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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1217
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 17, 2007 - 03:43 pm: | 
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I could use some input on this little problem that's developed recently. I've enjoyed using a butt plug before especially during spankings, but for some reason, the last two times we've tried it, it was an unpleasant experience for me and he had to take it out fairly quickly. I don't know what the problem was (we had plenty of lube and I was all relaxed and ready for it), and since I enjoy that type of play, I've decided I want to find a solution.
I looked around online but I didn't have much luck finding any reasonable discussions on this topic. Has anyone here had this problem before? Have you enjoyed anal play regularly but then one day you suddenly couldn't take it? If this is just another one of those new and exciting developments of a maturing body, I may scream. 
For now, I've bought myself an anal training kit that comes with three sizes of plugs: small, medium, and large. I'm going to give this a try and see what happens.
If anyone has any tips or advice please give me whatever you've got. This isn't the sort of thing I can ask my doctor about, you know. I can't even imagine how that conversation would go but somehow I don't think she'd be too helpful. |
Blushingbride
Spanko
Username: Blushingbride
Post Number: 57
Registered: 10-2006
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 17, 2007 - 11:30 pm: |
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I don't have any real tips to share, only that I have found the same thing. Sometimes it's great and sometimes it doesn't work for me. No ideas as to why.
So all I can say is good luck and keep us posted. If it works well for you, we may talk about trying something similar. |
Badgirl
Spanko
Username: Badgirl
Post Number: 54
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, January 31, 2007 - 06:51 pm: |
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Well, if it's any consolation, I'm in no way close to, hmm how did you put it, "a maturing body". But my bf and I had gone anal a few times, to mutual enjoyment. Then once it was so horribly painful that I think I was across the room crying with both hands over my bottom so quickly he was confused before concerned. We haven't tried since. The memory of that -- no way. But you are brave for trying it again ggod luck! |
Bratattitude
New member
Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 16
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, February 01, 2007 - 11:56 pm: |
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Bethie - I have been there! I love anal sex...I love penetraton during a spanking and then one night it was just like NO WAY! I couldn't relax enough to do anything...so we did not. A week or so later we pulled out some toys and spent a good amount of time working up to him playing with me there and BINGO it was all good. Perhaps your training device will do the smae.
I wish you all the best. I would die if I had "matured" out of that phase!  |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1245
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, February 02, 2007 - 12:34 am: |
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Okay, so this isn't unheard of, good to know! I was worried for awhile there. 
I think the training kit is working but I'm still concerned about how things will go in the heat of the moment. I'll let y'all know for sure when the time comes. I keep telling myself relaxation and lots of lube are the keys to success.
Btw, that whole "maturing body" thing is just wrong in so many ways that I wouldn't have been surprised if this was another example of it. If my body is getting so mature, why do I have pimples again??? Somebody explain that one to me.  |
Bratattitude
New member
Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 19
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 05, 2007 - 08:20 pm: |
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I was worried for abit, too! These pages come in so handy for people to talk to about this stuff!! I am so glad I found all of you to talk with. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1256
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, February 05, 2007 - 09:13 pm: |
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It really is good to have each other for this stuff! I'm very grateful to all of you for sharing your experiences about this.
The truth is, there's really no one in my r/l I'd feel comfortable talking about this sort of thing with. I can't ask my doctor about it and it's not the sort of thing that just comes up in conversation, so I'm really glad to have y'all to talk to.  |
Spankynyc
New member
Username: Spankynyc
Post Number: 40
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 02:48 am: |
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Well tell him to use his tongue exclusively. Just let him work his tongue in and out deep inside for several minutes. His fingers should be no where around your bottom. And then he can put some nice tasting cherry/strawberry lubricant on his tongue and work it continously deep inside your anal hole. When his tongue is quietly going in and out of your anal hole you may want to use a lite vibrator for the front. This will get the juices flowing all over you. When it is time to saddle up tell him to use his pinky finger on your anal hole and then pull out and replace it with his tongue. Everytime he introduce you to a new finger he has to make sure when he removes his finger that he must have a lot of lubricant on his tongue and to keep gong in and out with long thrusts of his tongue in side your orifice. Before he strap on that condom and move ever slowly into your bottom you are going to wondering why did not do that sooner.(smile) |
Spankynyc
New member
Username: Spankynyc
Post Number: 41
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 06, 2007 - 02:57 am: |
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I would like to try being with a woman who uses a strap-on after giving me a good spanking. I would love to try this forbidden fantasy of mine.
