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Otter
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Username: Otter

Post Number: 9
Registered: 03-2006


Posted on Tuesday, April 04, 2006 - 10:34 pm:   Edit Post

If y'all have already gone through this, just point me to the threads but maybe there are some new people since then (well, I know there's me, so...LOL).

Anyway, I am wondering what you guys get spanked for or what you spank your sub for, if you are the dom? How does your system work? I am just a nosy parker and like to get into other people's business!
"It was something magic out of something frightening. That's how I live my life, I take it as it comes. In my mind I see the rocking horse inside the tree." -Sara Evans
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 239
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 11:30 am:   Edit Post

LOL~~~~at least you are honest, Otter :-) I get spanked for 3 things: disrespect, disobedience, and dishonesty (the 3 Ds)--Guess those cover a lot of ground! :-)
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Gamesmas
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Post Number: 2
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 01:39 pm:   Edit Post


The 3 D's are probably the most common, but I also get spanked for smoking too much. ( I've been trying to quit )
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Pillow_girl
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Post Number: 17
Registered: 03-2006
Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 01:39 pm:   Edit Post

Gee I guess 10 to maybe 20 percent of the time it is for something I did that I wasn't supposed to or not doing something I supposed to, but most of the time it is just to keep me in line, he lets me know just who the boss is and it's not me!!!
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Puppyface
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Post Number: 6
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 02:01 pm:   Edit Post

We have rules I am suppost to follow but I can't ever seem to do that. I agree with Pillow_girl, most of the time my husband spanks me just because I need it. He can tell when I am stressed & a good spanking seems to calm me down. I can't explain it but I do feel better after a good spanking. Thankfully we are still at the beginning stages of our DD relationship. Once the kids move out we will act on the spanking more.
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 242
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 02:49 pm:   Edit Post

Oh...did I forget to mention the good-girl spankings????? Those are the best

If I get stressed, then Hubby knows it's a spanking I need - that's because the stress will cause me to either be disrespectful, disobedient, or dishonest!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Spankboy80
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Post Number: 3
Registered: 04-2006


Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 03:35 pm:   Edit Post

My old girlfriend used to spank me...whenever she felt like it! Not that I complained.. I loved it. She would typically put me over her knee, pull my boxers down and paddle my butt with a hairbrush or just use her bare hands..and spank away until my butt was quite red! Needless to say, I had a sore butt for a while after her spankings, but it was worth it haha
A red butt is a happy butt !
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Needspankin
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Post Number: 8
Registered: 03-2006
Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 03:51 pm:   Edit Post

I am spanked for the 3D's! I do have specific rules to follow...so most of my spankings are a result of disobeying one of the rules. My Dom has broken my caffeine addiction and now we are working on my diet. I am 5' 3" and 110 pounds...so I'm not losing weight, but I eat horribly and I have Crohn's Disease. My diet is key to going into and staying in remission from it. SO, right now I am NOT to have sweets--which kills me. And, I'm not allowed to skip a meal. I've been spanked 2 times in the last 5 days for breaking this rule. I also have to take my medications on time, get them refilled on time, and make all doctors appointments in a timely manner! I am barely 30 years old, so I HAVE to take care of me, if for nothing else, my kids. So, as much as it hurts, I would be so upset if he didn't spank me!
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Sassyaawaa
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Username: Sassyaawaa

Post Number: 74
Registered: 03-2006


Posted on Wednesday, April 05, 2006 - 06:03 pm:   Edit Post

I am spanked for 2 out of 3 of the 3'D...disrespect and disobedience. I am also spanked for not walking on the treadmill often enough and for not doing better with my goal to quit smoking. Needspankin, I have IBS so I can relate to what you are saying and I understand that the whole "lower your stress" "keep away from certain foods" "make sure you take your medication" "check with the doctor often" rules can be taxing and sometimes we get fed up with "following the rules" that we forget once in awhile to do one of the above. I am happy that you have someone to help you take care of your disease because I have seen people in the hospital with Crohn's and my heart just breaks for them when their disease is in flare-up mode.
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 246
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Thursday, April 06, 2006 - 04:48 am:   Edit Post

Guess the rules are for our own good, right? We are very lucky to have our S/O care so much for our well-being. If he did not spank me, I would be worried!

PS...love the pic under your nick Sassy!!
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Sassyaawaa
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Username: Sassyaawaa

Post Number: 80
Registered: 03-2006


Posted on Thursday, April 06, 2006 - 07:11 am:   Edit Post

Awwwww, thank you Pinkcheeks.

Welllllllllllll, let me think.....yes, some of the rules are for our own good.....others are just good for breaking

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Otter
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Post Number: 12
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Posted on Thursday, April 06, 2006 - 01:38 pm:   Edit Post

Yeah, you all sound pretty much like us. I get it for the 3 D's though we never thought of it that way. I have pretty good control of my mouth (thank goodness, if my hubby had the whole "thinking about sin is the same as sinning", I would be over the couch at least four times a week)so I don't get in trouble for disrespect too much. I have an online friend who gets spanked for "dumb insolence". Meaning he can see on her face that she is thinking of disrespectful things to say and so she gets it. Luckily for me, my husband doesn't do that!

