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Naughtyboy50s
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Username: Naughtyboy50s

Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Tuesday, May 09, 2006 - 03:57 am:   Edit Post

Has anyone,besides myself, ever spanked themselves and if so,to what degree? (pink,red)
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Victoria_wood
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Username: Victoria_wood

Post Number: 77
Registered: 04-2006


Posted on Tuesday, May 09, 2006 - 05:45 am:   Edit Post

When I was a teenager, I spanked myself with a belt to see what it felt like. It left black and blue marks. I think I also did it once or twice when I was in my '30s b/c I was craving it. I always felt like a freak about it, but I know now, thanks to the internet, that it's typical spanko behavior.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Subbie
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Post Number: 15
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Tuesday, May 09, 2006 - 03:29 pm:   Edit Post

Did it when i was married to my first husband, he was a non spanker, i tried using the belt, paddle and a hairbrush which was the easiest and most effective to use, flame red afterwards, and sometimes had some marks which lasted a couple of days. even if i wasn't married to a real good spanker, i don't think i would do it again.
i am so good, so spank me and make me bad
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Naughtyboy50s
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Post Number: 3
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Friday, May 12, 2006 - 04:04 am:   Edit Post

Actually, what excited me the most was (is),the feeling after. Sitting down the next day and feeling the results of a good spanking arouses me. Added humiliation is the feeling of nylon panties on my bottom,but that's another thread!
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Shylah
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Username: Shylah

Post Number: 894
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Friday, May 12, 2006 - 05:33 am:   Edit Post

I'm for anyone doing what they feel is best.

Self spanking is not for me tho.
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Victoria_wood
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Username: Victoria_wood

Post Number: 91
Registered: 04-2006


Posted on Friday, May 12, 2006 - 06:35 am:   Edit Post

Personally, I don't find self-spanking either arousing or effective.
Cheers,
Victoria
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Pinkcheeks
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Username: Pinkcheeks

Post Number: 400
Registered: 12-2005


Posted on Friday, May 12, 2006 - 08:55 am:   Edit Post

For me....tried it...did nothing...but like Shylah said, if it makes someone feel good - then great :-)

**I sooooo much prefer my hubby's hand
"Thought I WAS being a good girl...really I did!"
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Tplayer
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Post Number: 11
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Friday, May 12, 2006 - 12:42 pm:   Edit Post

I've tried it on several occasions. Once, I did it several times over a weekend and really got a rush over that(and left some very impressive marks). Like you, Naughtyboy50, the feeling afterwards is very enjoyable. The connection is absent, though
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Gypsygirl
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Username: Gypsygirl

Post Number: 267
Registered: 04-2006


Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 05:08 am:   Edit Post

I think that it would depend on if I had someone to spank me or not. For those people who aren't in a spanking relationship or don't feel comfortable going to parties then it's a valid option if they yearn to feel sore and like the after effects. I'll admit to having given myself a couple of smacks with things but mainly to see how they felt before I propose them as implements but I don't think I would find it a very comfortable thing to do for a lengthy spanking, I mean that in the physical sense. I like the unexpectedness of where the next spank is going to land and also the feeling of 'being dealt with' neither of which is something you get with self spanking.
I foresee spankings........LOTS of spankings
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Chrissiebrat
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Post Number: 19
Registered: 03-2006
Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 05:40 am:   Edit Post

Gypsygirl, you are right about self spanking. I am not living in a spanking relationship and so at times it is better than nothing at all. But your right also, that it is quite uncomfortable. And I must admit that I don't continue full force when it hurts too much. I am angry with myself about that, but probably it's a natural reaction.
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Fanny
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Post Number: 2300
Registered: 05-2005


Posted on Monday, May 15, 2006 - 03:04 pm:   Edit Post

I can see the thrill that people can get from the stimulation of self spanking, but to me it is more of a connection thing. I would not get any more out of self spanking as self tickling, but maybe others can do that too. Maybe I just lack talent.
Queen of Innocence

"Well behaved woman rarely make history"
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Mistydawn
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Post Number: 13
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Wednesday, May 17, 2006 - 02:50 pm:   Edit Post

I tried once with a rope split at the ends. W. was away and he told me to do it over the phone cos he wasn't there. At first I couldn't even do it but it was ok after a bit. There was some connection because his voice was there but not the same without the hand. I've just realized one of my most used/favourite words is connection.
Misty
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Czechchick
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Post Number: 2
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Saturday, May 27, 2006 - 02:34 pm:   Edit Post

Sometimes I just MUST feel the sting of a spanking and when there is nobody else ... well, I lie on my bed and try to spank myself with my hairbrush. It is not very good because I cannot hurt myself too much but better than no spanking at all!!
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Little_miss
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Post Number: 15
Registered: 05-2006