(Message edited by bethie on February 06, 2007) |
Ladygator2904
Advanced Spanko
Username: Ladygator2904
Post Number: 306
Registered: 03-2006
| | Posted on Monday, February 12, 2007 - 08:04 pm: |
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Ok, I am old and crazy enough to mention hemmorids.. lol dont know how to spell it. Most women who have children can experience them and not even know it. They do get in the way of anal play... however, if you go slow, real slow you can get past the pain, in fact experience no pain. Try this, with plenty of lube, have him insert just the tip of his penis. then as he caresses you, a little deeper he goes, you can guide him through speech as to when to stop for a second or two, and then once he gets in hmm.. maybe half way you will say.... DEEPER!!!!!!! no pain just pleasure  blush....
A woman`s heart may be filled with an ocean of secrets but mine have all been released and I have a sore bottom to prove it!
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Highwayman
New member
Username: Highwayman
Post Number: 33
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 04:12 pm: |
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Bethie,
If you have the same training kit as I, then you need something else between the medium and large plugs. The size difference is too great between these two (while the size diff between the small and medium one is negligible). The medium one is very easy to get used to, but the large is nearly impossible.
Alas, he was the Highwayman
The one who comes and goes
And only the Highway Woman
Keeps up with the likes of those...
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Aka
New member
Username: Aka
Post Number: 4
Registered: 03-2007
| | Posted on Saturday, March 10, 2007 - 12:25 pm: |
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My x and I had the same problem, but always when we took a few weeks off, she would complain of unbearable pain. When we did it regularly, it seem to go smooth, I have have heard that muscles take time to both loosen and tighten up again. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1314
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Monday, March 12, 2007 - 12:09 am: |
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Tongue? Ummm that's not going to happen and it's a mutual decision. Sorry, but it doesn't appeal to either of us for various reasons.
Ladygator, I thought of that, too, but that's not the problem. At least that's what my doctor told me during my yearly.  But good advice all the same!
Highwayman, thank you! I just thought that I was imagining the difference as being a bit of a jump. It was more like medium to JUMBO! 
Aka, it had been a regular part of our play so that's why I couldn't figure out what suddenly changed to make it a problem. Then after not trying it for awhile, and having heard that same thing about those muscles, I figured I better start at the beginning and try to "loosen up" again. Some days are better than others...and the same thing goes for lubes!  |
Highwayman
New member
Username: Highwayman
Post Number: 34
Registered: 05-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, March 14, 2007 - 11:47 am: |
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"...and the same thing goes for lubes!"
Glad you said that! It seems that the usual lube suspects don't quite work well in this area. Wet, Astroglide and the other water-soluble brands just don't have the consistancy needed. The silicone based ones don't quite do the job either.
By far, the BEST I found was good, old, doctor's office strength KY Jelly in the tube. No funky smell, water soluble, the right consistancy and the perfect slipperiness.
Alas, he was the Highwayman
The one who comes and goes
And only the Highway Woman
Keeps up with the likes of those...
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1337
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, March 18, 2007 - 05:06 pm: |
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Highwayman, I agree. I've decided KY is one of the best as well as the easiest to obtain. The sample the company sent with the kit was good and if I order from them agaiin I might get a bottle of that, but it's so much easier to get the KY. |
Bratattitude
Spanko
Username: Bratattitude
Post Number: 51
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Monday, March 19, 2007 - 08:42 am: |
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I have Wet and I have KY and I have some Astroglde but the best I found was some stuff called H2O I think. (Watch me be wrong) We were in Ft. Wayne and foud this great lil shop and they sugested this lube and it has been the best thing EVER.... |
Cherryred
New member
Username: Cherryred
Post Number: 1
Registered: 04-2007
| | Posted on Sunday, April 01, 2007 - 08:45 pm: |
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Try neosporin- deadens the area for easy entry, he becomes numb and goes forever.