Mostly, I get spanked for disobedience, either breaking rules (which all have to do with taking care of myself or our money) or not doing what I'm told to do. Most of my spankings are for eating the wrong things or not doing my skincare routine (I have eczema) or not taking care of myself in other ways. And then dishonesty because I usually convince myself it's not that big a thing and either lie about it or hide it for awhile.

I also get spanked as stress relief. He knows I need one because I'll start not wanting to be touched. My skin gets all creepy crawly (also related to the eczema and certain brain chemicals). So he'll try to hug me and I'll wriggle away and be kind of whiny and he'll say "Do you need a spanking?" (Yeah, like I'm gonna say yes to that question! Especially when I'm whiny and pouty and in a terrible mood!) So I say, "I dunno, maybe" he hates when people pronounce I don't know like that. So then he says, "well, we can wait until this pissy mood earns you one..." so then I roll my eyes and say, "fine, I guess I need one" and then he says "...and it didn't even take 30 seconds!" It's not as bad as a punishment spanking though because there's no lecture, just the "who owns you? who takes you in hand? who loves you?" stuff. Just reconnecting.

Oh, and then I get spanked just because he feels like it. He says "just to remind you who's in charge". I guess they are kind of like what you guys call good girl spankings but sometimes they do happen when my good girl status is hanging on by a thread, LOL. It's either "you have been really good for the last couple weeks and I want to make sure that continues so I'm just going to remind you who's in charge" or "though you haven't been actually misbehaving, I am seeing some slips in your behavior and I'm going to head that off by reminding you who's in charge" worse than stress relief spankings, but better than actual punishment spankings.

So, there's me, just thought I'd share since I was the one who asked.
"It was something magic out of something frightening. That's how I live my life, I take it as it comes. In my mind I see the rocking horse inside the tree." -Sara Evans
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Fanny
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Post Number: 2091
Registered: 05-2005


Posted on Thursday, April 06, 2006 - 05:11 pm:   Edit Post

Truthfully, the reason I get spanked is because my husband loves doing and he CAN do it. So it is done, no other explanation needed.
Queen of Innocence

"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Fireman_chris
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Username: Fireman_chris

Post Number: 59
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Thursday, April 06, 2006 - 05:19 pm:   Edit Post

My wife and I primarily engage in playful spanking, but there is an element of discipline occasionally. Usually, its either due to her acting up (which, admittedly, is usually because she wants a spanking, either consciously or subconsciously) or due to some sort of careless and/or dangerous behavior on her part.

For example, a couple years ago, she had a bad habit of leaving her keys hanging in the lock. After a couple of times of just scolding her about it, I told her she'd start getting spanked every time she did it. We have an old mahogany hairbrush that is pretty much reserved for true punishment spankings, and after a couple times of that, she no longer leaves her keys in the lock.

The other time that comes to mind is when she used to dump the contents of our paper shredder loose into the recycling can we keep in the garage. The contents then got covered up with other paper before I dumped the can into our outside can. As you can imagine, the result was little bits of shredded paper all over the driveway. The first time, I told her that if she ever did that again, I'd spank her. The second time (which also happened to be in the rain), I came in the house, pulled her into the bedroom and warmed her little butt good. ;) It hasn't happened since.
As you slide down the banisters of life
may the splinters never point the wrong way.
Old Irish Proverb
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Kryssi
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Post Number: 33
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Monday, April 10, 2006 - 11:54 am:   Edit Post

I get spanked for the 3 d's as well as my temper (mostly falls under the disrespect category, although it's not alway directed at anyone or anything).
"I'm so tired of being here... supressed by all my childish fears"

Evanescence ~ My Immortal
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Redhinney
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Username: Redhinney

Post Number: 383
Registered: 10-2005
Posted on Monday, April 10, 2006 - 01:40 pm:   Edit Post

Fireman Chris,

Forgive me if I'm wrong but aren't you suppose to put out fires not start them.
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Sassyaawaa
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Username: Sassyaawaa

Post Number: 100
Registered: 03-2006


Posted on Tuesday, April 11, 2006 - 02:20 pm:   Edit Post

ROTFLMAO!! That is tooo funny Red!
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Fireman_chris
Junior Spanko
Username: Fireman_chris

Post Number: 61
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Wednesday, April 12, 2006 - 02:42 pm:   Edit Post

Most of the time, yes, but that's one fire I thoroughly enjoy lighting. :D
As you slide down the banisters of life
may the splinters never point the wrong way.
Old Irish Proverb
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Ladygator2904
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Post Number: 27
Registered: 03-2006
Posted on Wednesday, April 12, 2006 - 04:35 pm:   Edit Post

Well, as you know Gary and I are new at this. Seems I get spanked daily now. Mostly for my mouth:-) it needs a lot of taming. Funny thing, I feel so much more relaxed and happier now with this dd lifestyle... THanks you all. Yesterday Gary said, "you are a good wife!" So nice to hear especially since my x made me feel so disposable.. sigh..
A woman`s heart is filled with an ocean of secrets!
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 278
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Wednesday, April 12, 2006 - 06:06 pm:   Edit Post

Lady...don't think about your ex, or the past - focus on the great life you are creating now with Gary - it sounds as if you two are really enjoying the benefits of DD ...good for you! :-)
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Sassyaawaa
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Username: Sassyaawaa

Post Number: 106
Registered: 03-2006


Posted on Wednesday, April 12, 2006 - 09:26 pm:   Edit Post

Wonderful news, Lady ~~ Kudos to you Gary!!

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