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Uh_oh
New member
Username: Uh_oh
Post Number: 5
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 11:32 am: | 
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yesterday i was switched. really really hard. if some of you don't know, im only spanked as discipline by a mentor about every other week. well, i really f'ed up and did something horrible, which got me paddled, strapped, and switched. i was switched last, i recieve 24 of them. but what was the worst was that i was only suppossed to recieve 6! but everytime i was sent outside to find a switch, it was the "wrong" one! i was getting so frustrated because everytime i walked back in and was like here, it was turned down and more strokes were added! i hate picking a switch! i just wanted everyone to know that...i can never seem to pick the right one! its either too flimsy, too short, too long, too thick...gosh, if its that crucial, then y dont they just go get it themselves! gee it would make life a lot easier and my butt would appreciate it. i just wanted to share and get that off my chest. my butt is sooo sore...i have welts galore!
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Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1558
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 01:44 pm: |
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Ouchie!
Ann's hubby Mr. B, gave my Steve a plastic switch he bought at a fetish fair a few months ago. Perfect length and size...hurts like hell! I have yet to figure out how I'll thank him for his little gift...
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Uh_oh
New member
Username: Uh_oh
Post Number: 6
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 01:59 pm: |
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lol ouch...plastic sounds like it would hurtttt...thank him by throwing it in the garbage! orrrr i gotta better idea! melt it with fire, that way noone can trace it back and find it! yahhh thats a good one! |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1560
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 02:31 pm: |
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All wonderful ideas Uh oh...but my Dom already has it, and if I managed to get it away from him and destroy it, I would probably get a worse spanking from him AND Mr. B!!!
I think I'll pass and hope he doesnt use it often. 
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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Redhinney
Spanko
Username: Redhinney
Post Number: 404
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006 - 06:17 pm: |
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Never been made to go out to get a switch but up until this week I would have said that or a cane it would never have been used on me but a kind neighbor was cutting down his chines bamboo garden and gave Bill some to use as plant stakes for the tomatoes I guess he could resist the idea of using on of the bamboo canes on me Let me just add owie was not the word that came out of my mouth. Dam it hurt and it hurt for 2 days after not to mention the mark if left on my butt
Love can't always be seen or heard but will always be felt with your heart
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Sissy9
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Username: Sissy9
Post Number: 3
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 23, 2006 - 12:55 am: |
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I can't even think about getting the switch used on me that many times! My Dom had me go cut my own switch once. The psychological impact of having to look for something that is going to be used on you,cut it,and then walk it into your spanker is punishment alone! I also did it wrong,I cut it from the wrong area to start with, it didn't go over well,and I wasn't trying to upset him at that point,believe me! When I get the switch used on me, I can't stay in one spot, if I'm bent over,I shoot stright up,from the pain. I know it feels different,on how it is used. There are times it will shoot stright up your back,and other times, the pain is consintrated in the butt area? Anyway I felt like I was about ten years old or so, when he told me to go in the back yard and cut it,the child in me really showed itself. I don't think I ever felt more Dominated.I can't picture where your mind would go,while being switched that many times, and I thought I had a strong pain tolerance. I know my Dom lets me slide a lot,providing I don't go over the limit,and I have,LOL. |
Sissy9
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Username: Sissy9
Post Number: 4
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 23, 2006 - 01:15 am: |
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Iam still thinking about that switch,which brings up a question? What is the difference between a Dom, and a disciplianarian,and a mentor? I have been in a real life Dom,sub relationship for going on four years now. You can tell I don't get out much,LOL , but, seriously not talking out lifestyle till now , you miss out on comparing notes ,so to speak, just curious. |
Uh_oh
New member
Username: Uh_oh
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 23, 2006 - 07:29 am: |
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hmmm...i guess mine can be a disciplinarian/mentor. i am disciplined when i do something wrong and help, advice, etc is the mentoring part. they are a LARGE part of my life...you see, i dont have any parents, so this person in my life fills that role for me...you know? so, i hate to disappoint them, i really do. and no...i dont have a high pain tolerence! lol it took like 1/2 hour to admisister those 24 strokes...lol...i hope that answers ur question sissy9 |
Otter
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Username: Otter
Post Number: 35
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 23, 2006 - 02:43 pm: |
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I think a lot of the difference between a Dom, Top, Mentor and Disciplinarian has to do with personal preference and the kind of words that people like to use to characterize their own relationship.
