i think tonight i just may have to start a lil tender loving spanking for him.... ....
would ANYONE blame me ..if i should ..ACCIDENTLY crack a few FAST hard ones ....
sucks being a bratty switch ...with one who will ONLY switch for play .....somehow i ALWAYS win ...oh i mean lose ...yeah ..thats it ..i ALWAYS lose the spank fight ...hehehehehe |
Sassyaawaa
Junior Spanko
Username: Sassyaawaa
Post Number: 61
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 02, 2006 - 06:37 pm: |
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LOL LOL LOL Blistering, you had me cracking up but I do appreciate your answer and honesty.
Could I every BLAME you if you should accidently crack a few fast hard ones in order to get the nite started? Not on your life!! If I thought that would stir things up around here, I would definitely go for it. Unfortunately, Hubby is not feeling up to par so I shall behave (grown, pout)
I hope you win/lose/win/lose LOL you know what I mean!
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Pagan
Spanko
Username: Pagan
Post Number: 381
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, April 02, 2006 - 08:16 pm: |
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I switched with a former partner for several years. It didn't affect our dynamic, but we 'only' spanked erotically and in play.
I spanked him because he enjoyed it. Nothing to do with being authoritative.
He did the same, but would also spank me playfully. Along the 'what did you just say to me?' line...
Not only did it not occur to me to give him a quick, playful spanking for 'bratting'...the 9 inches between us would have made it impossible.  |
Fireman_chris
Junior Spanko
Username: Fireman_chris
Post Number: 56
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, April 03, 2006 - 12:46 am: |
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It very much depends on the dynamic of the relationship. With my wife, I'm the top 95% of more of the time. We do some disciplinary, but its a rather small part of our relationship...most of the time, spanking is foreplay for us, or just for fun. When we do delve into discipline, its only with her getting spanked. The occasional times that she spanks me are always for fun.
I was involved in another L/T spanking relationship before my wife which had more discipline involved (though still fun and role play too), and that partner never wanted to spank me for the reason you mentioned...she didn't think she could see me as an authority figure if she spanked me.
I have another friend with whom I've played with R/L only once but whom I chat with several times a week. We have a more true switch relationship. It touches on discipline occasionally, but usually of a more teasing nature. She's involved with another switch, and their relationship is more disciplinary-based on both sides. They tend to go through phases where one will be the top for a period (sometimes months) and the other the bottom, and then eventually shift the other way.
As you slide down the banisters of life
may the splinters never point the wrong way.
Old Irish Proverb
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Sassyaawaa
Junior Spanko
Username: Sassyaawaa
Post Number: 63
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Monday, April 03, 2006 - 05:18 am: |
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Thank you for your feedback, I will pass it along. I really love hearing about other spanking experiences. I also love this site because no one judges anyone else and it seems everyone is honest about the way spanking is involved in their relationship. I rarely "brat" as some call it, I just don't always do the "right" or "best" thing, especially when it comes to taking care of myself; so that is when I end up getting taught a valuable lesson. Have a great day everyone. |
Ankah_lavine
New member
Username: Ankah_lavine
Post Number: 1
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, April 03, 2006 - 06:47 pm: |
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*dives right in*
Boyfriend and I are sort of switch. At first he would NEVER EVER let me, but as he got more seriously into spanking me, I think his thoughts changed a bit. He was curious ((who wouldn't be? The boy had never been spanked in his life!))-- but, as the first person said, it's only light and fun with him ((no implements, only my hand)), not as serious as it is with me. If I happen to slap him a little too hard, he'll warn me-- if I do it again, he's up and suddenly we're reversed!
Switching can be fun, but I always know that I want him to be the 'in charge' so to say, even when it's him over my knee. |
Pillow_girl
New member
Username: Pillow_girl
Post Number: 15
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 04, 2006 - 01:42 am: |
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I smack Hubbys bottom with my hand and then run because I know he is going to get even but that is just play, I love him as the boss of the house so I could not switch in a serious way. but don't take my post too serious because i believe every couple has to find their own path.
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Blistering_blonde
New member
Username: Blistering_blonde
Post Number: 36
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, April 04, 2006 - 10:39 am: |
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Hehe I got to comment Ankha_lavine ...
admit it, you SOMETIMES hit him harder, just to get switched on ..like i do ..its such a shame that we must lose the spanking wars ...is it not ...hehe ...(*well we LET them think we lost ..but ...you know... WE mark it up as a win)
But your right i LOVE the fact that even as i spank him i KNOW that he is INFACT really in control. I think it would lose the sub space feel if i ever took he's control away ....if even for a punishment ....
Heck he can have ALL the play he wants i prefer being the one with the stinging rear when something was done wrong ....who has TIME to punish him too...got too much bad left to do.
And its a tough job ..but SOMEONE has to do it |
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