Or an inexpensive no-fail lube- CornHuskers Hand Lotion- easy easy in |
Badgirl
Advanced Spanko
Username: Badgirl
Post Number: 175
Registered: 11-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, April 05, 2007 - 12:44 am: |
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Hmmm, a word of caution here. And no offence intended (seems to be a necessary disclaimer theses days -- boy did I miss an interesting week!).
Anything that numbs you is a little dangerous. Pain is your body's way of letting you know that you are at, or surpassing, some natural limit. I think numbing your anal region would lend to increased risk of tears -- and that would put an end to all backplay (teehee) for a while. |
Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1400
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Wednesday, April 25, 2007 - 02:42 am: |
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Thanks for the input! I have to agree with Badgirl about being cautious with anyhing that deadens you. In this case, pain really is nature's way of warning us to back off. |
Thongsotk
New member
Username: Thongsotk
Post Number: 1
Registered: 09-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, May 03, 2007 - 08:21 am: |
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Bethie - I have run into this a few times and it always is one of 2 things - either a too aggressive approach to getting something inserted..meaning the anal rings muscle does not have adequate time to relax OR there is some irritation inside for a variety of reasons.
If a well lubed finger hurts than skip it for that day....every butt needs a good rest once in a while.
If it feels OK...than go with a gradual build up...one finger, two, threee, a small vibrator, a graduated set of plugs, etc. Also, try wearing a plug for an extended period of time...out and around. It is very erotic and helps train the anus. You may want to wear a thong to help hold it in .
Enjoy! |
Shylah
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Shylah
Post Number: 1813
Registered: 10-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 - 11:17 am: |
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Bethie...saw this and thought of you
Sorry...I just can't resist it...I'm such a baaaaaad girl
Hijack over!!!!!!
(someday she's gona shoot me)
Take my heart and soul. But please don't step on it, it breaks easily.
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Bethie
Moderator/Spanking Aficionado
Username: Bethie
Post Number: 1447
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, May 10, 2007 - 02:54 pm: |
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Awwww how sweet, you saw an ad for KY and thought of me! 
Lube; there's no such thing as too much! Even when it's on a big billboard on the side of the highway. Heh. (It's a joke billboard but I still like it.)
(Message edited by bethie on May 10, 2007) |
Monkeymomsc1
New member
Username: Monkeymomsc1
Post Number: 4
Registered: 05-2007
| | Posted on Sunday, May 27, 2007 - 11:07 am: |
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i got my first plug last friday. we have enjoyed anal play before with the same reaction you discribe. sometimes its the greatest. sometimes its horrible.i have noticed that anything that is bothering me will show up during this type of play. my Mr. is very slow and careful. We use AnalEase from one of the home party distributers. that helps a lot. it doesnt numb to the point of no sensation.
see if you can find a pattern to these painful times and steer clear of playing then. other thatn that have fun! |
Gentlemalekitty
Spanko
Username: Gentlemalekitty
Post Number: 19
Registered: 05-2009
| | Posted on Tuesday, June 09, 2009 - 09:48 pm: |
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So glad to hear member's experiences having a good time with anal play. Being a consumer of only professional S/M parlors, I cannot have this experience because they disallow it so as not to break the law. Dialation of the anal canal is quite pleasurable!} |
Gentlemalekitty
Spanko
Username: Gentlemalekitty
Post Number: 22
Registered: 05-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, June 10, 2009 - 02:12 am: |
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You all inspired me to do a little exerimentation tonight. I went to the local adult boutique and purchased a nice trainer butt plug for a beginner along with some gel. I can feel how this tickles the prostate gland a bit and produced a nice pleasurable erection. Oh the things you learn on this site!} |
Vixie
New member
Username: Vixie
Post Number: 3
Registered: 07-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, July 25, 2009 - 11:45 pm: |
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Since I am new I am not sure if it is OK to post a comment on a thread that isn't seeing any current activity. If that's the case I'm sorry just let me know and bear with me while I learn my way around.
Now to the orignal question. I find that KY is fine for umm...let's say target practice. However when it's time to let loose the dog and go hunting we aren't getting anywhere without : Extra Virgin Olive Oil--and a whole lot of it!!! |
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