Posted on Sunday, May 28, 2006 - 04:34 pm:   Edit Post

i don't think i've ever even entertained the idea. Until i was in a real relationship, i just fantasized. I don't really understand the appeal of it i guess.....maybe i should try it..lol
"Lately it just seems to me like we have the letters ADD branded into our mentality"
~Reliant K
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Sissy9
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Post Number: 20
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Sunday, June 11, 2006 - 05:49 pm:   Edit Post

I did a phone spanking four years ago,I felt really stupid at first,but the tone of my Dom's voice,carried me through,like I wouldn't dare not do it.I think it's all in how the top projects himself.I had made a paddle,covered in heavy swade,so the paddle itself was heavy.I didn't do the spanking right,too high,and I had to spank myself hard enough so he could hear it,and if he didn't I had to start over.When I was done,I was purple black and blue,and was in sub-space for days,not knowing what that was yet.Maybe we just connected well,but it worked! and hurt!I locked so bad,if anyone say it they probely would have wanted to lock me up,if they knew I did that to myself. He had a spanking story lined up ahead of time,Boss,employe ,anyway it worked.
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Weasel
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Post Number: 10
Registered: 06-2006
Posted on Monday, June 12, 2006 - 01:49 pm:   Edit Post

It's so hard to throw a surprise party for yourself! This is the conundrum I see in self-spanking. For me, the thrill of it is in being spanked by him. I will, when Mr W is watching, smack my buttcheek for his benefit, sometimes with an implement, sometimes with my hand. It gets his mind more in spank-me space much the same as watching me masturbate for him gets him hot. If he wanted to watch me beat my own ass for his pleasure, I'd do it. I doubt he'll ever ask for THAT but if it will turn him on, I'm game to give it a go!
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Atomicpuppy
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Username: Atomicpuppy

Post Number: 61
Registered: 08-2006


Posted on Thursday, August 17, 2006 - 03:31 pm:   Edit Post

I have done this many times,why? Well to start with I was the only one that knew(didn't share)so to curb my craving and to feel what the desire was all about.Bought wooden/leather and plastic paddles.From then on I tried everything I thought would give me that thrill.Prefer the sting to thud so a leather strap and tawse and a slipper was and has been great.With a very vivid mind I found it very horny especially as I could have been caught at anytime.Plus anywhere I could get away with doing it.As I lived in the country then it was quite easy.
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Ma_vie_en_rose
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Username: Ma_vie_en_rose

Post Number: 196
Registered: 01-2006


Posted on Friday, August 18, 2006 - 08:12 pm:   Edit Post

Yeah, I mean, I think everyone would prefer an actual spanking, but it happens sometimes. You just don't get a partner. I know it's been nearly 2 years since I've had a partner to spank me.

I'm mad for one.
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Mitch_otk
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Post Number: 2
Registered: 08-2006
Posted on Saturday, August 19, 2006 - 07:29 pm:   Edit Post

I've done it whern directed over the phone. Sharing that way is better than nothing. She told the number of strokes and where to land them ... the innner thighs hurt like hell! It is tough to continue at absolute full force, but it's also tough to keep going and going and going if she doesn't think you're hitting hard enough.
mitch
http://allthingsspanking.com/
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Sashaleigh
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Post Number: 6
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 01:44 pm:   Edit Post

Yes, actually I've self spanked only quite recently. Not for a thrill though, as some here have mentioned. I'm not sure if that would work for me. I've been into spanking in my mind for as long as I can remember and never actually spanked myself.

Now, though, I'm in a cyber relationship and sometimes when my Dom punishes me, self-spanking is a part of it. He chooses the implement, calls me on the phone, we have a webcam going and he directs the entire thing. He can see my bottom so he can judge what's going on with marking and all, and he's on the phone talking to me the entire time, so he'll tell me a number of strokes and I have to count out to him while he listens and watches, or sometimes he'll just tell me to keep spanking until he tells me to stop and that is actually a lot harder I think. To not stop when you're actually the one inflicting the pain. He's usually lecturing me or scolding me while this is going on and it's because he has me in the right frame of mind that the whole thing works. It's effective as far as leaving me with a sore bottom and also with the emotional closure that comes with a punishment. I do know that I'd be a lot sorer if he actually got a hold of me, lol. Also, of course that human touch during and afterwards would be priceless. Ya can't always get what ya want though, right? lol

Just my two cents...