To my mind (though this is not always the case when you actually talk to people who self describe with these words), words like Mentor and Disciplinarian mean that the relationship is mostly about spanking, punishment, discipline, behavior modification, stress relief for one or both parties, etc. I think of these terms to mean nonsexual relationships(though again,that is not always true), though the people involved often do care about each other very deeply the relationship is mostly about punishment/discipline.
When I hear a word like Dom, I usually think of a sexual relationship, with the domination sometimes being exclusively a sexual thing. To me, this is a *very* BDSM word. This could also be used to describe the dominant person in a romantic long term relationship.
Personally, my spanking relationship is with my husband; we practice Domination in the bedroom (with lots of BDSM, all meanings included) and in our relationship (we have a male-dominant relationship in which we practice DD). The domination in our lives is sexual and daily. If I am going to use a "lifestyle" term to describe my husband, it will be HOH or Top. It kind of depends on whether I am talking more about sexual BDSM or our lifestyle D/s, how radical I want to appear, the group that I am posting to (IRL, I always just call him my husband or "the man") Once in a while, I will use the term "Master" as well, because I am collared, though not on a daily basis. I feel free to use whatever term I want because our relationship encompasses all the elements of Master/Dom/Top/Mentor/Disciplinarian, etc. that I have ever heard described. I have to admit though that I don't use the word "Dom" much because it reminds me of Dom DeLouise and, though he was hilarious!, who wants *that* visual when talking about their husband/partner, LOL!
Again, everyone's mileage varies and much of it has more to do with the *connotation* that one wants to give to their relationship than the actual *definition* of the words used. I would love to hear other people's takes on this subject! Great question, Sissy!
"It was something magic out of something frightening. That's how I live my life, I take it as it comes. In my mind I see the rocking horse inside the tree." -Sara Evans
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Uh_oh
New member
Username: Uh_oh
Post Number: 8
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 23, 2006 - 03:07 pm: |
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well for me...like i said, my parents died. i really have noone left, and here came someone that wanted to care about me and my well being. my mentor/disciplinarian cares about me even outside of the whole realm of spanking and discipline. i look to my mentor as a sort of parent rather than anything else. i have known this person for almost 3 years now...so to me, its more parental than anything else. no sexual interaction or feelings but we do love each other, much like a parent loves their child. so hopefully that is a little bit of a better explanation to that topic in regards to me.  |
Sissy9
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Username: Sissy9
Post Number: 6
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, April 23, 2006 - 11:00 pm: |
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Thank you,otter,and Uh_oh,for taking the time to explain all the different terms,that's a tuff one. Guess I need it all...LOL |
Victoria_wood
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Username: Victoria_wood
Post Number: 7
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, April 24, 2006 - 07:18 am: |
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So how does a switch feel compared to a cane?
Cheers,
Victoria
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Uh_oh
New member
Username: Uh_oh
Post Number: 11
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Monday, April 24, 2006 - 07:51 am: |
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it bites a lot more!!!! it freaking kills...i dont wish that upon anyone!! every stroke bites into the skin, and between strokes, i can totally feel it just burning up within my butt and shooting through my body. its wicked and leaves nasty nasty marks that last about a week or so. a major major ouchie |
Wolfie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Wolfie
Post Number: 1568
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, April 24, 2006 - 08:07 am: |
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I dont believe there's much of a difference between a Dom, disciplinarian or mentor. Usually theres no sexual involvement with a disciplinarian or mentor, as the focus is on discipline. And I suppose you can be in a relationship with a Dom that doesnt include discipline...although it would be rare.
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be.
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