Sashaleigh
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Tammynx
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Username: Tammynx

Post Number: 1057
Registered: 10-2005


Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 04:51 pm:   Edit Post

I was just wondering Sashaleigh did you feel a little silly the first time or did the phone call make it more real?? Having a web cam for him to watch...did that help??
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Sashaleigh
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Post Number: 7
Registered: 07-2006
Posted on Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 07:04 pm:   Edit Post

Well, the first time was when I didn't know him that well and he ordered me to self spank before I went to bed that night. I can't remember exactly what now, but nothing severe. That time, I felt silly a little bit. Tried to get to the right headspace, but being alone it was hard. I did it though, because I wanted to obey him.

I've never felt silly at all when we're doing it with the phone and cam because it's like he's right there. He talks to me like he's doing it himself and because he can see me, he knows exactly whats going on. There's no faking it, lol. Sometimes he watches my bottom as I spank it, then he'll tell me to look him in the eye, and he can read my expressions that way too. So it's about as real as you can get without being together. Hearing his voice on the phone makes the connection with him very intense and having the cam is a really positive thing. It's funny too, cause at first I was wary of a cam on my end of things, but now I feel completely comfortable and actually prefer to use it, rather than not. Of course, it's got me doing all sorts of things I never thought I'd have to in a cyber relationship...like corner-time. Can't get out of that, cause he watches. He even notices if I figit too much, lol

Hope that answers your question Tammynx...

Sashaleigh

I think w/out the cam and phone the cyber connection would feel lacking. At least in retrospect.
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Ma_vie_en_rose
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Username: Ma_vie_en_rose

Post Number: 197
Registered: 01-2006


Posted on Tuesday, August 22, 2006 - 10:28 pm:   Edit Post

ouch. i hadn't thought of cornertime with the cam.
Painful >.<!
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Bailey
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Post Number: 36
Registered: 04-2006
Posted on Wednesday, August 23, 2006 - 09:06 am:   Edit Post

I've never done corner time with a cam, but I have done it "remotely"... that is standing there while my Dominant is somewhere else, and waiting for his phone call to let me out. For something like that I don't think it makes much of a difference,but I would realy struggle with self spanking if he wanted that. I know he has made other girls inflict pain on themselves while he was on the phone with them, but as I said, I think I would struggle with that.

Bailey
"She makes love just like a woman ... but she breaks just like a little girl."
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Spankedteacher
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Post Number: 17
Registered: 04-2006


Posted on Wednesday, September 06, 2006 - 03:53 pm:   Edit Post

I'm a single woman and have not been in any relationship since before I embraced being a spanko, so self-spanking was and still is my only option. I have various implements and a very active imagination, so it works out well for me, but ideally, I would love to have someone to do it for me so that I could have that sense of anticipation/suspense and the control factor. Part of it for me is the humiliation, but I've realized recently that it's also relinquishing control to someone else.

Don't know if that helps you, but that's my story. :-)
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Jen_tour
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Post Number: 4
Registered: 09-2006
Posted on Friday, September 08, 2006 - 08:40 pm:   Edit Post

I have self spanked before, using the hairbrush and wooden spoon. I usually do it for a good 5 minutes. It is usually pink after I am done or sometimes red dependng on how harsh I do it.
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Naughtyboy50s
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Post Number: 39
Registered: 05-2006
Posted on Saturday, September 09, 2006 - 10:05 am:   Edit Post

Spankedteacher,
Absolutely, the humiliation is such a very important sexual stimulant for me! Spanking is my sexual trigger. A lot of folks here don't understand that, but I respect their opinions!
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Frankeegirl
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Post Number: 13
Registered: 08-2006
Posted on Sunday, September 10, 2006 - 08:17 am:   Edit Post

I agree with naughtyboy, there are lots of factors,such as humiliation, surrounding spanking that are equally important.
It matters not whether you win or lose; what matters is whether I win or lose.
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Spanked_and_denied
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Post Number: 1
Registered: 09-2006
Posted on Saturday, September 16, 2006 - 07:37 pm:   Edit Post

Hello all, i am newley registered here! i've read here and lurked for quite some time, and wish to chime in on this topic....

<edited for underage reference>



(Message edited by fanny on September 16, 2006)
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Zippo
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Username: Zippo

Post Number: 1662
Registered: 09-2005


Posted on Monday, September 18, 2006 - 11:20 am:   Edit Post

With distance now seperating K and myself, we have tried her self spanking with me directing the action over the phone, and while it may work for some, K says it lacks the realism because even though she is following my commands, she still ultimately has more contol, the submission factor has been greatly diminshed. Not to mention post spanking cuddle and comfort time.
The Brat Tamer...changing brats attitudes one smack at a time
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Whereartthoux3
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Post Number: 2
Registered: 09-2006
Posted on Monday, September 25, 2006 - 08:36 pm:   Edit Post

Err to me, self-spanking wouldn't have as good of an effect. I like the power of spankings...I guess that's what gets me goin'. So there's no power if it's just me spankin' myself. =(

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